As the old saying goes: it is difficult to become a boat by a single tree, it is difficult to become a forest by a single tree, and the flame is high when people collect firewood. Indeed, we are social animals after all, and no matter what age we are, we are inseparable from social interaction.
So normally speaking, each of us will have a social circle of our own to a greater or lesser extent. But there are also people who have no friends in life, and their affection is very weak.
Haruki Murakami said that no one likes to be lonely, but they just don't want to be disappointed. Therefore, if a person has no friends in life and the family affection is very weak, most of them are these 3 reasons.
1. Cold and thin by nature, very selfish
There are all kinds of people in this world, some people value feelings, some people leave lightly, and some people cherish interests.
There is a kind of person who is born with a very cold temperament, they do not value emotions so much, and they do not need feelings so much.
Because it is too cold and lacks empathy, you will feel less humane in them when you communicate with such people, and feel that you can't get into their psychology no matter what.
Such people usually do not have a deep attachment to their friends and relatives. Because such people can take the initiative to contact, there are very few people who are particularly concerned, and there are very few friends and relatives who can maintain long-term contact with them.
For this world, this kind of person is often a cold-eyed bystander, with an attitude of not caring about himself and hanging high. To put it bluntly, such people are very selfish, and they have neither the ability to love nor the patience to manage any feelings.
And at any time, such people are always most concerned about their own interests. This kind of person only wants to take advantage of others and is not willing to eat a little loss. Over time, there will be no one around who is willing to keep in touch with them.
2. See through human nature and don't want to make a scene
Zhang Ailing once said this:
People who are dressed up decently, who appear in decent places, see the same kind, are also seen, and this is socializing.
In fact, some people without friends have long seen through the essence of this problem.
In the social field, no matter how many wine and meat friends there are, it is only an indiscriminate number, and the booing and greeting between relatives is just a false feeling.
Mr. Lu Xun once he understands it thoroughly, he will become silent. I think so many people don't want to go out and socialize, nor do they have the ability to get along with people.
Rather, they have experienced too much, seen through the meanness and dirtiness in human nature, and have no interest in making a scene.
3. Withdrawn personality, do not like to communicate
It is said that character determines a person's destiny, and although this is not entirely true, it does have its truth. The poet Haizi has been very withdrawn since childhood, does not like to talk, does not like to make friends, and prefers to be with books.
In fact, in life, some of us have no friends, and the affection is very weak, and the reason is also the same. They are withdrawn and do not like to communicate. Such people are often very kind.
It is not that they really don't care about their relatives, but that they are not so good at expressing their feelings and do not like to easily reveal their feelings.
Mr. Lu Xun has a very good saying: the beasts of prey always go alone, and the cattle and sheep are in groups.
Such people don't have friends, and it's not really impossible to find someone willing to be their friend in real life. On the contrary, this kind of person has his own thoughts and pursuits, and usually lives very thoroughly, because they have long understood and understood what they want, and if there is no like-minded friend, this kind of person would rather choose to endure loneliness for a while and go on alone.
The philosopher Schopenhauer once said: The masses are suffering. Life is not easy, each of us is too busy to take care of ourselves, in order to survive has long been tired of running. So sometimes, the interaction between people really doesn't need to be too complicated. Sometimes there is no friend around, and the family affection is very weak, which is just a pleasant way to get along for some people.
Because if it is said that this kind of person is not cold by nature, and is very selfish, so that there is no friend around, and their relatives are relatively weak, then this kind of person may only experience a lot of impermanence and pain in life, and the reason why they give up family affection and friendship is just to live out what they want to be, or they just want to live the way they want.
In short, life is still our own, and in the end, only we can accompany us. A person has no friends in life, and the affection is very weak, maybe they have long understood these truths and let themselves adapt to such a life as soon as possible.