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Open-minded and determined friends.
On the road of life, unsatisfactory things are often eight or nine, and can be the same as people. When a person is in trouble, it is inevitable to feel depressed and shrouded in pessimism.
At this time, if you can have a friend who is as optimistic and open-minded as a "little sun", perseverance and bravery, it is like a bright light in the endless night, illuminating yourself to go forward.
The Tang Dynasty poet Liu Yuxi, because his political views were not recognized, was repeatedly degraded, and the longest one was as long as twenty-three years. But he did not sink into resentment, nor did he give up on himself because of blame.
When Liu Yuxi was demoted to a state, the county order was even more difficult, and in half a year, he adjusted his house three times, and the house was reduced from three to one, and then to the bucket room where only one bed, one table and one chair could be placed, and Liu Yuxi, who was indignant, wrote the famous article "The Tomb of the Burrow" for thousands of years.
He exhorted himself that "the mountains are not high, but the immortals are named; the water is not deep, and the dragons are spirits." Si is the Burrow, but Wu Dexin. It paints an optimistic picture of "the burrow is not ugly".
Later, when he was reunited with his friend Bai Juyi in Yangzhou, Liu Yuxi even wrote a poem that read, "A thousand sails pass by the side of the sinking boat, and the head of the sick tree is wanmuchun", so that those who comfort him are encouraged by him.
On the road of life, we will always encounter all kinds of unfair things, such as being calculated by villains at work, being excluded by colleagues, being despised by leaders, and so on. In life, it is inevitable to encounter natural disasters and man-made disasters, in the face of these sudden blows, when we can't see and can't think, we need an open-minded and determined friend the most.
They have been interpreting "life is a small thing except for life and death" with actions, and those who can't kill themselves will eventually make themselves strong.
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A friend of great affection.
At the end of the year, I saw a blessing that many people were forwarding in the circle of friends: "May you be warm in three winters, may you not be cold in spring, may you have lights in the dark, umbrellas in the rain, and may you be accompanied by good people along the way." ”
What a heart-warming blessing, but such a wish is not something that everyone can achieve.
If there is no lover, our parents will leave us, and our loving friends are the warmest companions in this world.
The New Language of the World records one such story:
Xun Jubo traveled far away to visit his sick friend, just in time to encounter Hu Bing attacking the county town. Friends urged him to leave, but he flatly refused. Later, the county town was captured, and the whole city ran away. When Hu Bing saw Xun Jubo, he was surprised why he didn't run.
Xun Jubo said that his friend was ill and could not bear to abandon him, preferring to replace his friend's life with his own life.
Hearing this, Hu Bing was greatly moved, so he withdrew his army, and the entire county was saved.
Suffering sees the truth, how rare is such a friend.
In real life, there are always more icing on the cake, and fewer charcoal in the snow. To be able to meet a friend who is very affectionate and righteous is a great blessing in life.
Even if the whole world has abandoned you, but there is a friend, remembering your warmth and cold, worried about your safety, worried about your advance and retreat, maybe all he can give is verbal encouragement, just wordless companionship, but for a person who is deep in the valley of life, this is the source of motivation for counterattack.
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Like-minded friends.
As the old saying goes, "The Tao is different, it is not a conspiracy." ”
It can be seen how pleasant it is to meet a like-minded friend and feel sorry for each other.
Su Shi has a popular masterpiece "Remembering the Night Tour of Chengtian Temple", which depicts that on a bright night in the moon, he could not sleep, and did not want to miss this beautiful scenery, so he got up in his clothes and went straight to chengtian Temple to find his friend Zhang Huaimin. Coincidentally, Zhang Huaimin did not sleep, so the two of them walked and enjoyed the scenery and chatted freely on the night of the moon.
The ups and downs in the career, the worries about the family and the society, and the care and encouragement for each other are all cathartic and relieved on this moonlit night. The scenery is pleasant, the friendship is moving, so that thousands of years later, whenever we read it, we are moved.
Such a friend is a confidant who can be met but cannot be expected.
Just like Boya and Zi, like Zhuangzi and Keiko. After zi's death, Bo Ya broke the strings and broke the piano, and never drummed the piano again; after Keiko's death, Zhuangzi no longer debated, because no one could argue with him anymore.
In life, it is enough to have one or two confidants. In the vast world, we are no longer lonely walkers, nor will we doubt our own maverick behavior, but we are confidants, allowing us to see the best side of ourselves, the proudest side.
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Conclusion:
John Dorne wrote in For Whom the Death Knell Tolls: "No one is a self-contained, isolated island, and everyone is part of a vast continent."
This also means that on the road of life, only when we walk with people, we will not be lonely and wandering, and we will find a force that can be relied on.
Life's close friends make our original lonely life colorful, and also provide more possibilities for our lives.
Cherish those friends who have been invited into life, it is not easy to meet, and it is even more difficult to stay together.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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