A child is a blank piece of paper, and what color you sketch on it, what kind of picture you will draw.
1. If evil causes are sown, they will bear evil consequences
Bai Yansong once asked in an interview how to pull young people who are accustomed to using mobile phones back to books, he said:
I think it is difficult for parents who play mahjong at home every day to teach their children to read. Parents in the process of a child's growth, at least to bear the responsibility of 51% of the holding. How many parents in life are in the process of their own progress? We are always complaining that children are not progressing enough, and then we say that the responsibility is a social problem, an educational problem.
Indeed, too many parents in our lives always complain that their children are not working hard and are not motivated, and forgetting themselves is an example for their children to follow.
Your every word and deed is infiltrating and influencing the child bit by bit and subtly.
If you don't learn no techniques, drunkenly dream of death, the child will not be eager to learn and strive to be upstream;
You are arrogant and aggressive, and the child will not be knowledgeable and understanding.
Behind every bear child, there is a bear parent.
Some time ago, at the Shanghai Disneyland, an eight-year-old boy touched the buttocks of a young woman (perhaps unintentionally). After all, the sensitive part was touched, and the young woman said a few words to the boy.
"When you touch it, you run into it, what are you shouting about?" The boy's mother did not appease the young woman, but spoke harshly to each other.
Then, the boy's mother picked up the hat and smashed it into the young woman's face, smashing it at the same time: "You look like this, who is rare to touch." ”
This mother's approach simply refreshed our cognition. Even if the child is wronged, he cannot indiscriminately beat and insult others.
While committing violence, she forgot that her son was still by her side. And all this is seen in the eyes of the child and remembered in the heart.
At the same time, the boy will realize that even if he makes a mistake, he does not have to mind, because he has his mother to support him and balance for him.
Later, under the "care" of his mother, he can be unscrupulous and do whatever he wants.
If you sow the seeds of goodness in the hearts of your children, they will surely blossom into the most beautiful and colorful flowers;
On the contrary, if you sow evil causes, you will bear evil consequences.
2, kneeling parents, can not teach children standing
The dark horse of last year's film market, "Young You" is not to be tolerated. As a literary and art film, the reputation is so good that it explodes, and the box office climbs all the way, which is not easy.
The film seems to express "school bullying", but if you think about it again, you will find that it also reflects the education of parents to their children. Sometimes, a parent's education affects a child's life.
Chen Nian's parents divorced, and in order to provide for her schooling, her mother went to work in other places and often left Chen Nian at home.
Chen Nian, who is about to bid farewell to the life of his senior year of high school in a month, is not accustomed to seeing his classmate Hu Xiaofei die due to school bullying, and is targeted by the school bully Wei Lai.
Since then, Chen Nian has fallen into the depths of the water and become the next target of Wei Lai's bullying. Being hit by a ball, tripping over and falling down stairs, dodging violence and getting into a dumpster... He was even blocked for cutting his hair and taking nude photos.
Even if Chen Nian didn't want her mother to know her predicament, her mother couldn't be unaware of it.
But the mother did not stand up to be the strong backing of her daughter, but only said on the phone: "Child, bear with it, after the college entrance examination, our life will be better." ”
How irresponsible that sounds.
To endure is to make the abuser more blind and invincible, and then to endure your daughter will become the second Hu Xiaofei.
Sure enough, Chen Nian lost his mind because of his deep resentment and accidentally killed Wei Lai, resulting in an irreparable tragedy.
If, when you find that the child's face is not right, communicate openly and honestly with the child; if you know that the child is being bullied, actively face it and call the police as soon as possible, it will not give the bully an opportunity, nor will the child be dark.
Unprincipled tolerance is not kindness, it is weakness.
When weak parents encounter problems, they are always humble and undignified, and it is difficult for the children they teach to stand up and be human.
Some parents stand tall, and their children will definitely excel.
3. Behind the excellent children, there are first-class parents
On the college entrance examination report card last year, a name named Wu Yishu once again attracted everyone's attention. Wu Yishu was admitted to Tsinghua University with a high score of 613 points.
As early as three years ago, Wu Yishu won the championship at the CCTV "Chinese Poetry Conference" and was named a "national talented woman".
Some people commented on her: her appearance is not under talent, but she is both superior to the world.
There is poetry and bookishness in the belly. For a time, giving birth to a daughter like Wu Yishu became the expectation of today's parents for their children.
Some people will say that such a good child must be born. In fact, when she was a child, Wu Yishu was very naughty, and even a little naughty, and once became a "poor student" in the eyes of the teacher.
Wanting to change their children, Wu Yishu's parents decided to change themselves first. Quit the chess and card of rehearsal time, and pick up the books of Bo Gu Tong Jin.
In order to improve the fun of learning, the family often plays the idiom solitaire game at home, and whoever loses will do housework.
Wu Yishu's father is a famous lawyer. However, no matter how busy he is at work, Papa Wu always has a law of not moving - he must turn off his mobile phone at 4:30 p.m.
Big things are not as important as accompanying children.
