Love, not without quarrels, but after quarrels there is no cold war.
Source: Cheng Yi (ID: djchengyi)
In feelings, the most grinding thing is not quarrels, but cold war.
Two people together, some small frictions in life are inevitable.
At this time, some couples do not pay attention to anyone and do not say a word to him.
Some take the initiative to admit their mistakes and ask for hugs and hugs.
Some say that the Cold War was the best time to witness feelings.
The boy who loves you is willing to go to the moon for you for nine days, and the boy who does not love you is indifferent to see you wash your face with tears.
Whether a boy loves you or not depends on his attitude towards you after the Cold War.
After watching a variety show, actor Zhang Xinyi mentioned that when she and Yuan Hong quarreled, even if the quarrel was fierce, Yuan Hong would not have a cold war with her.
He would not let Zhang Xinyi fall asleep with grievances and unpleasantness.
Netizens joked, such a man, please give me a dozen.
Indeed, the boy who loves you, I am afraid that you will be a little unhappy.
Even if you are still angry at the moment of the quarrel, you will still calm down and stabilize your emotions first.
Boys who don't love you will not worry about your mood.
You are not happy, where there is time to take care of your emotions.
Sometimes, I have to fight with you secretly.
He will feel that taking the initiative to find you after the Cold War means that he has lost and has no face at all.
When encountering problems, we do not want to solve them, but use silence to escape.
This kind of cold violence that kills people without blood is enough to make people mad and desperate.
Friends Keiko and boyfriend of 6 years finally propose to break up.
They were college classmates, and I had always envied their feelings.
Other people's graduation season means breaking up.
Keiko and her boyfriend, the relationship is more determined than before.
They overcome all kinds of difficulties, and the two finally live together in the same city.
During the day, they go to work separately.
At night, go home together.
They share each other's work and lives.
I always thought that Keiko and her boyfriend would go from school uniform to wedding dress.
However, just yesterday, Keiko wrote privately to me:
"It's great that I finally plucked up the courage to say goodbye to this 6-year relationship."
Ask the reason, it is nothing more than a small matter, the two people quarreled.
However, for a whole week, I have not seen any signs of my boyfriend reconciling with her.
Keiko said that her boyfriend is good at everything, that is, he has been dealing with it coldly after the quarrel.
Each time Keiko couldn't stand it and finally gave him steps.
Struggling for 6 years, she had enough.
I can imagine the kind of scene that plunges into a cold war at the first quarrel, suffocating and terrifying.
Two people live together, but each does their own thing.
The home is as cold as an ice cellar, and there is no warm feeling at all.
Even years of affection will be consumed in the Cold War in the long run.
They just twisted and hurt each other.
I don't know when it will be the end, and I don't know where the road ahead will go.
Keiko said she was still young.
At the thought of quarreling after marriage and cold war for ten days and half a month, she desperately wanted to break up.
Boys who quarrel and don't have a cold war really love you more than you think.
Zhang Zhilin said a passage that impressed me deeply——
"After every fight, I just think about:
If I lose Yuan Yongyi, my life will be meaningless.
Therefore, I would rather take the initiative to admit my mistake and reconcile after making a big fuss.
Even, many times I know I'm not wrong.
I cherish every day with her.
Man, there's nothing wrong with that.
I was most afraid of the loss after the Cold War, and I couldn't afford the consequences. ”
Yes, in a relationship, two people cold war, not only hurt each other, but also torture themselves.
As the days go by, feelings will lose their warmth in the Cold War.
In any relationship, there will be quarrels, and any relationship cannot withstand the Cold War.
Some people argue with you every day, but they don't blame you.
Some people, who don't even quarrel, have disappeared into the sea of people.
It turned out that the Cold War was more terrible than quarrels.
I've seen a street interview:
The reporter asked the girl, what is the most touching thing that your boyfriend has done to you? What makes you willing to suffer with him?
The girl replied that it was the boy's attitude after the quarrel.
Every time no matter whose fault it is, when the girl feels tired and wants to deal with it coldly, the boy takes the initiative to admit his mistake.
Once girls are in the Cold War, they will first isolate their boyfriends in life and emotionally block.
Every now and then, the boy would enthusiastically try to coax her to be happy and make her forgive him.
Instead of letting it go on like this, neither of us cares for each other.
The most impressive one, the girl because of the menstrual period, the temper is particularly grumpy, because of a little thing, began to have a cold war with her boyfriend.
Girls know it's their fault.
But in the cold war, she has always felt that whoever bows her head first will lose.
To her surprise, after washing her hair, her boyfriend snatched the towel she had wiped her hair and was responsible for blowing dry her hair.
Later, when she went back to her bedroom to get ready for bed, a cup of brown sugar ginger tea was placed at the head of the bed.
At that moment, she heard a "hiss" in her heart, and her heart that wanted to have a cold war with her boyfriend ran away without a trace.
The big sunny boy, who doesn't talk sweetly on his lips, has always given her 100% love in his own way.
The girl later understood:
The person who bowed his head first after the Cold War was not necessarily the wrong one, but it must be the one who cherished it more.
I am convinced of this.
A boy who really loves you, he is reluctant to have a cold war with you.
Because this will make him six gods and no master, very insecure, more is that he will worry about you.
If you love, don't hold your face.
The Cold War could only make love worse.
This kind of chronic suicide is a kind of cold violence with extremely cruel means, and it is a war without smoke.
The Cold War is a hidden killer in love, like a knife that kills people without blood, pushing love step by step to extinction.
And love, always.
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