Author | Cheng Yi & Kefu Source | Cheng Yi (ID: djchengyi)
Ending song: Zhao Peng - New Can't Love
I once saw such a sentence in "Oranges are not the only fruit":
"Whether a man loves you or not is not how good he is to you when he is in a good mood.
It's about how bad you are when he's in a bad mood. ”
Admittedly, no relationship is always harmonious and intimate.
We are all confronted with contradictions, disputes, and even countless misunderstandings.
But arguing doesn't mean not loving each other.
A boy loves you or not, and his attitude of solving problems after a quarrel is vividly reflected.
Other words
The way he coaxes you reveals how much he loves you.
During an evening rush hour waiting for the subway, two boys next to me were heard chatting.
One of the boys complained impatiently that he had another argument with his girlfriend.
His companion said lightly, just buy a gift and coax it.
Indeed, many boys coax their girlfriends in such a casual way.
Rather than substantively solving the problem.
I once saw such a private message.
Girls argue with their boyfriends, gamble and run away from home, and then walk aimlessly on the road alone.
Later, the boy drove to find her, carried her to the car without saying a word, and was silent all the way, without saying a word.
That day they came to the top of the mountain, and the boy said:
"Get out of the car and come out and look at the stars."
The girl is still aggrieved.
But the moment you see the stars, all the negative emotions disappear.
On the drive home, the boyfriend seriously reviewed the reasons for the quarrel and admitted his mistake.
Some people love you by buying gifts to perfunctory, while others are willing to drive you to see the stars.
She remembered that night the stars were beautiful, and the man standing beside her loved her very much.
Love is not a sea oath made by words, but a little happiness outlined by behavior.
I have seen such a topic on Zhihu before:
Does the girlfriend have to be coaxed when she is angry?
A girl replied this way:
"After the fight, I want my boyfriend to coax himself, not to be willful, but to confirm that he still loves me." 」
People who really love you, don't want you to be sad.
Just like the love letter written by a boy to a girl after a couple quarreled on the Internet, there is such a sentence:
"I'm not going to let you spend the night with emotions.
Your so-called self-regulation is slowly moving away from me, and I don't want you to do that. ”
This is undoubtedly the most gentle interpretation of love.
No matter how much a couple loves each other, there will be moments of conflict.
I once saw such a sentence in "Strawberry Life":
"I like rational people, but in front of people I like, I want to have the right to be spoiled."
Because love is heartache without reason and tolerance without preconditions.
How a man coaxes you, he loves you.
There is a line in the movie "The Temperature of Love":
"The degree of reunion after the lovers break up is 82%, but only 3% can go to the end."
The reason for breaking up again is still the same as the last time. ”
How the boy coaxes you after the fight can largely determine how far the relationship can go.
Wang Xiaobo's letter to his wife Li Yinhe reads:
"You cry when you get angry, and I'm stunned when I see you crying."
It's like a little kid who is stunned before he does something bad and isn't blamed.
So what's the matter you don't cry first, come and blame me first, okay? ”
Between the lines, full of sincerity and affection.
You see, a person who truly loves you will use all his tenderness to coax you to be happy and solve problems.
A guy is willing to coax you.
This love has the sweetness of resisting the chaos of the years and the strength to resist many tribulations.
Click [watch], the rest of your life is long, be sure to be with the person who is willing to coax you.
About the author: Cheng Yi & Kefu, Article Source: Cheng Yi (ID: djchengyi), the sound is warm, and the sound at night will glow. The new book "Not Living up to the past, not afraid of loneliness" is a hot seller, the answer you want, time will give you. Cheng Yi used his warm and healing voice and heartfelt words to spread positive energy to more than 30 million listeners across the network, and the program was broadcast more than 6 billion times. Weibo: @DJ Chengyi.