For both sentient men and women, marriage and love are always an unavoidable topic. We always choose a person with great expectations, but we are inevitably disappointed or even hurt. As a result, some people have resistance and doubts about marriage.
But if we think about it, what's wrong with marriage? It's just people who are wrong. It is precisely because of the wrong people that we have the wrong perception of marriage.
I watched a short play called "The Wife's Counteroffensive."
In fact, looking at the name, we should also be able to guess the ending, but guessing the ending does not mean that we can understand the process.
It's like marriage, like a person drinking cold and warm self-knowledge, not being in it, you will never experience that feeling.
The heroine of the play, Bai Yingying, is a housewife, and like many housewives, she blames herself for not being able to help her husband share her worries, so she tries her best to take care of all the housework in the family, and is called by her mother-in-law as a nanny.
It is worth mentioning that Bai Yingying is not a woman without the ability to work, she has her own academic qualifications and ability, and her family connections are superior to those of the man, she only stays at home because she is pregnant and waiting to give birth.
It is reasonable to say that a woman who is pregnant and does not go to work is originally to ensure the safety and health of herself and her children, then she should have a fuller rest and a more comfortable life at home, but Bai Yingying is contracting a family meal at home, kneeling on the ground to wipe the floor, going to the hospital for obstetric examination, going out to see a friend and mother-in-law will have opinions.
Here, the mother-in-law's concept we can not change, I want to talk about the reaction and thoughts of both husband and wife.
When a woman is pregnant, whether to work should be decided according to the physical condition and the nature of the work, if you are really not suitable for continuing to work, then it is also a very important and meaningful thing to raise a child, you should not take this as a leisure meal, feel inferior.
At this time, the husband should also have such a consciousness, more consciously defend his wife, and not let her suffer some unnecessary grievances. Instead of turning a blind eye to her hardships and grievances, he even had to do things that hurt her.
In "The Wife's Counterattack", Bai Yingying's husband has a lover, called Gu Fei'er, who is Bai Yingying's girlfriend. Suddenly, one day, Gu Fei'er said that she wanted a place that belonged only to the two of them. So the husband lied to his wife that the company had encountered difficulties and needed capital turnover, asked his wife for a sum of money, and bought a house for Gu Fei'er.
These plots do seem to be a bit cheesy, but when they are stacked together, I only feel three words: "Too fierce"!
Where is the fierceness?
First of all, the wife has no job because she is pregnant, and she not only has to do the job of a nanny at home, but also looks at the face of the mother-in-law, and the husband not only does not care about her supporting her, but also betrays their marriage.
But what about women? She was not pregnant with only her own child, she was pregnant with a child belonging to two people in her womb. However, everyone thinks that she has done nothing but burden men, even she herself.
If marriage is like that, isn't that too harsh for a woman?
Secondly, the wife is pregnant, but the husband buys a house for the lover, and the money is borrowed by the wife to find her friends. The man did not think that his family needed to run and that his children needed money to be born.
Women always put children first after having children, and men always seem to have their own feelings most important at any time. In order to please other women, he did not care not only about his wife, but also about his children. That's how this man treats marriage.
If that's what men are, isn't that too harsh for marriage?
More critically, such "cruelty" is not only a harm to a wife, but also subverts people's expectations and cognition of marriage.
I used to be very convinced that love is the most important thing in marriage, and I always felt that as long as two people love each other, no matter what kind of day it is, it is happy.
Now, I still believe in the importance of love, but I no longer think it is the most important. Women choose marriage, in fact, the most important thing should be to look at the other party's own conduct and attitude towards marriage.
Because love can change, but character and ideas are difficult to change.
If a man does not have good character and does not have the correct attitude and concept of marriage, then when one day, your feelings fade or change, he is likely to be like Bai Yingying's husband, to betray the marriage and harm the interests of the family.
But if the man himself is of good character and can look at the marriage correctly and reasonably, then even if you don't love and can't live on, he will first properly dispose of your relationship and then find his own happiness.
Words for sentient men and women.
Seriously, when I saw these experiences of Bai Yingying, I was very sad inside. Probably as a woman, also experienced the hardships of conceiving in October, I always feel that a wife is treated this way when she is pregnant, which is the biggest hurt and coldness in marriage.
Therefore, I really want to say a few heartfelt words to all gentlemen, your marriage is not for others to run, a warm and happy family first benefits from yourself, so don't treat being good to your wife as your own loss, don't do things that hurt your family and lover for a momentary passion, because such harm is irreparable.
When your wife loses her job and becomes bloated because she is pregnant and has a child, you have to think that she is not just for herself, she is taking on responsibilities that belong to the two of you, at this time, you should care more about her, appreciate her, and maintain her, rather than allowing your family to give her a look.
I'm sure there's no one who doesn't want a happy marriage, but you have to understand that a happy marriage is never achieved by the efforts of one person alone. When the wife is pregnant, it is the best time for a man to invest in happiness, this time you are good to the wife, the warmth of the wife, will be a lifetime. Similarly, if you hurt her at this time, it will be a lifetime.
Of course, as a woman, I also want to remind my fellow women that you have to believe that most men are good men, but you should not ignore that there will be so few people with flawed moral character. Therefore, when choosing marriage, you must open your eyes to see each other clearly, and do not be blinded by love.
In marriage, of course, there must be love, but the premise of love should be based on the basis that the other party is a person worthy of your love. Only those who are of good character, who are responsible, and who can treat marriage and family correctly, are worthy of your love.
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