The arrival of love not only dispels loneliness, but also lights up a lamp for everyone's heart. With the company of a lover, there is comfort for the rest of your life.
Two people who really love each other often do not distinguish between each other. If you calculate everywhere and calculate too clearly, it will increase the gap and widen the distance between happiness and heart.
Attachment to a partner and access to care are the original intentions of many girls looking for love. And a person's dedication to you also explains his love for you.
In love, there is nothing wrong with taking it at the right time, because the person who has you in his heart will remain tolerant and generous. In order to please you, he is willing to be good to you.
But there is such a person in life, they are demanding, there is no bottom line. Sometimes even for their own selfish desires, they frequently pass on unreasonable pressure.
When feelings are filled with benefits and materials, the essence of marriage will quietly change. In the end, most of what awaits you is quarrels and contradictions.
Reader Liu Juan (pseudonym) wrote that she had lived a carefree and trouble-free life. But because she asked her husband for a suite to give to her brother, her living expenses dropped from 10,000 to 2,000 per month.
01. In the eyes of everyone, Liu Juan is a talented and perfect girl, she is not only outstanding and versatile, but also graduated from a prestigious university.
From the age of twenty, she did not lack suitors. A few years after graduating, she met Xiao Gang (pseudonym) at a party, and then she felt the love of the other party.
This boy is not only mentally and capable, but also has a very good family. In getting along, he always took Liu Juan to buy various accessories and clothes, and acted very generously.
For a moment, Liu Juan felt that she had met true love, and then quickly fell. Because the other party provides four or five thousand living expenses every month, she also slacks off at work.
02. After getting along for half a year, Liu Juan is very satisfied with her love. Because the relationship became more and more intimate, she also let go of her restraint and began to make some requests.
Due to her poor family situation, she tried to let Xiao Gang help take care of her brother. What she did not expect was that the other party had every request, and even the brother's phone bill and taxi money were all reimbursed by Xiao Gang.
Liu Juan became greedy, she raised her living expenses to 10,000 a month, and then quit her job. When talking about marriage, she even put forward a request for a dowry of 360,000 yuan.
Soon, Xiao Gang prepared 5 kinds of gold jewelry and brought 360,000 cash to the door to pick up relatives. The wedding took place as scheduled and was very grand.
03. However, after getting married, Liu Juan felt that she was not happy. Although the house she lives in is very large, her mother-in-law often lives in it, and she obviously feels that the other party looks down on her.
But she doesn't care much, most of the time, she goes shopping with friends, does beauty, and watches TV dramas at home and sleeps when she is bored.
Although Xiao Gang did not accompany himself much, he was still very generous. But suddenly one day, the other party accused: "At home, I can't even do housework, what do you do?" ”
The sudden accusation surprised Liu Juan, because she had not worked for a long time, she had lost her confidence and could only try to become more diligent.
04. After life was relatively calm, seeing that her brother had found a girlfriend, Liu Juan tried to get her husband to sponsor a car. Under the pleading, Xiao Gang took out 100,000 yuan.
But despite this, she still disliked the other party's stinginess, and even complained in front of her friends. After another two months, she began to worry about her brother's marriage room.
"Husband, you have two suites idle anyway, that set is small, give it to my brother as a marriage room, after all, it has no impact on you."
Xiao Gang was silent: "Since I met you, what else would you do besides ask for money?" At first, I liked you because your appearance and education could give my parents a face, but now it seems to be just a vase. ”
The sudden change of face of her lover surprised her very much. The next day, Xiao Gang changed her monthly living expenses from ten thousand to two thousand.
Liu Juan was very remorseful and helpless, and did not know how to face the life after that. Because according to her consumption method, two thousand yuan is definitely not enough.
Emotional analysis:
A love with a distorted view of marriage, it is difficult to harvest long-term happiness in the end. In this relationship, Xiao Gang and Liu Juan are both "taking what they need".
What Liu Juan can do is to make herself independent and self-disciplined. Only with more strength and capital can we exchange the attention of lovers and in-laws.
If you still be a "parasite" of marriage, or continue to choose to trade compromise and obedience for a comfortable life, you must be living a very humble and helpless life.
Of course, there is nothing wrong with having a need in the relationship, because the "complementarity" between lovers is also an effective way to close the distance and enhance the feelings.
However, people are self-aware, and if they are bent on taking, not knowing what to return, and even see the generosity of their lover as a reason to intensify, they will certainly be rejected.
The rest of your life is long and it is important to choose the right partner. Looking for a lover, you must polish your eyes, do not be blinded by material things and appearance; after marriage, you must respect each other and grow together.
Only by adhering to the correct concept of love and having more business skills will happiness come to you!