A 37-year-old mother and stepmother, Qian Zhongshu's daughter touched everyone around her

Balzac once said: Maternal love is a simple, natural, fruitful, and inexhaustible thing in a woman's heart, like a major element of life. Qian Yu gave the most affectionate interpretation of this sentence with practical actions.

Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai's daughter, Qian Zhen, a professor of english at Beijing Normal University, entered the marriage hall for the second time in 1974. At the age of thirty-seven, she became a new mother and stepmother. In the face of the adult stepdaughter, she used the warm charm and great maternal brilliance of women to impress them one by one.

First taste of love fruit

Everything seems to have been predestined in the dark. At a moment of decision, the joy and sorrow of love come one after another. Or when Qian Yu and Wang Deyi decided to step into the Hall of the North Division, or when they decided to join the school's art team, or when they both decided to stay in the school as teachers.

They have a deep relationship, and they coincide in the face of life's key choices. Both are like-minded and talented. In the frequent exchanges and contacts in daily life, it is a long-term love affair. The two seemed to be looking for their own souls.

Wang Deyi was honest and enthusiastic. Once, on the way to accompany Qian Yang's second elder to get off the bus, he saw that some people had a lot of luggage with them, and they saw that people had limited mobility. He immediately went to help. When Qian Yang saw this scene, he silently praised in his heart: "Mo Cun and I saw that he was enthusiastic about serving others, and could not help but praise the good fashion of the new society, and at the same time comforted each other: Deyi (this is the number that Mr. Qian Zhongshu gave to his son-in-law, Mr. Yang always uses "Deyi" in his articles) and good and loyal, Ah Yuan is with him, we can rest assured."

Qian Yu is also a kind and enthusiastic person, such as she found that Weng Mou of the Department of Foreign Languages Library usually studied very diligently, and seized the time to audit the course as soon as she had time. Qian Yu was touched by Weng's hard work, so she took the initiative to become his teacher, imparting knowledge to him and grading homework. Finally, this aspiring young man was admitted to the graduate school of the University of Nationalities with the same academic strength.

Two people with similar talents and qualities, both inside and outside, can be described as Qinser and Ming. Among the students engaged in art were four generals known as "demons and ghosts". Wang Deyi was called "demon", and Qian Yu was called "strange". "Monster marriage", happy married life.

The feelings between them and those of Qian Yu's parents are very similar, both sides love each other, and life is very happy. The tragedy is also similar, the man can not escape the control of fate, abandoning his wife.

Wang Deyi was overwhelmed by the control of the age of fate and committed suicide.

After Wang Deyi's death, Qian Yu suffered great grief. This pain was rooted in Qian's body for nearly a decade, until she met her second husband, Yang Weicheng, in 1974.

Reorganize the family

Qian Wanwan did not expect to meet a new love because of his good qualities. From 1966 to 1976, Qian Yu helped an old lady Tang Yun who was ordered to sweep the streets, and Qian Yun was deeply touched by Tang Yun's behavior, so he introduced his son Yang Weicheng to Qian Yun.

In 1974, they got married. At that time, Yang Weicheng already had a son and a daughter, and his son was already eighteen years old. This marriage tends to be more flat and stable. It is no longer as hot but short as when young boys and girls are in love.

The happiest thing that made Qian Yu in this marriage was not that Yang Weicheng had given her a happy family again. It was her stepson and stepdaughter, giving her a chance to be a mother once in her life. At the age of thirty-seven, she was only a mother for the first time, and she was still a stepmother. But Qian Yu played the role of her mother quite well. I have to sigh that she is a good mother.

Stepmother love

Qian Yi naturally integrated into the new family, and her easy-going and hot pillow was loved by the two children. Qian Yao's stepson Yang Hongjian recalls his stepmother Qian Yao: I was 18 years old when my father married Qian Yao, and I had just gone to work in the factory. Yang Hongjian also said that he did not have negative emotions such as disgust or uneasiness, because Aunt Qian Was an easy-going person. I think the children think that Qian Yu's arrival is just that they have a strong friend. Who would not rejoice in this man-made character?

After Qian Yu entered the life of the Yang family in the West Stone Trough, she got along with them as a friend. She used her own huge personality charm to make the eldest son sincerely sigh: "Anyway, Dad should get married again, then Qian Zhen is at least a not bad choice." ”

As a professor of the English Department of Beijing Normal University, Qian Yu is also indispensable in the English education of her stepson and stepdaughter, and her stepson Yang Hongjian also said in this regard: For this I am always grateful to her. And Qian's remarkable personality has influenced the trajectory of the children's lives.

His stepson Yang Hongjian graduated from the Beijing Institute of Physical Education, holds a master's degree in physical education from New York University, and is now the business manager of the Beijing International Sports Exchange Center. I think Qian Yu's contribution to his education and existing achievements is indispensable.

Qian Yu is not good at housework, but no one asks her to be a housewife. Although Qian Yu is not as virtuous as a traditional housewife. But with their own open and inclusive mentality, they have greatly enriched the children's spiritual world.

Every Saturday when she should return to the West Stone Trough, the children are looking forward to it. The reason is that she often brings back some delicious things for them, in addition to cold noodles, good lamb, large lamb skewers, beef pies and other traditional snacks, she will also buy rare Western snacks for them. Because she had to buy something, she had to change buses several times along the way, often arriving home late. If it was winter, it was dark very early, and they had prepared dinner at home and were waiting for her.

After dinner, the family usually watches TV, and the children continue to chase TV dramas when they are idle. Qian Yu generally does not have much patience or is too busy himself. But to keep up with the kids, she usually subscribes to the newspaper to scan the general plot of the TV series in this way. Then when there is time to watch TV with the children. Can't help but leak the plot, at this time, the children have a lot of "opinions", thinking that she has destroyed the suspense

In "Our Yao", Yang Hongjian recalls their beautiful days with their stepmother. Especially every happy Saturday that keeps him and his sister looking forward to it. Although Qian Yu entered middle age, she grew up in Shuxiang Mendi. But there is no stubbornness at all. Instead, they can have a pleasant conversation with their children and entertain gossip. This should be related to her early Western-style education. She really is a wonderful person who combines Western openness with Chinese traditions. In that era, it was even more admirable.

Qian Yu did not have personal flesh and blood, but regarded Yang Weicheng's children as his own. Qian Zhen's principle of doing things and responding to Qian Qing's words: Ordinary people always like to talk about their illness, but Qian Zhen is not like that, she is always enthusiastic about others.

People say that the stepmother is more vicious than the devil, but in Qian Yao's place, it shows that the stepmother is kinder and braver than the angel. Although she is a stepmother, she is like a mother. Although she did not have two perfect marriages, everyone involved in her married life shone with her.

Ye Tan once said: Some people you have dealt with him all your life, and you don't know what is wrong with him, and some people see him as if you see him, and you see him as an eight or nine inseparable person, and Qian Yu belongs to the latter kind of person. Qian Yao, the frankness revealed by her body, the hot pillow that appeared, and the warmth that exuded the temperament of the literati and the huge maternal brilliance that shone out, not only touched everyone around her, but also touched generations of people.