In 2022, a Taiwanese couple is arguing at home with their waists crossed, and around them, six pairs of small eyes are staring at them with great excitement.
They are Guo Shiwei and Xu Hongxun, who participated in the Taiwanese reality show "Who Will Have Dinner".
The couple had 6 children in 10 years, and in order to save money, their youngest son was born directly in the bathtub.
But even so, the couple still wants to regenerate, and Guo Shiwei is even more blunt: I am actually very happy.
Just as they were preparing to prepare for pregnancy again, Guo Shiwei's in-laws strongly expressed their opposition.
"A car can only sit seven people, if you regenerate, the car really can't sit down, and besides, how do you deal with the tuition fees when the children grow up?" Is it necessary to let children carry huge student loans as soon as they graduate from college? ”
After fruitless discussion with the in-laws, the couple turned their heads back to the bedroom.
Why does the couple have children all the time? What is their family's daily life like?
The post-80s couple, whose wife is named Guo Shiwei, is a 39-year-old from New Taipei City, Taiwan, who works as a paramedic in a hospital.
Husband Xu Hongxun, who is the same age as his wife, is a salesman at a Japanese real estate agency and controls the family's economic lifeline.
Going off the beaten path is the basic rule for the couple to raise 6 children.
Ruthless, calculating, double standard, is their implementation of the educational philosophy to the end.
Unlike most parents, "I gave birth to you, I will give you the best" philosophy, the parents uphold the concept of, "I gave birth to you, you must do your best to support yourself." ”
They can say I love you while thinking in their hearts about "how to make children pay".
The reason for upholding such a principle is ostensibly a disaster caused by economic constraints, but in fact, all this is the "plan" of her mother Guo Shiwei. Looking at the overall situation, everyone will find that Guo Shiwei's heart is really deeper than the sea. She's the real hidden big guy behind the scenes.
The eldest daughter, Xu Panxin, born in 2012, felt all this the most. Xu Panxin's personality is more boyish, and his dress is also more boyish. She has short, neat hair and is almost always alone.
Taking a taxi alone to buy groceries, taking my sister to school, coming home alone to clean up the housework, helping my mother mop the floor, cooking, and even going to the dental clinic to see the teeth are all by yourself.
On weekdays, her biggest hobby is playing the piano. The piano in the corner of the house was purchased for her by Guo Shiwei and her husband for months.
Some people questioned that the family's economic resources are mainly responsible for the father, a person raises 8 people, food and clothing are estimated to be a problem, how can there be extra spare money to buy a piano?
After all, the philosophy is different. Moreover, it is one thing to buy or not to be able to buy, and it is another thing to be willing to buy or not. Guo Shiwei and his wife are willing to pay this money.
For most people, it is impossible for the survival of chai rice oil and salt to coexist with the elegant life of playing the piano and dancing. But for guo Shiwei's family, this is not the case.
In Guo Shiwei's view, survival is actually to live a better life. That is within the scope of one's own ability, to integrate life into survival early, it is completely okay.
They can't afford to buy the piano at the moment, but that doesn't stop them from buying it for their children in a few months' time, with food, travel expenses.
To put it bluntly, the essential reason is not a question of whether it can be bought or not, but a question of whether you are willing to pay this heart for your children.
The second daughter, Xu Yueting, is completely different from the eldest sister, she was born in 2013, and she wears two cute pigtails on weekdays, keeps Qi bangs, has a lively and cheerful personality, and is the source of joy for the family.
In the end, he grew up with his sister. Xu Yueling usually knows how to "observe words and see colors".
Watching her sister do housework, she will run over to help her; watch her sister help her mother mop the floor, she will run in front to help her sister put away the table and chair bench; watch her sister start doing homework, she will also take out her school bag and sit next to her sister...
The sun has been working for a long time, and it is inevitable that there will be a day of strike. It was 2014, and The third eldest of Guo Shiwei and his wife had just been born 40 days ago.
The third elder Xu Peiyang was a boy. That day, Guo Shiwei was taking care of him as usual.
"Suddenly, the child's breathing was particularly difficult, and when I carried him to the hospital, he was already tired of surgery." Mentioning the scene of the day, Guo Shiwei is still like a knife.
Xu Peiyang stayed in the hospital for more than a month and ultimately failed to survive. Guo Shiwei never heard her son's cries again.
After the accident, the in-laws and husband Xu Hongxun rushed to the hospital.
"People and people are so different, and the difference between people and people is far greater than the difference between people and dogs", which was Guo Shiwei's deepest psychological feeling that day.
She did not expect that the child who was still healthy and healthy in the morning would have no breath and no heartbeat in the blink of an eye.
She didn't expect that she thought that her in-laws would complain and scold him, after all, this was their first grandson.
