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Wind and rain life, learn to hold an umbrella for yourself;
In a difficult situation, we must insist on planting flowers for ourselves.
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Source: One book original per night
Writer Rigo said:
Yang Dai let me see the "quality of the past", which is a kind of matte but not dull, low-key but not choked, mellow but not pungent quality.
It's like the Northern Lights: bright, tough, hardy, and sparkling at high latitudes of personality.
Throughout Yang Chen's life, it is full of ups and downs and twists and turns.
In the first half of his life, he experienced the plight of war and famine; in the second half of his life, he was full of the loneliness of life and death.
Life has dealt her a series of heavy blows, but she has always calmly fought back.
Her open-mindedness is inseparable from the books she has read, the people she has met, and the things she has carried.
The resume of those years constitutes the best scenery in her life.
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Books read
I know that someone has asked such a question: What is the meaning of reading?
The highest praise answer was:
When you start to think about this, you already have the meaning of reading.
Because, it is reading that teaches you to think.
Coincidentally, regarding reading, Mr. Yang Dai has also made such a thought, and the answer she left for posterity is:
"The meaning of reading is probably to use the feelings of life to read, and to use the income from reading to live."
Many times, we think that reading is dispensable, especially after work, it is even more difficult to turn over books every day.
But after a long time of not reading, the heart will become confused and empty.
Maybe you don't know it, but the books you have read, the stories you have read, and the thoughts you have drawn have been subtly transformed into your knowledge, cultivation and temperament bit by bit.
Moreover, it will influence and determine a person's attitude towards the world.
When Yang Dai was young, she had an experience of studying at the Qiming Girls' School.
Once, she found a thick book in her eldest sister's desk.
At that time, she only thought that the character stories in the book were interesting, so she read most of the books.
Years later, in her American teacher's classroom, she learned that the book she was reading was a Chinese translation of the Old Testament.
However, it was this book that enlightened her and began her life with books.
In the years to come, this thick book gave Yang Dai's faith support, allowing her to get self-sufficiency and self-healing through the difficulties of the years.
When she suffered unfair treatment, she found an inner peace through reading;
When she was sent to the countryside, she would quietly copy poems and hide them in her clothes, and when she had time, she would take them out and recite them silently;
After the death of her husband and daughter, she still maintained the habit of reading, and she left countless healing works for the world.
All her life, she always knew what she was going to do.
Even after experiencing countless changes in the world, Yang Dai still insisted on implementing the belief in reading all her life.
It is no wonder that some people who do not read are barren in their hearts, and as long as they experience a low, they will be like wheat in the wind, and they will fall down when they blow;
And those who are good at reading, their spiritual world is like a standing tree, and in a desperate situation, they can also blossom a simple flower.
Those seemingly useless reading experiences in those lives often determine the mindset and pattern of a person's life.
If we compare life to a practice, from the beginning to the end, every book we read is enriching the thickness of our own life.
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People who have met
Do you often ask yourself: Why do others always live happier than you?
In fact, it is not because of how bad life is, but because your heart is not wide enough.
Living in this world, we inevitably encounter many people and things every day.
Among them, bad people, bad things, the frequency of occurrence is not a minority.
If everyone is calculating, there is no peace in life; only by learning to be tolerant can everything go smoothly.
Yang Dai once said such a story in her essay "Accusation Conference".
In a large auditorium of hundreds of people, Yang Dai was suddenly falsely accused hysterically by a female student.
She accused Yang Dai of only talking about how to fall in love in class, spreading inappropriate thoughts and speeches, and endangering the mental health of students.
But the actual situation is that this female student is not a student in Yang Dai's class, and even Yang Dai has not seen her before.
After the meeting, someone quietly asked Yang Chen, "Did you really say that?" ”
Yang Dai only faintly replied with six words: "Do you think, will I?" ”
Yes, people who are familiar with Yang Dai understand too well that she can't say such a non-standard word at all.
Therefore, in the face of this sudden "accusation", Yang Dai was at first surprised and puzzled, and later suddenly said:
Those who know me know anyway; those who don't know, let them think as they please.
In life, grievances are inevitable.
Since then, there have been many incidents in which Yang Dai and his wife have been "wronged" by people.
After "Siege of the City" became popular, invitation letters and visitors from all over the world flocked to the city, but Yang Dai basically refused.
