If you don't talk or do things, you won't be scolded, but can you not say it, can you not do it? To do it! It's okay to be scolded, don't worry, the final result is for time to judge.
The most important thing is that you know where the social value of what you are doing is.
In the process of intergenerational transmission, the elderly should always do things for the young, for the next generation, and give the young people hope and fairness.
During this year's two sessions, Bai Yansong, who has been a member of the CPPCC National Committee for 10 years, said this sentence in an interview with reporters, which deeply impressed Zhongjiaojun.
As a famous mouth, Bai Yansong often publishes sharp comments on education, poking at the pain points -
When complaining that some graduate students did not read enough, he said, "Like graduating from high school, I went directly to graduate school, and I knew it when I chatted." Such a student can not find the job they want is deserved, with academic qualifications, no culture; there is knowledge, no wisdom, should not be reflected? ”
When he saw his child kicking the movie screen in the movie theater, Bai Yansong commented, "It looks like a bear child, but behind it is an irresponsible parent." ”
When some parents believe in "quantum fluctuation speed reading", 1 to 5 minutes can read 100,000 words of books, pay money to their children to report for training classes, he complained, "Parents who do not read, this is paying IQ tax." ”
When an old man swiped his card, his grandson "evaded the ticket", and his grandfather let the child re-swipe the card, he said, "This is the parent, this is the tutor, in the future, this child will grow up, will be a rule-abiding person." ”
How does such a sharp and authentic White Rock Pine educate its children? What pain points in family education has he raised on various occasions? Check it out!
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I never thought about cultivating "Gu Ailing"
Everyone saw that Gu Ailing's mother let her sleep for 10 hours, and the daily schedule was calculated by the minute. Not all parents have so much money and time to do it.
But we should learn something worth learning from, such as loving sports, good time management, being friends with children...
I think the purpose of borrowing from these is not to cultivate "Gu Ailing", but to cultivate a better child.
I love sports, and my child naturally loves sports, not to make him a world champion, but to make his life good and have more fun and hobbies.
I think that the anxiety of many parents may come from "I want to cultivate Gu Ailing".
other! I never wanted to raise a Gu Ailing, I just wanted to cultivate how my own children can become better.
If you borrow directly, it is also quite funny, if your child is Lang Lang, the way you borrow Gu Ailing may be screwed!
The most important thing is to discover what your child is suitable for and how to make him love some things while helping him with good time management.
Fortunately, there are fair things in this world, and not all good things are made out of money.
Sometimes there is not so much money to raise very good children, and we also have to see the efforts made by ordinary parents like Xu Mengtao!
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The biggest problem in Chinese education is the re-improvement of parents
I never said "I'm doing this for your own good" to my kids because I knew it didn't work.
The most important point is that I treat him as a person and communicate as an equal, and I can also be wrong, and I will apologize to him if I am wrong.
I think the biggest problem in Chinese education now is not the school and society, but the re-improvement of parents.
Chinese parents have a considerable problem, physiologically you are naturally his parents, why do you naturally think that everything is his natural parents because of the physiological aspect.
Parents are a position that needs to be learned, and they have to be learned continuously.
I'm also grateful to my child for giving me the opportunity to keep learning to become a more competent parent, but I think the starting point is right, from the time he is four or five years old, you have to learn to treat him as an equal person.
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Sports teach children to lose with dignity and dignity
To sports people, the key is to nurture.
In 2012 I participated in the coverage of the London Olympics, whose slogan is Inspired Generation. Toward the end of the Olympic Games, a reporter asked the London Organising Committee, "How do you understand sports inspire a generation?" What has it inspired a generation? ”
The london Organising Committee replied, "First sport teaches children to win according to the rules, and then teaches children how to lose with dignity and dignity," these are two words that shook me. When have we ever taught our children to lose decently and with dignity?
May 13, 2012, is a day I will never forget.
It was Sunday night, and my son was 15 years old. It was a key match for his favorite team to rush to the championship. He told me he wanted to watch the livestream, and I never thought about it the next day when he had a class and couldn't watch the game in the early hours of the morning.
The team he likes is Manchester City, who last won the Premier League title in 1968. In 2012, after 44 years, the opportunity to win the championship finally appeared again.
The start went well, but was scored two goals in quick succession by the opponent and trailed 1-2. At more than 80 minutes, still 1:2 behind, my son was almost desperate and began to cry.
