Is it necessary to continue the marriage of three views? After reading it, you will understand!

There are also many couples who do not have three views that do not feel that this matter is very troublesome.

They can face differences in concepts with mutual respect and common ground, and do not dislike each other or try to change each other because of different views, so that marriage can last.

And with the longer the years of companionship, each other's concepts will gradually merge in a subtle way.

But it is undeniable that there are also some couples with different views, both parties or at least one of them is particularly troubled, feel that life can not go on, even if it is not too frequent quarrels, will also be tormented by depression, disappointment, loneliness.

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To share a real case, there is a couple who have been married for ten years, they have a very good character, and they are very responsible for the family and the children, but the problem is that they just don't like each other.

Men work hard to make themselves business executives, but in the eyes of women, he still does not do business.

Women clean up the home, spotlessly clean, and also made a good dish, but men feel that family, is to be comfortable, what is the use of you cleaning up clean?

Once the wife was sick, the husband wanted to make something for the wife, so he stewed a pot of mutton soup for the wife, the wife completely broke out, I was sick and on fire, you actually gave me lamb stew!

Then the wife sent a circle of friends, after all, she still carried everything by herself!

This husband was even more angry at that time, I spent a lot of money to buy lamb, you are simply a white-eyed wolf, the couple has always felt that they are incompatible, but for the sake of the child is really to endure each other for many years, one is depressed, the other is out of a disease.

Later I gave them an idea, let them say thank you every time the other party did something for themselves, their reaction at that time was that this was also too embarrassing, the old husband and wife also said thank you, after so many years of husband and wife, is it necessary to say thank you?

I said no, I had to say, they said I couldn't say it, I said no, I had to say!

Although they were very resistant, but after going home, they still tried to say thank you for the first time, the other party directly confused for three seconds, and then replied with a particularly cute reply, you are not welcome.

Later, the two of them began to say thank you for the second time, thank you for the third time, and after many times, I asked them how they felt, and they said that they were shocked when they said it for the first time, and the second time they were a little embarrassed, and the third and fourth times they really began to thank each other from the heart. Now every big thing and small thing habitually say thank you to each other, even if the other party does things to make themselves dissatisfied, feel that the three views are not in line, but also very grateful to the other party's efforts and intentions to express gratitude.

After reading this case, what do you think?

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Want to have a good marriage, I once said, it is best to find the person who has the convergence of three views and complementary personalities, what is the three views of discord, you like to watch literary and art films, he likes to watch martial arts dramas, this is called three views of discord?

No, this is just different hobbies, but you like to watch literary and art films, he said what you pretend, he likes to watch martial arts dramas, you said fight and kill, there is no nutrition at all, purely a waste of time, what a thing, this is called three views of discord!

You keep to yourself, he said you don't pursue, you want to pursue a career, he said you don't live a down-to-earth life, you want to work hard again, have better living conditions, he said you are greedy and vain, think he is poor, these are the real sense of the three views of discord.

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The real disagreement of the three views is the inability to understand, respect, and tolerate each other's views!

The real three views are not compatible, you will feel that he is not a person of the world at all, not even quarrels on a channel, so I suggest that when you are in love, you must talk well, and there must be enough time, I think it will take a year or two to have time to recognize each other's three views, life outlook, values, world view, what is each other's view of the world, understanding of marriage, and what is the concept of money.

Because it is too tiring to live with a person who does not agree with the three views, a life is very long and short, and with people who are convergent on the three views, it is good to complete this life path.

Finally, what I want to talk to you about is why there are three views of discord in marriage?

In the end, it is because they are competing for control.

The woman thinks that she gets up early in the morning to wash and then drink water; while the man thinks to drink water first and then wash it.

On the surface, the two really argue about right and wrong, but behind the scenes, it is to prove: I am to you, I am stronger than you, you should listen to me.

But in fact, there is no right or wrong between the two, just from different angles and habits.

But what if you encounter a disagreement between the three views in your marriage?

In fact, both people should learn to respect, empathize and affirm each other.

Men want to conquer careers and women, and get women's appreciation and praise.

Women want to be noticed and recognized by men.

When two people have friction in life because of small things, you may wish to take a step back, look at the problem from each other's point of view, and then try to respect each other, praise each other, do not force the other party's views must be consistent with you, and slowly tolerate each other.

Only in this way will the so-called problem of the three views of marriage be gradually diluted in your life.

I am Zihao, a rational marriage advocate, who has been practicing emotional counseling for many years, has seen misfortune, and still hopes to help more people pursue happiness!

You can pay attention to Zihao's marital feelings and tell me the story he is facing!

Gathering and dispersing is always impermanent, and life is not harmed.

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