When marrying a person, most people's vision of the future is often very beautiful.
I feel that in the future, I will be very happy, and I really hope that I and each other can live a lifetime.
Unfortunately, the imagination is beautiful, but the reality is often always cruel.
No matter how much you want to be with each other for a long time when you get married, walking and walking, the relationship between each other may not be maintained all the time, it will only be easy to fall apart, and there is no future.
Divorce, that is always a helpless move, but this is also a fact that many people have to face. Moreover, the current divorce rate, which is really high, is not a new thing to be separated from a person.
Many people will choose to divorce, the difference is that some people are divorced, still still very willing to love, to go into the next marriage, some people will directly not want to love anyone, and do not want to marry again.
A person who is unwilling to marry again after divorce, it is not that he does not want happiness, but he is a little disappointed in the marriage and looks more open.
Discover marriage, it turns out to be nothing more than that.
A friend next to her, she and her husband have been in love since college, both of them are good-looking, the family is very good, they are also quite capable, and they are a pair that everyone is very envious of.
When you graduate, when everyone chooses to break up, they just stand firmly by each other's side.
Later, they all had good jobs, with the help of both parents, they also had their own houses, and in the expectations of many people, they entered the marriage, which made many people envious for a while.
Everyone thinks that after marriage, they will be very happy, but after they really live under the same roof, they often quarrel over various trivial matters, and often feel as if they don't know each other.
In the end, they didn't even quarrel, no one bothered to take care of anyone, and the whole room was quiet, and they all felt very depressed.
They were only married for three short years, and unexpectedly, they all couldn't wait to choose divorce.
Most people who enter marriage, sooner or later, often find a truth, the original marriage is not the same as imagined, not sweet at all, just very plain, not so warm, often just a chicken feather, all kinds of trivial things.
After experiencing expectations to disappointments, experiencing a little disillusionment in love, marriage is just like a pool of stagnant water, the impression of marriage, many people, really will only become very bad.
I don't feel how different it is to be with different people, I just feel that marrying someone I like so much is just so embarrassing, so it will probably only be worse with other people.
Therefore, if marriage can only be like this, experienced once, there will be no need to experience a second time, do not want to repeat.
It seems better to feel a person.
In the old days, in people's minds, marriage was a must, everyone should be like this, if not married, it would become a joke in the eyes of others, it would seem very abnormal.
At that time, men needed to get married to continue the incense, and women needed to be attached to men and rely on men to support themselves.
However, the times are constantly evolving, and at this stage, people's concepts have already undergone earth-shaking changes.
Even if they are not young or single, too many people will not say anything, even if they do not get married, they still will not seem so different, more importantly, both men and women, often can be very independent, can support themselves on their own, independent survival.
When people's concepts are so open and friendly, when not married, a person can live a good life, and even say that they can live a very comfortable life, then marriage in the eyes of many people, really will not be so attractive.
Some people, even if they have not been married, will feel that a person is very good in their hearts, those who have been divorced, who have not got what they want in marriage, but who have lived a very painful life, will compare the state of one person with two people, and they will like a person more.
If you just live alone, you will not always be angry with yourself, you will not always be upset because of who is upset, you will not always suffer from gain and loss, you will not often think about whether the other party will be sorry for yourself, that feeling, it will really be good.
In addition, when a person is alone, he can also put more energy on himself, do what he likes, do what he wants to do, and make everything what he wants to be.
I have to say that in this era, people's sense of independence and ability to be alone have become stronger and stronger, and various entertainment projects have become more and more numerous, in this case, a person is really not a problem.
After divorce, many people will still indulge in love and long for marriage.
After divorce, many people will only see through the marriage, are not willing to love anyone so hard, and are not willing to marry again.
It took a long time to get rid of it, and I really didn't want to easily fall into it again, and once again make myself so unbearable.
For the rest of my life, I just want to spend all my thoughts on myself, and I only want to take good care of the people who are more important to me.
Don't ask for how complete it must look, in the eyes of others they seem to be very happy, all they want is to feel happy, they have not wronged themselves, they like themselves and life at the moment.
In fact, how to go after the divorce, everyone can choose.
I still want to get married again, I hope to meet a good person, I am confident that I will be very good in the future, then I will get married.
I really don't want to get married, I really don't have hope for marriage anymore, so forget it.
How to live, that is a lifetime, it does not matter whether it is the same as others, they like it.
Text/Tan Meng
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