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The Book of Verses says, "The Father gave birth to me, the mother bowed me, caressed me, nurtured me, took care of me, and went in and out of my belly." To repay the virtue, Hao Tian is reckless. ”
The kindness of parents is higher than the mountain and deeper than the sea.
All a child can give back to their parents is a drop of water.
Raising a grateful child is the greatest blessing for a family.
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If you don't know gratitude, no matter how good your child is, it will not be helpful
The greatest blessing of a family is not that the children who have been raised have a job, but that the children who have a job of being grateful.
Zhu Xi, the Great Confucian, once said: "The doting one is unknown, and the greedy one is insatiable." ”
How many families are parents who grit their teeth to shoulder the burden of life and support a greenhouse garden for their children that cannot be soaked by rain and wind.
And children are accustomed to unilateral acceptance and taking, feeling that everything can be easily obtained, so they do not know how to cherish.
The greatest sorrow of parents is to give everything but not to raise grateful children.
Those children, who spend a lot of their parents' money, only understand their own happiness, do not understand the bitterness of their parents, and are not willing to pay a penny for family affection, which can be regarded as completely conscienceless.
Lin Zexu once said: "If you have a bad heart, feng shui is useless; your parents are disrespectful and it is useless to worship God." ”
If a child does not know how to be grateful, even if it is excellent in other aspects, it will not be beneficial to the family or society.
Raising a grateful child is far better than raising thousands of excellent "white-eyed wolves".
Educating children to know how to be grateful is not a parent's desire for children to reciprocate.
In order to let the child know that he is enjoying the efforts of others, his life is happy because of the efforts of others.
If a person is grateful, he will feel that he is needed by his family and will suddenly have a strong sense of happiness.
On the contrary, if you always feel that others owe him, you will live with resentment.
Visionary parents know how to teach their children to be grateful.
As Bi Shumin said: "Parents in the world, if you love your children, you must let him start to love you and the people around you when you can." This is not the selfishness of adults, but the vision of thinking about the child's life. ”
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Affection doesn't need to be reciprocated, but it's worth being thankful for
Family affection is not one-sided love and care, but also should be repaid with a grateful heart. Children who know how to be grateful can always bring warmth and comfort to their parents.
As the old saying goes: a daughter is a sweet little cotton jacket for parents.
As the daughter of Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai, Qian Zhen will take care of people from an early age.
Yang Dai once wrote in the essay collection "The Two of Us": "When Ah Yan grows up, she will take care of me, like a sister; she will accompany me, like a sister; she will take care of me, like a mother." ”
Even if the work is busy, Qian Yu will always rush home, sew pajamas for the sleeping mother, and peel the sugar paper for the father who loves sugar.
Whenever Qian Zhongshu went on a business trip to other places, he never asked Yang Dai to take good care of his daughter.
He only told Ah Yan to take good care of his mother, and Qian Yu always agreed very responsibly.
Whenever her father took leave due to illness, Qian Yu ran to comfort her father: "Tille Tiller's ears, hurring and hair, our father can't be scared." ”
It is a good family education that makes Qian Yu know more about gratitude than children of the same age.
Children who know how to be grateful will care and love the people around them from the bottom of their hearts, and do their best to do what they can for their families.
At the age of ten, Qian Yi returned to the Qian family's old mansion for the first time.
At that time, the children of the Qian family, large and small, all gathered in the courtyard to play, only Qian Yu quietly stood by her grandfather's side and read a book.
The girl leaned against her grandfather's bed, tucking the quilt for him and turning the pages the next.
In the twilight of 1997, Qian Yu wrote a poem to pay tribute to her mother:
The cows don't eat grass and want to repay their mothers.
May the flowers be forgotten, so as to thank niangsheng.
At that time, Qian Yu was seriously ill and could no longer eat.
Not long after the poem was written, Qian Yu died.
What she left behind in the world was still gratitude to her parents.