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The writer Zweig said: "The greatest happiness of a person is to discover his mission in this life in the middle of his life, in a creative prime." ”
Everyone's existence has a different meaning. If you can find yourself, then no matter how the surrounding environment changes, you can bravely move forward and will not be devastated by a little blow.
Time flies, we can't let it pass a little slower, life and old age and illness and death, everyone has to go through.
When the partner next to you suddenly leaves one day, your heart must be painful, and maybe you will feel that there will be no color in your future life.
Some elderly people, accustomed to pinning their hopes for the future on their partners, when the other party accidentally leaves their own present, in order to get rid of the fear and uneasiness in their hearts, they will make a lot of irrational behaviors.
As a result, it will only make your life worse and worse.
Aunt Chen in our same community, from the age of sixty, began to live alone, her old partner and children left this world because of cancer, she could not accept this painful blow, but also had to face.
The children suggested that she move in with them, but she refused, feeling that people were getting old and would eventually learn to rely on themselves.
Later, she slowly saw through it, lived to understand, no longer pinned the hope of life on others, but learned to please herself. Her experience has sounded the alarm bell for many elderly people, if one day, the old partner is gone, no matter how sad you are, there are a few stupid things that you must not do.
One: Don't give all your savings to your children, leave a way back for yourself
Many men do not know how to leave a way back for themselves, and when their children need help, they will even give up all their wealth to support, as if this is their obligation.
But in fact, from the moment children reach adulthood, they should bear their own lives.
As parents, we can help a little, do not help them there is no reason to morally kidnap, do not think that good for children, is to pay endlessly, people still have to be selfish after all, know how to live for themselves.
If your wife goes first, for the rest of your life, you should know how to plan for yourself.
Remember not to give all your savings to your children, although you have an inseparable blood relationship, but people's hearts are selfish, if you want to live the rest of your life smoothly and freely, you must know how to leave a way out for yourself.
Only when you have money on your body can you have the courage to face every day in the future, otherwise you will only suffer more from gains and losses.
Second: people's hearts are very complicated, marriage is very realistic, do not impulsively remarry
I like a sentence that Zhou Guoping said: "Only when the heart is rich and abundant can we calmly resist all the uneasiness and restlessness in the world." ”
When you can meet your own spiritual needs, you can better control the direction of life.
Some old people, when the other half leaves, can not face the current loneliness, they will quickly find a partner. But people's hearts are very complicated, marriage is very realistic, and impulsive remarriage is irresponsible to themselves.
You never know if the person you choose to live with casually with you can confide in with you, if it can be a kind of luck, if not, it is a norm.
Just like Su Daqiang in "All Is Well", after the death of his lover, there is no one to take care of him, and his children are also busy with work. He had only been in contact with the nanny for a while, and then he fell into it. No matter how much the children persuade them, they will not listen.
However, the nanny's motivation is not simple, but she feels that Su Daqiang has a house, and she does not really want to live a good life with him at all.
Both men and women are very important to find the right partner, and once married to the wrong person, life will be worse than being single.
Three: Don't give up on yourself, be positive and optimistic to face the future of life
Lu Yu wrote in "Chance Encounters": "We may all have been, or may be experiencing, the darkest moments of our lives, which is a long, dark, cold, and desperate tunnel. ”
Life cannot be smooth and smooth, everyone has to face the difficulties of different moments in life alone. But when you bravely walk through that long tunnel, you will see the light again, and you can feel the preciousness and beauty of life again.
In your old age, if your wife and children go first, no matter how sad you are at the moment, remember not to give up on yourself, but to face life positively.
People who are truly mature inside can quickly adjust their mindset and will not be bound by negative emotions. Even in the face of life and death, they can quickly stand up after falling.
When you look at everything that is happening in front of you with an optimistic mindset, you will not be self-pitying, but will try to make your life full and interesting.
Usually, you can eat with friends, or cultivate more hobbies and so on. When your days are full, you don't have as much time to think about it, and at that time, you will pick up the love of life.
We can't stop aging, but we can choose the way we age. If one day, you and your wife and children must have one person go first, then I hope that the person who stays behind can take the love of life of the departed person and redouble his heart and effort to complete the rest of his life.
Only in this way will he be at ease in the other world, and only in this way can he live up to the love and expectations he once had.
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