Don't bother with people who can't be blacked, my A Q healing method

There is a Wenyou sister, her son recently married, happy, found that the red envelope given by her sister is meager, which makes her very unhappy. Her sister has many children, and she has several grandchildren, and before she got married for the New Year, she did not pull red envelopes every time, adding up to almost ten thousand yuan. And she has a son, and her sister's living conditions are not bad, but she only gives a thousand yuan.

Why is it so unobtrusive? She was very depressed.

But that was her sister, and I guess she must have been embarrassed to turn her face and question her face, and she certainly couldn't be blacked out behind her back. Moreover, it is impossible not to come and go in the future.

That being the case, instead of leaving a message accusing her sister, as others have done, I advised her:

You are happier and kinder than she is, so bear her narrow-mindedness and selfishness. Who told us not to give up this affection?

In life, we will meet all kinds of people and do all kinds of unexpected things, which will make us angry and make us depressed. Some bad people, can black can quarrel can ignore, this is simple, directly black quarrel ignore, after some days will forget.

But there are still some people, even if you are angry and out of the blue, you really can't blackmail them(s), you can't argue with them, you can't even ignore them, and even when you meet again, you have to smile like a flower--the reasons and bitterness, you must clearly understand.

As the saying goes, a long illness becomes a doctor. And I have been angry for many years, and in the process of constantly summarizing and reflecting, I have experienced a set of A Q-style healing methods, which are very effective in healing myself.

Share it with you, and hopefully it will inspire you. Well, this is my unique martial art, except for my public name readers, it will never be passed on ha.

1, self-improvement: out of the entanglement of money

In the exchanges with relatives and friends, we often can't avoid the entanglement of money. Exchange gifts, borrow money to repay the money, you more and I less, on the surface everyone pretends to be indifferent, in fact, the psychology will inevitably calculate.

I thought, although she is richer than me, but her money is not all earned by her! If it wasn't the money she earned herself, she wouldn't have much fun spending. If she wants to subsidize her mother's family and wants to lend money to a friend or something, she will either stealthily or consult with others and need their consent.

And I'm more capable of earning than she is. All my money is earned by my talents and wisdom, and all of it is at my disposal. I will give money to anyone I want, and I will borrow money from anyone who I want. I don't need to consult with anyone, ask who agrees. Well, I just throw money in the water and listen to it, I can say it and write it out.

So I understand her better. Because she lacks the ability to earn money, she can only earn her own little salary, there is no room for illusions, so she has to tighten the money in her hands.

I can earn my own money, even if I don't earn much, I am always full of excitement and fantasy: What if one day I publish a blockbuster article and make a lot of money? I have such a bright future, he is so cramped and narrow, what else do I have to do with her?

2, high: get rid of emotional troubles

In life, there are often relatives and friends who make you angry, have nothing to do with money, and most of them are wrong language or behavior that disappoints you. At this time, the anger is actually that the emotions cannot be self-consistent, overestimating others: how can she say such hurtful words? How could she do such a thing?

I thought, who am I? I am a woman who reads a lot and has culture, I have read and written about history and life, I understand emotional humanity, so I am naturally more literate and literate than her.

And what about them? Reading less experience, so the realm is not high Pattern is too small level is too low, their hearts must be crowded and weak, their lives must be chicken feathers, so they will be so aggressive, will be so boring.

I put myself on a high place, and then I immediately let go, and naturally I stopped thinking about it—who was bothering with the mediocre.

3. Retreat: Test wisdom and acting skills

Often, it is not your relatives or friends who make you angry, but also people you really don't like. However, you still can't block people, because this is someone you can't afford to mess with and can't live without.

I thought, life is like a drama, all rely on acting skills. Since you are attacking strongly, let's pretend to retreat. I was my actor, and on the stage of this life, I played the role of "I". I'm so smart and capable, I can't believe I can't play this role. So, I hid my dissatisfaction deep in my heart, but on the surface the clouds were light and the wind was light, so that you could let down your guard and have the opportunity to dig a pit for you in the future when you were unconscious... Of course, whether this pit could be dug out in the end was two words, but it quickly resolved the depression at that time, and I was not angry.

4. Introspection: Calm down and face you

There is also a kind of person, although you are annoyed with him, this person has no merit, he has a relationship with the person you like, love House and Wu, you still can't block him.

For example, my ex-husband. Although I have long since broken off my love with him, he is the father of my favorite son, and for the sake of my son, not only can I not block him, but I also have to communicate from time to time.

But he continues to me off! Because of selfishness, because of finger-pointing at us, and so on.

I thought, you've lived with him, you've divorced him, who doesn't you know? The first time you were half dead by his selfishness, it was his cold and ruthless. But the second and third time, if you are still angry because of his selfishness, is it not your stupidity? I am a talented, intelligent and beautiful woman....How can I make him angry with me? Well, I'm going to him off! So, on the phone, my voice was beautiful and beautiful, not angry or anxious, calmly satirizing him, gently and firmly rejecting him - of course, whether he was angry or not I don't know, but I was very happy, so funny...

The above is the Q-style healing method that I have summarized and practiced for many years, with a distinct personal experience, which you can modify and improve according to your situation.

For example, if one day, I accidentally give you anger, and you can't blackmail me for various reasons. Then you may wish to think like this: you are married intact (originally I wanted to write about marital love, but many people pretend not to recognize love, I had to give up the word), everything has teammates, so of course you are happier than me, why bother with an unhappy divorced woman with me...

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