At 91 minutes and 13 seconds, City equalised, but my son was still crying because he still couldn't see hope.
Later, Aguero scored a magical goal, a miraculous reversal happened, and Manchester City won another Premier League title after 44 years.
My son was still crying at this time, but this time he was ecstatic, and we both rolled on the ground with our arms.
When he slowly calmed down, I said a word to him, son, don't cry when things happen in the future, it's too much delay.
In which class and in which textbook will this lesson be taught? Sports will make magic, the most important thing is not the magical results, but to help you believe, try not to give up, the harder you work, the luckier you get.
In the future, when he encounters many things in his life, he may think of the night of May 13, 2012.
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Don't limit your child with standard answers
A game in my childhood that once deeply affected me.
I remember one semester, my uncle, who was a math teacher, had been playing a game with me, and he gave me a geometry every day, and after he drew the first auxiliary line, he asked me to draw the second one.
Under normal circumstances, as long as a problem is drawn with a guide line, even if the solution is completed, you can get a full score, but in fact, there are several auxiliary lines that can solve the problem.
It wasn't until many years later, when I was praised for having a lot of different ideas, that I realized that it was my uncle's game that changed my thinking, that is, not to give my child a standard answer.
Our education always tells children that a standard answer is over, which makes children's curiosity stifled, so how can they become innovative talents when they grow up? Mathematics needs to have standard answers, but why do we have to use a framed answer for our poetry, compositions, films, music, art, etc.?
Once during the rehearsal of an event, I interviewed a "filial piety teenager" and asked him: "Your family's economic conditions are not good, but why do you two brothers and sisters have to learn to dance the national standard dance?" ”
He said: "One is that you can exercise the sense of rhythm, and the other is that you can earn money to supplement your family." How simple and true is such an answer!
But then I asked him again, and the answer became the standard answer instructed by the teacher- "Dancing makes us feel the beauty of art."
Let's stop restricting children to the so-called correct answers and giving them access to a closed box from then on. Children have a lot of imagination, a lot of curiosity, and we have to activate their curiosity.
We should respect the child's thinking, and in elementary school, we should let the child know that there is more than one answer to many things, even if you are wrong, you have found a new angle of thinking about the problem.
The excellence and creativity of the future may be in the first wrong answer that has changed perspectives.
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Reading can plant the seeds of flowering in life
I was thinking that if I hadn't been 18, poetry would have taught me what kind of words I should say; if it hadn't been for 18 years old, Sanmao had used her series of books on love to tell us where we were far away, and I felt that I couldn't resist hunger.
I feel that I am very grateful for reading, because reading planted so many seeds that could take root and blossom in my life when I was 18 years old, and made me who I am today. What's more, to make me today is not the one I grew tired of and hated when I was 18, which I think is too important.
I've always had a rule that the most important thing is for children to love books, not what books you make him read.
Quite a few of our children can develop the habit of reading, but they are interrupted by the parents who think you should read such books, and he does not like to read books from now on.
My son first started watching from Jin Yong, and suddenly one day in elementary school he was crazy to see Jin Yong, all of them were watched, I didn't stop at all, I would rather occasionally complete my homework, and I didn't stop it.
Interesting phenomena occurred from this, when he finished reading all of Jin Yong's, he began to be interested in many historical things in Jin Yong, and began to look for historical books such as the Qing Dynasty.
Many years have passed, and my son later plans to study history, so why wasn't this related to Jin Yong in the first place? And all these years he slept, basically around books, a habit he had developed.
It was all because there was no interruption in the books he loved to read at first.
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Life is not an arena, don't compete for the first
That year, after the results of the Beijing Secondary School Entrance Examination were announced, I soon knew that my son's score was "a high score."
I was relieved, not only because my son "did well in the test", but also because he "did not do too well". Before the middle school entrance examination, I had a joke with my child, "If you are admitted to the best high school in Beijing, I am in a hurry with you, and if you are the first in the examination, I will break off the father-son relationship with you." ”
I once sent a "life email" to my child, which emphasized "not to compete for the first".
