We know that there are many boarding schools now, and their emergence solves the problem that many parents are busy at work and do not have time to take care of their children.
However, when Bai Yansong talked about letting his children go to boarding schools, he said that he would never let his children go to boarding schools, because living in schools was too harmful to children.
Does boarding school really hurt children? I remember an educator who said, "The best boarding schools can't replace parents."
Parents are also the most important factor in the growth process of children, without the participation of parents, the growth of children is likely to be biased.
Xiao Bei is a neighbor of his former hometown, and when he was a child, because his family was busy, Xiao Bei's parents sent Xiao Bei to a boarding school in the county.
At that time, Xiao Bei was actually reluctant to go to boarding school, because here, he would not see his parents for a long time, and he would have a worse mood in his heart.
However, Xiao Bei's parents still insisted on sending Xiao Bei in. So, why did Xiao Bei's parents have to send Xiao Bei to boarding school despite Xiao Bei's resistance?
Parents send their children to boarding schools, the more typical reasons are mainly these, see my right?
Parents are busy at work and unable to take care of their children
The fundamental reason why Xiao Bei's parents sent Xiao Bei to boarding school is actually because they are usually busy at work, and when the children go to and from school, they do not have time to pick up and drop off their children.
Because their working hours and Xiao Bei's school hours are in conflict, and many times they are not able to go home on time, and they cannot let Xiao Bei eat on time. If Xiaobei had gone to boarding school, then none of these problems would have existed.
In fact, the reason why Xiao Bei's parents did this is to let Xiao Bei go to and from school normally, eat and sleep normally, and let Xiao Bei have a normal rhythm of life.
Now many parents are actually sending their children to boarding schools for this reason, after all, the pace of people's lives has accelerated, and the market economy has also made many people more desperate to work and make money, and parents have no choice but to send their children to boarding schools.
Parents believe that boarding schools can better exercise their children
In addition, Xiao Bei's parents also have an idea, that is, to let Xiao Bei grow better. If Xiaobei does not go to boarding school, then he will be at home after school, and he will not have time to educate his children, which may have an impact on his children's studies.
After going to boarding school, there are culture teachers in class, life teachers who eat and sleep, teachers who have habits to cultivate discipline, etc., and children will be more comprehensive and thoughtfully trained.
In contrast, it seems that children who go to boarding school can grow better, and children's self-care ability and independent thinking can also be better developed.
Many parents, like Xiaobei's parents, feel that boarding schools are "paramilitary" management, which is definitely beneficial and harmless to their children.
Parents want to "worry free"
Of course, in addition to the parents who are busy at work and let their children go to boarding school for the good of their children, there are also some parents who feel that their children are noisy and want to have a leisure time because of their own selfish desires, so they completely entrust the matter of educating their children to the school, and they are free at home and happy to be idle.
This kind of parent has an irresponsible fluke mentality, and if parents have this kind of thinking, they must self-reflect.
Because after Xiao Bei went to boarding school, the performance he made was quite different from the ideal of Xiao Bei's parents. In fact, this is the disadvantage of going to boarding school, Xiao Bei shows it.
Sending your child to boarding school too early has an impact on your child that you can't imagine
The state presented by Xiao Bei is actually not the ideal state of Xiao Bei's parents, and even has a completely different contrast.
First, the parent-child relationship between the child and the parent is seriously damaged.
After Xiao Bei arrived at the boarding school, at first his thoughts about his parents were still relatively heavy, but over time, Xiao Bei slowly got used to the days without his parents around, so that the feelings for his parents in his heart became weaker.
When Xiao Bei's parents came to pick up Xiao Bei during the holidays, Xiao Bei no longer had the excitement he had before, and some were just indifferent.
In the face of Xiao Bei's appearance, Xiao Bei's parents feel very confused, they have always believed that the parent-child relationship should not be diluted by the short residential behavior, but this is the truth.
After being forced to leave the parents, the child first has a kind of miss for the parents, then there will be a kind of resentment for the parents, and finally because his various feelings for the parents cannot be released to the parents in person, he finally gives up his feelings for the parents.
Secondly, the child's growth problems cannot be solved in a timely manner.
During the period when the child lives in school, there will still be various growth problems, such as the child's concept establishment problem, character cultivation problems and so on.
If the child is at home, parents can find the child's growth problems in time through parent-child communication and help the child solve them.
However, during the period when the child lives in school, parents cannot find the child's problem in time, and the life teacher is a pair of dozens, or even hundreds of students, it is impossible to find the growth problems of a child in time, which leads to the child's growth problems can not be solved in time.
If the child's growth problems are not solved in time, then the child may have some wrong concepts, extreme personalities, etc., which is completely unfavorable to the child's growth.
In the end, the child may be hurt, and this kind of harm will be difficult to heal for a lifetime.
School is a small society, in this society, there are naturally many uncertain factors, such as school violence. Although there are life teachers and discipline teachers in schools, it is difficult for ordinary teachers to manage complicated student relations thoughtfully, so violence in boarding schools is also relatively common.
During the period when the child lives in school, he may become the object of violence, resulting in the child's physical and mental harm, and this injury may be difficult to heal for a lifetime.
epilogue
As the saying goes, "Every family has a difficult scripture to read", although every family has a reason to send their children to boarding schools, but many problems cannot be solved by sending their children to boarding schools.
Parents accompany the growth of children, that is, just a dozen years, the lack of family education, the child's growth will be seriously affected, the child's childhood will also have shortcomings, as a parent should try to let the child in these ten years do not leave regrets.
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