"Dad is my role model in life, I have a dream to surpass him, I am now 7 years old and I did it!" The child who said this won the golf championship at the age of 7.
Her name was Liu Yujie, and the father she "defeated" was Liu Guoliang. When he heard his daughter's words, he applauded her happily.
Daughter Liu Yujie won the golf championship at an age that was 9 years earlier than her father Liu Guoliang won her first world championship!
So, she is perfectly qualified to say such a thing to the whole world.
Liu Guoliang
Liu Guoliang, born on January 10, 1976 in Henan Province, began to learn table tennis at the age of 6 and was selected for the national team in 1991. He is the first table tennis player to use the straight-flap and horizontal playing technique in official competitions and has achieved success, and is also the first "Grand Slam" winner in the history of Chinese men's table tennis to combine Olympic Games, World Championships and World Cup singles champions. He is currently the president of the Chinese Table Tennis Association and the chairman of the Council of the World Table Tennis Professional League. (From Baidu Encyclopedia)
Liu Guoliang's wife, Wang Jin, gave birth to twin baby girls in May 2010. Liu Guoliang named the boss Liu Yujie, the nickname Win Win, the second name is Liu Yutong, and the nickname is Yiyi.
Dislike absolutely can not be forced, no talent can never be cultivated.
Liu Guoliang once said a sentence: "Dislike absolutely can not be forced, without talent absolutely can not be cultivated." ”
His words, for the "second generation of champions", can be described as a reasonable quote. However, for ordinary parents, how should we understand this sentence?
(1) If you don't like it, you definitely can't force it
This sentence, I think, is suitable for all parents.
Love and interest are always the best internal driving force for us to do things. They can not only provide enough motivation for children, but also allow children to learn more with less, make continuous progress in happiness, and make achievements more easily.
If there is no love, forcing the child to learn, the process is definitely painful, and the result is not necessarily optimistic.
Buffett said: "The only thing parents should do for their children is to find their children's passions." Encourage him to go all out to pursue and play to the fullest. ”
Parents should focus more on how to guide their children to "love learning", rather than thinking about how to "force learning".
Because only when children love learning from the bottom of their hearts, parents are the most relaxed, children's learning efficiency is the highest, and the family atmosphere is the best.
Liu Guoliang's way of cultivating his two daughters is to teach according to their aptitudes.
Her sister Liu Yujie has been learning skating, soccer and swimming since she was a child, and has shown great talent and interest since she began learning to play golf at the age of 3. Thus embarked on a path of golf.
And the younger sister Liu Yutong began to like to play table tennis, but after practicing for a while, she was unwilling to continue practicing. In contrast, she prefers to sing and dance, and has more artistic cells.
In this regard, Liu Guoliang accepted it calmly.
Coincidentally, table tennis champion Deng Yaping also fully respected the child's interests.
Deng Yaping's son, Lin Hanming, is more Buddhist, table tennis did not play too famous, and fell in love with e-sports. Deng Yaping did not reject it one size fits all, but carefully considered it. She found that her son's game level could rank in the top eight in the city, inspected two top e-sports clubs in succession, and told her son that if he really liked it, she would send him to training: "E-sports champions are also champions!" ”
Deng Yaping respected Lin Hanming's ideas so much, but Lin Hanming reflected and weighed them.
In his view, playing ball is a hobby, and e-sports is only a means of decompression, and what he wants to take in his heart is still the road of learning. So, in the end, he still chose table tennis. Moreover, he also found a balance between the spirit of winning and the Buddhist system, and practiced harder.
In 2020, Lin Hanming won the men's singles championship at the Beijing Junior Table Tennis Championships.
If Deng Yaping had resolutely refused to let her son learn e-sports at that time, she might have pushed her son onto the road of e-sports and gone farther and farther.
It is precisely because Deng Yaping understands and respects the child, and the child feels enough security that he has the ability to self-reflect, seriously weigh and choose the development direction that is truly suitable for him.
Instead of devoting all your energy to rebelling against your parents' arrangements, blindly doing something.
(2) Without talent, it is absolutely impossible to cultivate.
This sentence, for us, we have to look at dialectically.
Children who are gifted in some aspects, of course, are more likely to achieve impressive results than in other aspects. There is no doubt about that.
However, most parents in the world are ordinary people, we do not have the genes of Olympic champions, and our children are mostly ordinary children.
Not every child has a gift to develop.
- This sentence is very poignant, but we have to accept it.
For example, when I wrote an article that day, I summarized the special classes I had taken with my children in the past few years, and in six or seven years, I provided a lot of opportunities for two children and tried many projects, but I did not find out in which aspect of the children had outstanding talents. Moreover, there is no thing that the child is particularly passionate about, and at most it is "like".
Sad or not?
If you don't discover your child's talent, why don't you cultivate it?
Children love a thing, but it is very slow to learn, there is no innate advantage, do not go to cultivate?
No!
For the general public, our goal in raising a child is not to be a "world champion" (this self-knowledge is still there), but just to make him a better version of himself.
Cultivating children's multiple interests and hobbies is to enrich children's lives. When there is a performance, you can show a small hand, and more importantly, when you encounter difficulties and are in a low mood in the future, you can use this to relieve yourself.
For example: playing the piano, singing, painting, are all good means of stress reduction.
One more hobby, then there is one more way for children to have fun.
A person who has no interests, whether adults or children, life is easy to be boring.
I didn't ask for her as a girlfriend, but as an athlete to manage.
It is easy to make children like a thing, but it is difficult to guide children to continue to be enthusiastic and make continuous progress.
