How to let children build their own set of problem-solving skills

How to let children build a set of problem-solving skills on their own and the ability to cooperate with others. In order to establish this set of things, the first thing to learn is to let children learn to observe and understand the feelings of others.

Psychologists do a test that is very interesting, they take a lot of portraits, a lot of stick figures of people's expressions, and then go to the school to show all kinds of children, ask them: What do you see this person's expression? Some expressions are drawn very clearly, laughing, crying, some expressions are not so obvious, but in fact, there is a very clear tendency, to test the child, after the test found: there are many children can easily identify what is happy, unhappy, ecstatic, confident. But there are some children who can't recognize the expressions of these people, and the picture is a sad, sad person, but the child will say: he is fine, he is happy, he is laughing, and there are many such recognition deviations like this.

To understand the performance of these children, first by testing their cognition of other people's expressions, and then asking the teacher how these children are doing in school, and finally came up with a very concentrated result: those who can't recognize or can't accurately identify other people's expressions have a lot of interpersonal problems in school.

When we were young, we met a person who beat you and hurt you, he didn't matter, he didn't feel like he hurt you, he didn't think you hurt, he wasn't sensitive to your pain, this is the biggest problem. Why do we have so many children who have no feelings for other people's feelings? We should reflect on this matter, in fact, reflect on our education to understand.

Many of our parents have no reaction to their children's feelings, the child fell, the parents came over and said "no pain, no pain", "Get up, be brave, don't hurt!" "It's really possible for you to teach children to be brave in this way. The child fell down and wanted to cry, and when he saw that no one around him paid attention to him, he stood up, very brave, and his father was very proud and said: You see he is very brave. But there will be a price, and the price is likely to be: the child is demanding that everyone else do the same. He doesn't feel that others will hurt when they fall, he even hits others, he doesn't feel that others will hurt. So, after puberty, such a child will make you angry to death, the mother will be angry and cry in the kitchen, and the son will stand next to him and ask: What's wrong? He didn't even know that he had made his mother like this, because he couldn't feel the emotions of others. A person's inability to experience the emotions of others is the result of being trained from an early age.

Of course, we can teach the child what bravery is, but the question is: he fell, he fell, someone has to care about him, someone has to ask: Did he fall? Where does it hurt? Tell dad if he needs to go to the hospital? You need to make your child feel that someone cares about him so that he can learn to care for others. To learn to interact with others, you must be able to learn to recognize and appreciate the feelings of others.