After several years of precipitation and accumulation, Wu Yishu finally transformed from an ugly duckling with a gray head and a dirty face to an arrogant white swan.
Education expert Yin Jianli wrote in the book "The Most Beautiful Education is the Simplest": "Only when adults have a sweet fragrance in their hearts can they form a pleasant influence on children. ”
Instead of letting your child become someone else's child, you should first learn how to be a parent of someone else's family.
There have never been children in this world, and some are just parents who struggle to lift their children behind their backs.
The bright and beautiful that you see is actually the brave and forward-looking Shaohua.
4, you look, is the child's future
Liu Guoliang, who has trained many world champions, is also quite successful in educating children.
Liu Guoliang's daughter is called Liu Yujie, nicknamed "Win Win", Liu Guoliang hopes that his daughter can become a winner in life.
And Liu Yujie also lived up to expectations, in July 2018, in the World Star Junior Golf Championship held in Las Vegas, USA, won the world championship.
When Liu Yujie first came into contact with golf when she was 3 years old, she became interested in this small ball with dents on the surface. Liu Guoliang did not let his daughter take over the mantle because of his achievements in table tennis, but chose to respect his daughter's hobbies.
Liu Guoliang knows that hobbies are the booster on the road to success, and any will imposed on his daughter can only become a stumbling block in the child's life.
No matter how busy the work is, Liu Guoliang always has to squeeze out time to accompany his daughter to practice. The daughter was bored with school, and it was Liu Guoliang who was by her side, silently encouraging her and enlightening her.
At the same time, Liu Guoliang's wife, who is also a table tennis player, is also going all out to cultivate Liu Yujie.
Liu Yujie often complained about her mother - when I was training, she always reminded me to pay attention to my shoulders, pay attention to this and pay attention to that...
It is through the years of hearing and seeing that Liu Yujie has had a dream since she was a child, that is, one day, to climb the championship podium that her father once climbed.
Hard work pays off. With countless persistence and efforts, coupled with the correct guidance of her parents, Liu Yujie finally succeeded in realizing her dream at the age of 7. This year, 9 years before Liu Guoliang became the world champion.
At the award ceremony, Liu Yujie delivered an acceptance speech in English - I want to thank my dad, who won the Olympic gold medal at the Olympic Games in the United States (Atlanta) in 1996. I have a dream to surpass him, and today I want to tell him that I won the world championship when I was only 7 years old."
It turns out that your excellent appearance has long been remembered by the child. And take you as a benchmark, be determined in your heart, not afraid of wind and rain, and strive to become another you as soon as possible.
The famous German philosopher Jaspers once said that the essence of education is that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul summons another soul.
The refraction of your life is your child;
How you are, how the child is;
What you are, the child is;
You are born to the sun, and the child does not follow the waves.
Every parent and child wants to get excellent results, but there is always a gap between anyone, what to do?
At the needs of the majority of parents, we recommend this set of skills set for the requirements of the college entrance examination - "Waiting for you in Peking University Tsinghua", this set of books has two books, namely "Waiting for you in Tsinghua" and "Waiting for you in Peking University", through this set of books, children can quickly find their own learning methods.
This set of books is the sharing of the real events of Tsinghua Peking University and other scholars, divided into three chapters, the struggle chapter of their struggle process, which tells how they went through the third year of high school, how to adjust their mentality, how to be admitted to Tsinghua Peking University's struggle story. The youth chapter is to let children know how to be grateful and learn to cherish. The skills section is a summary and suggestion of their learning skills and learning methods, and it is full of dry goods.
I. Struggle: Hundreds of experienced elite teachers and school bullies summarized the learning skills of each subject, so that children can find the motivation and confidence to struggle from learning.
Second, the youth chapter: shared the learning path of the provincial and municipal college entrance examinations, as well as the learning methods to quickly improve the performance of various disciplines, and made breakthroughs in the middle school entrance examination and the college entrance examination points.
Third, the skills: this article is a pure teaching skills, the common test points and difficulties of each discipline are analyzed very carefully, so that all knowledge points become simple and easy to remember and understand, and can quickly improve the learning performance of each subject.
This set of books are the students from the bottom of the heart to share, the books are their experience of the summary, some methodology can be used directly, whether you are anxious parents or high school sophomore confused students, or you will face the pressure of the third year of high school, you can find the right learning method and mentality adjustment method for you through this set of books. Both parents and children deserve serious study.
I always believe that sharpening knives does not mistakenly cut wood, smart children not only have to work hard, the method is more important than simple hard study, master the good method, with a good attitude, the improvement of grades can come naturally.
This set of "Waiting for You in Tsinghua Peking University" must be given to the child, and it may become a very important turning point in the child's life. In this book, there are not only the mental journey of counterattacking students, but also the sorting skills of wrong questions, and there are more unknown memory methods, mental adjustment and learning dry goods, which can be said to be the most energetic learning motivation to accompany you!
If there are parents and friends who have not yet passed the middle school entrance examination and the college entrance examination, they may wish to let the children take a look at the learning methods and experiences of the 100 Tsinghua Peking University at the end of the article, and there is always a learning method suitable for your children