Many children like piano, football, and painting, but once the initial freshness has passed, when faced with monotonous repetitive practice day after day, some children will feel hard, difficult, and even want to give up.
At this time, parents need to make trade-offs.
Is it the child who is afraid of difficulties, or is the child really losing interest?
If it's the former, then all we need to do is accompany, encourage and spur.
We must work hard to find the motivation and courage for our children to continue. Whenever a child overcomes himself, that kind of heartfelt sense of accomplishment is something we can't give. Every time there is such an experience, the child will have more confidence in himself. It's a positive virtuous circle.
If it's the latter, consider stopping.
The child has completely lost interest, coupled with the lack of outstanding talent, blindly insisting on it does not make much sense. There are many ways and means for children to learn to "persevere", and they do not have to compete with one thing. As long as not every one of them is abandoned halfway.
If you give up one, then every abandonment may bring a sense of inferiority to the child. After all, he couldn't do it before he had to give up. The more times, the child is prone to self-abandonment, thinking that he can't do anything well.
No matter who it is, even if you have a "talent" that is beyond ordinary people, if you want to succeed, you still need to pay 99% of the effort.
Liu Guoliang once said: "I did not ask for her (Liu Yujie) as a girlfriend, but as an athlete to manage." ”
Since Liu Yujie began to learn golf, Liu Guoliang has seized every opportunity to practice and play games with her daughter. He told his daughter that idols were not just for worship, but for learning and transcendence.
Golf practice is boring and hard, and it is often a day in the sun. But Liu Yujie has never cried bitterness, and when she does not play well, she does not shed tears like other children, but says: "What is the use of crying, just play the second shot!" ”
Dragons give birth to dragons and phoenixes.
It's not just about genes, it's about parents' role models.
Whether liu guoliang is an athlete or a coach, his decades of training, those words and deeds that work hard, are not afraid of difficulties, and work hard are infecting children.
From liu Guoliang's Weibo content, it can be seen that in the finals of the 2018 national junior golf championship, he scolded and cried his daughter twice in a row. (Note: The focus here is not on swearing, but on "strict" requirements, setting goals for the child that suits her.) ）
At the beginning of the game, Liu Yujie's first day of competition was in a very bad state of successive defeats, and Liu Guoliang was not satisfied and trained her to cry. The next day, the results slowly improved, still not meeting Liu Guoliang's expectations. Until the third day, the play was stable and won the championship.
Liu Guoliang was not particularly satisfied, and he hoped that his daughter would have better grades and have a longer-term goal.
Don't see Liu Guoliang scolding his daughter, and then go home and scold his own children. Don't be so one-sided.
You know, Liu Guoliang not only has strict requirements for his daughter, but he also understands and loves her especially. For example, usually, he would prepare lunch for his daughter and give her a massage...
Strict requirements on the practice field, back home is a "loving father".
With the flow of "love", children can grow up healthily.
I don't expect my child to be a leader in any field, but I can learn like these good parents. Learn what they do well, make yourself a better mom, bring a corrective education and impact to your children, and help them grow up physically and mentally.
I believe that every parent is looking forward to Jackie Chan, looking forward to the female chengfeng, at the end of the article for all parents to share a good book, don't miss it!
Take the words of the world-famous physicist Yang Zhenning:
If you want your child to learn mathematics well, the first step is to first understand the basic concepts of mathematics; secondly, the origin of its basic concepts, which requires parents to accompany their children to read more mathematical books and play some mathematical games in the process of tutoring their children's mathematical problems.
However, climbing the pinnacle of mathematics is not an easy task. Yang Zhenning, a world-famous physicist, said: "I also think mathematics is very boring, but when I saw Liu Xuanyu's math book, I was very surprised. Can you still learn math like this? ”
Yang Zhenning was the greatest physicist after Newton and Einstein. The math teacher he can recognize, Liu Xuanyu, can't be wrong.
Who is Liu Xuanyu?
Compared with mathematicians such as Hua Luogeng and Chen Jingrun, Liu Xuanyu is not well-known, because his energy is mainly in mathematics teaching and the preparation of primary and secondary school textbooks.
Liu Xuanyu wrote many mathematical books in his lifetime, the most famous of which are these three:
The first book is "Mr. Ma Talks About Mathematics", which mainly talks about how to use the graphical method to solve some of the four problems of arithmetic
The second book is "Mathematical Fun", which mainly talks about the mathematical problems encountered in daily life, we say that all things are mathematics, and learning mathematics through all things is the fastest.
The third book is The Garden of Mathematics, which is a bit more difficult, and it talks about the concepts of functions, continuums, induced functions, differentiation, integrals, and sums, as well as the basic principles of their operations. Although it is a little deep, the method of explanation is very good, and the sixth grade baby can still understand part of the content.
At the same time, take this book to the child, usually the child also tutors mathematics, sometimes feel that going to cram school is a bit boring. But when the child read this book, he found it very interesting, and he could also apply what he learned in the cram school.
I didn't feel tired after watching it for an hour! Parents: It's a rare good book!
For this set of classic mathematical science books compiled by Mr. Liu Xuanyu, parents also gave a high evaluation, parents said that "this series of books in general has a kind of follow-through temptation, from shallow to deep feeling, the language is particularly convincing"
It can be said that after reading this set of books, there is no need to worry about mathematics in elementary and junior high schools.
This set of classic mathematics series, the biggest benefit is to stimulate students' hidden enthusiasm and desire to learn, so that students love to learn mathematics, many parents said that "Mathematics Three Books" is a rare good book, can not be missed!