Now Chinese-style baby-rearing has become a hot topic of social discussion. It is said that raising children is more difficult, and it takes too much energy and manpower. Throughout the country, it is true that raising a baby is not a small problem in every family.
We often see a small child followed by mom, dad, grandparents, and four people, everywhere they go, it's like bringing a group of "bodyguards", mom is responsible for handing water, grandma is responsible for delivering snacks, and dad and grandpa are following behind to get clothes and toys.
This is the norm of Chinese-style baby belt, parents are always worried that a person with a baby can not keep up physically and mentally, but also afraid that they can not cope with it, so every time with a baby is the whole family together.
But looking at foreign countries, we often see the old foreigners with children in the video, and one person with a team of children can completely handle it, and life is particularly leisurely.
The same is with children, how can everyone's foreign mothers reach four people, and we can't even take care of one?
What are the reasons for tiredness with babies?
1. The way to bring the baby is not right
We now raise children, they are extremely pampered, from the time they came into this world, parents want to give the best, but also afraid that they will suffer any setbacks.
Therefore, raising children becomes a spoiled child, trying to give children the best living material environment, and also trying to meet the needs of children.
The child's status is always at the highest place, which makes the status of the child and the parent in the family reversed, as the parent has no center, the whole family revolves around the child. This way of taking the baby will make everyone feel more tired.
2. Lack of education for children
Chinese children are difficult to bring, not only because children are naughty and not easy to carry, but may be a problem with children's education methods.
The child goes out to ask for a hug, the parents are willing to hug all the way, the child wants to eat a Western food, eat a snack, the parents will hurry to buy. The days of clothes reaching out allow children to adapt to pampering, and parents forget what kind of education is the right route.
There is no teaching of children to be independent, no teaching of children to help others, knowing how to be grateful, only parents on the road to children's growth blindly, but children are too difficult to grow on their own.
Look at foreign mothers, they have always been open and inclusive in the way of education, independent growth mode, no matter how many children in the family, parents are always assistants, but also after the children become adults, completely let go, let them work hard.
The way and attitude of raising children determines whether the road to education is smooth and easy, and if you want to educate this road more calmly, parents may wish to do this:
1. Let go appropriately and teach children to be independent
Know that children grow up on their own after all. Only by going on your own can you fight your own sky. Parents should learn to let go of their children's hands, do not make a big deal, and encourage their children to complete everything independently.
Even if there will be difficulties and obstacles on this road, please tell the children that the road ahead is very long, don't be afraid of difficulties and obstacles, and bravely overcome difficulties to become a more independent and better self.
2. Accept that your child is frustrated
How to see the rainbow without experiencing wind and rain, how to see the sun of tomorrow without experiencing setbacks. Parents should no longer worry that their children will be frustrated, and do not bear to believe that they will fall, although your children will not take the wrong road.
But I can't learn how to fall and get up where I fall. Exercise children's frustration, let children face difficulties, solve difficulties, in order to get out of the current comfort zone and truly understand the meaning of hard work.
3. Please be kind to your child
Worry about the child not eating well, worry about them bumping and bumping, and worry about the child losing everything. We became nervous and depressed under such worries.
So taking a baby has become a particularly laborious thing. It is better to look at foreign mothers, in the care of children, try to relax your heart, as long as you ensure that the children's safe growth space can be, the rest will be left to the children to play freely.
Whether one person carries four babies or four people carry a baby, the essence is to look at the way of education. Find the right way of education, you will find that the baby is not so tired, and the child will find the most suitable model for their own growth.