"Life is not a competition, and you don't have to think of the collision line as the greatest glory." The person who has become the first may be fragile, and the taste above the crowd may be exhausted, and if there is a fall, the feeling may be sadness, so it will always move forward. The person standing in the first position is not necessarily the winner, every first is always a momentary scenery, but it is not a gamble on the smoothness of a lifetime. ”
"People who compete for the first place always have their eyes fixed on their opponents, and in order to get the first, maybe a lot of unkind means will come in handy." Perhaps, every battle, you win, but the night is quiet, one wound after another, will make yourself shocked. Why treat the first of the struggle as the trophy of life! Each of us is nothing more than a race against ourselves. ”
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Reasoning is useless, but teaching by example is the most useful
I think the biggest lesson right now is how to be a parent, and the biggest challenge of being a parent is that all education is first of all what you're doing.
The outside world usually has a misunderstanding of me, that is, as a "national face" that the people of the whole country are familiar with, I should not be a good father, "He is so busy, where is the time to accompany the child, and what influence the child?" ”
The highest state of education is "unspoken teaching", which is the dream that parents bring to their children.
For example, I like music, but I never force him to like music, he will still like music very much. As soon as he came home, his mother and I were always reading or exercising, and he ended up living in a bed like a library, and he loved sports, so teaching by example was the most important thing.
For example, I live on the top floor of my house and take the elevator home every night. After going up to the top floor, I would press down the "1st floor" and let the elevator go down. Because most people go home at night, it is so convenient for other people who come home and shorten the waiting time. Later, I found out that when I came home every night, my child naturally had this habit, and I never said "how do you do it" to my child.
Parents are a silent role, the so-called words and deeds, do you think that children of this age, you press here every day, and it is useful to talk to him about the big truth?
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Children's interests do not need to be deliberately cultivated
Very fortunately, when I was a child, my mother did not stop me from reading all kinds of books.
There was no suitable reading for us in that era, so I read books for adults, books for children, and even many strange books, and I also used my mother's two reading cards to borrow books everywhere, so I developed the habit of reading, and this habit has accompanied me to this day.
My kids like rock 'n' roll like me, I think it's good, maybe a lot of people will think it's not blind listening, what's the use? However, while listening to rock 'n' roll, he translated a lyric a day, and his English level rose rapidly.
I never deliberately cultivate children's interests, and even, I can say that they are almost "conniving". After allowing the child to watch the key game of his favorite team in the middle of the night, the child came home from school the next day and proudly told me: "No one in our class dares to do this." ”
I don't think "watching the ball is blind and useless", it is very important for the growth of children.
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It is better to choose a school than to choose a teacher, and choose a school close to home
Now there are many people who need to spend a long time every morning to get their children to school in order to get their children to a good elementary school.
My child's primary school is only 30 meters away from the community, and it is not a famous school. I chose elementary school with two ideas:
First, choosing a school is not as good as choosing a teacher, and "choosing a teacher" is the most important
Whether a child can grow up healthily, not tired of learning, whether he develops good habits, whether he is confident, the real key is what kind of a teacher you meet in the first place.
Along the way, the teachers you meet, in a way, determine your life.
Maybe I was lucky, although my grades fluctuated greatly when I went to school, I was among the best in good times, and I was left behind in Sun Shan when I was bad, and I was criticized by teachers along the way, but as long as there were achievements, I was always encouraged. Self-confidence has never been truly destroyed, but under the careful care of the teacher all the way, there is courage to move forward.
Second, the school must be closer to home
This allows the child to sleep a little longer and not to hate school because he wakes up too early.
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Regarding "Spelling Daddy", the only thing I can believe is that I have become better
We were the first news program hosts in China, like cacti in the long desert, treated as "green plants."
With the gradual normalization of the times, generation after generation in the "queue", the front of the 70s has 60, when the 90s into the workplace, the 80s have been working hard for a long time.
In this case, no matter how hard you try to add congestion, it is difficult, and only a few people can overtake in the corners. Everyone works hard, whether you are a post-70s, post-80s, or post-90s, just like squeezing the subway every morning, you only have a small space.
Sometimes others will say that today's society should "fight daddy", of course, there is this phenomenon in life, but it is useless to believe these, the only thing you can believe is to make yourself better, use your wisdom and creativity to overtake in curves.
The articles are synthesized from | Southern Metropolis Daily, Bai Yansong's speech "Education and More Comprehensive People" at the "GES 2018 Future Education Conference", CCTV News, China Women's Daily, NetEase TanxinSha, Bai Yansong's Philosophy of Life, Dialogue, Bai Say, China News Weekly, Tencent Education, etc
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