Boarding is not the only choice for children, and there is no good or bad point to uncover the harm behind boarding school

The education of children is always the top priority of the family. As parents with children, we all want our children to study hard in school, get good grades, get into good colleges, and have a good future, however, some parents are busy taking care of their children or sending them to boarding school because they think raising children alone may make them spoiled.

However, CCTV celebrity Bai Yansong admitted that he would not send his children to boarding school, even if it would be painful. He used to wonder why Bai Yansong said this, but once met his good friend Xiao Wang, he regrettably shared his daughter's story.

His best friend Xiao Wang's daughter, who is in first grade this year, runs a restaurant with her husband and wife. The restaurant was very busy during meal times and attracted a lot of people, so the couple couldn't take care of their children, and at other times of the day they had to buy food and prepare the menu.

Coupled with the fact that his daughter's grades were not very good, Mr. Wang and his wife felt that they had neglected to take care of their daughters, so they blamed themselves.

Therefore, Mr. and Mrs. Wang consider sending their children to a military boarding school, hoping that taking into account the current situation of the children and the work of the couple, under the strict supervision and management of the teachers, the children's grades will improve, and the school is advertised as having good food and accommodation conditions, and the children will not suffer inside. The daughter was a little reluctant, but Mr. and Mrs. Wang persuaded her to go to boarding school.

However, after a semester of boarding life, the couple went to pick up their daughter for a vacation and found that she was clearly estranged from them, and the daughter, who had previously greeted acquaintances politely, began to speak only dirty words, and her academic performance, far from improving, was worse.

Boarding is not the only option for children, revealing the hidden dangers of boarding schools, parents' intentions are good, but in the end their kindness does not achieve the desired effect, with stricter control and better living conditions, children should get better and better, but what is going on?

The truth is that boarding schools are attractive on the surface, but few people know their dangers.

Hazard 1: Lack of communication, increased sense of alienation

Usually, when a child is in boarding school, parents will communicate with them at the time of pick-up and ask what happened at school today. Parents are able to grasp their children's school life, children can confide in their troubles and secrets to their mothers or fathers, and communication is the key to maintaining the relationship between parents and children. Parents can get closer to their children, track their children's every move, and correct bad habits.

In boarding schools, parents can't supervise their children's every move, so if a child develops a bad habit, they probably don't know about it and can't correct it. If they are too far apart, parents and children may not have a common language and may not be able to talk about anything.

Hazard 2: Choosing boarding schools to help children develop independence can be counterproductive.

Many parents believe that boarding schools can help their children develop independence and problem-solving skills to live independent lives.

However, it is not always necessary to send children to boarding school to cultivate their independence. With the right approach, children can take care of themselves and become self-reliant at home.

In addition, if the child is suddenly thrown into the boarding school without an independent foundation, the problems and difficulties faced by the parents in adapting to the rhythm of living alone will not only hinder the child's early development, but may even cause damage to the child's physical and mental health, therefore, the choice of boarding school should not be decided by the parents, but should take into account the child's actual situation, his/her degree of independence and his/her personality characteristics.

With this in mind, some parents may wonder which children are not suitable for boarding schools, children with poor self-control: boarding schools have strict controls, but not 24 hours a day. Choosing a boarding school means leaving the one-on-one supervision of parents and entering a more unknown environment, where boarding schools require students to have strong self-control, self-discipline, self-management, self-learning, and higher achievements to avoid temptation and focus on learning.

Children who do not develop life skills: In boarding schools, despite the help of teachers, children are on their own most of the time, and if a child who has not developed the most basic life skills at home is suddenly asked to do these things on their own, they will have a hard time learning and will have to spend more energy to take care of themselves.

In boarding schools, children enter the small society of school alone, without the supervision of their parents. Introverted children may find it difficult to make friends when they start school, and at home, even if there are no friends to communicate, they can communicate with their parents, but this is not the case in boarding schools, without friends and parents, children have no way to say what they want to say, only to hold it in their hearts, which may have a long-term impact on their mental state. This can have long-term effects on their mental health.

Boarding schools are not really good or bad. However, there are many parents who want their children to go to boarding schools because they feel they cannot take care of their children, of course, if your child meets the requirements of a boarding school, then boarding school is a good choice, so parents should think carefully before making a decision so that they can be responsible for themselves and their children.