Both agreed that academic research was far more important than things like socializing.
But because of this, there have also been many voices slandering their "arrogance and arrogance and self-congratulation".
They may have been concerned about these evaluations, but later, they all laughed, did not think about it, and did not want to argue.
The tribulations and setbacks of life did not crush them, but made their hearts broader and broader.
In the days to come, this gain will be enough for them to resist the open guns and arrows of life, the gossip of the world.
There's a saying that goes something like this:
See things with joy, everything is born for me; see people with tolerance, and everyone comes for me.
The people who love you, give you experiences, the people who hurt you, teach you to grow;
The people who accompany you, let you cherish what you have, and the people who leave you let you learn to say goodbye;
People who are better than you make you see your own shortcomings, and people who hurt you make you more excellent.
It is they that make us see clearly the good and evil of human nature, the ugliness and beauty of life;
It is they who urge us to grow and mature, and let us understand that there is no debate, and the heavens and the earth are self-explanatory;
It is also these people who continue to appear in your life that invisibly expand your heart and build your life pattern.
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Carried things
There is a classic dialogue in Beauvoir's novel Man Is To Die:
Do you really love life?
Yes, I love life.
Have you never had pain?
There have been a few times. But suffering itself is life.
Yes, there is no one in this world who lives without suffering.
Everyone's life will have a bleak and dull day, or a low point of no one's attention.
However, Yang Dai's suffering time is extremely long, she was born in the early days of social change in the old and new, and the drastic changes in history have already made her suffer from upheaval and displacement.
During the darkest period of her life, she was sent to the remote countryside.
Not to mention the shortage of food and clothing, she also has to endure the bullying and insults of others.
She has witnessed the selfishness and sinisterness of human nature, but she has never been worried or afraid. And always be able to make fun in the pain, every day will clean up their own clean and tidy up before going out.
Looking back at that time, her answer was: "It can be read as a book, but it can be watched as a play." ”
However, fate did not treat her favorably.
On March 4, 1997, his daughter Qian Yu died of bone cancer.
On December 19, 1998, her husband Qian Zhongshu died.
This simple few lines record the separation of a family and the pain of an elderly person.
"The good things in the world are not firm, and the clouds are easy to scatter and the glass is brittle."
In the end, "The Two of Us" was left with only Yang Dai.
The blows of fate followed, but Yang Dai was always strong. Even if you live alone, you can live your life in an orderly manner.
During the first period of Qian Zhongshu's death, someone went to visit Yang Dai.
Yang Chen's lonely appearance made her feel pained and she couldn't stop crying.
At this time, the 88-year-old Yang Dai in turn comforted her and said:
You are four years younger than Qian, silly child, I have survived, you are still so sad?
You don't understand, if I walk in front of my daughter and Zhong Shu, do you think, can Qian Yu and Zhong Shu stand it?
So, this is not a bad thing, you think deeply, let me pick the burden of pain, isn't this a good thing?
Suffering can crush a person, but it cannot crush a tenacious heart.
In this life, although there are many storms and rains, from beginning to end, she is in turn comforting us:
In life with wind and rain, learn to hold an umbrella for yourself; in a difficult situation, you must insist on planting flowers for yourself.
Instead of complaining about the misfortunes of life, it is better to bravely pick up the burden of life, support your own pattern in the tribulations, and urge yourself to grow.
Tie Ning's "Long Street Short Dream" wrote:
If life were like a long street, I wouldn't want to miss every little sight on this street.
If life is just a short dream on the long street, I am willing to make this short dream full of life.
If you can do this, no matter how hard life is, no matter how difficult things you encounter, it is not worth the trip.
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We love Yang Dai, love her calm and elegant, love her attitude to life, and appreciate her vision pattern.
In the last years of her life, in the years of her solitude, she still calmly wrote:
We once longed so much for the waves of fate, and in the end we found that the most beautiful scenery of life is the calmness and calmness of the heart.
We have been so eager for outside recognition that in the end we know that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others.
At this point, whether it was grievances or sufferings, she was relieved.
The world is its own and has nothing to do with others.
In the final analysis, the pattern of life is exactly how many people you can tolerate and how many things you can carry.
In the long river of life, may we all meet people, meet bitter smiles, survive the storm, and finally reach the other shore.
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