But as soon as the in-laws saw her, they hurriedly squatted down and comforted her one after another, saying, "It doesn't matter, it's not your fault." Subsequently, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law hugged and cried together.
Husband Xu Hongxun did not mention this topic the whole time, but was busy cleaning up everything about the child.
When he got home, Guo Shiwei wanted to cry, so he hugged her and cried. Guo Shiwei wanted to go out for a walk, so he went out with him. Xu Hongxun used his patience to dispel the haze in Guo Shiwei's heart little by little.
Recalling this scene afterwards, Xu Hongxun only said, "This is what he promised his wife at the wedding." At the wedding scene, Xu Hongxun said sincerely to Guo Shiwei.
Marriage is no better than love, boring and trivial is its daily life, but even so, I am willing to use all my patience to accompany you through this battle and walk through the second half of our lives.
At that time, Guo Shiwei was moved, but her heart was questioned. She listens to a lot of men's rhetoric, but how many can she really do it?
Guo Shiwei's original family is very bad, she is actually an illegitimate daughter.
Because of her mother's irresponsibility, she was thrown into a nanny's house a few months old, and it was not until the second grade that she was picked up again.
In order to get his wife out of the haze as soon as possible, her husband Xu Hongxun proposed to Guo Shiwei, "Or we will have another child." Xu Hongxun's warm heart was understood by Guo Shiwei as wanting to use the fourth child to erase the existence of the third child.
However, less than half an hour later, Guo Shiwei turned from hysteria to later gladly allowing it.
"He existed, and that's a fact that no one can change. He has always existed, but he has changed his form of existence.
"He was always part of our family. We are only going to build on the existence of this child and welcome our fourth child. This was the key to Guo Shiwei's successful persuasion of his wife at that time.
"Man has always been the most deceitful, and the essence is because he loves others. If I don't say that, I'm not sure when my wife will be able to get out of the pain of the day. Recalling this scene afterwards, Xu Hongxun confessed.
Soon, the fourth daughter Xu Muxuan was born, and the family resumed the laughter and laughter of the past. In order to let the youngest daughter have a skill, the couple signed her up for a dance class.
Xu Muxuan is very talented in dancing, and she basically learns a movement once or twice to repeat it well.
In order to dance the dance more charmingly, on weekdays, she would pull her eldest sister Xu Panxin to accompany her. The sound of the piano and the dance are a picture that can often be seen in Guo Shiwei's home.
Because of the little sister, Xu Panxin was tired of practicing the piano, and he would often lower his waist and press his legs to relax his body and relieve his fatigue.
The fifth is also a boy, 4 years old this year, named Xu Lizhe.
Perhaps because the family is all sisters, Xu Lizhe's personality is more girlish, gentle and delicate, love to be spoiled, and play with some rag dolls and other toys on weekdays.
The sisters would often tie her pigtails, wear hairpins, wear flowered skirts, and even give him the names of girls.
Xu Lizhe's personality is true that he is partial to girls, but privately, he prefers to stick to his father and grandfather. Mother Guo Shiwei could not understand this, she felt that Xu Lizhe's child was a bit bisexual. She was more worried about Xu Lizhe's future view of mate selection.
However, this problem did not bother her for long, because soon her youngest son, Xu Yixuan, would be born.
At that time, considering the economic factors, coupled with the fact that Guo Shiwei felt that she had already given birth to four children, the experience was enough, and the couple decided to give birth to the child in the bathtub at home. Husband Xu Hongxun invited a midwife in advance.
During childbirth, his wife Guo Shiwei sat in the bathtub, her husband Xu Hongxun held her in the back, and the other four members of the family all gathered around the bathtub to witness the moment when the mother gave birth to her brother.
Under the guidance of a midwife, a few hours later, Xiao Yihui was successfully born.
Just as everyone was relieved, the problem suddenly came. It turned out that the fourth son, Xu Lizhe, saw that the water in the bathtub was too red, and was frightened for a while and screamed out, which is also a thing that Guo Shiwei has been quite remorseful about to this day.
She had wanted her four children to witness the birth of her brother, but she did not expect to scare the children.
It is said that the more children are born, the more experienced they are, and it is smooth to bring up children.
But for Guo Shiwei, the more she gave birth, the more she would not have children.
"I'm now looking forward to the crying of the child, and if the child doesn't cry, it means that something bad has happened to me." This is also the reason why Guo Shiwei's scalp is tingling once she finds that her younger son does not cry for a long time.
When she brought her eldest daughter and second daughter, Guo Shiwei only felt that the child's crying was an irritability, but now, Guo Shiwei only felt that the child's crying was a grace.
Although frustration is the whole of life, Guo Shiwei has experienced so much, and naturally knows this, but in her heart, she still can't accept the fact that her younger son has left.
Every time she saw her young son, she would think of her little third.
In order not to reveal her emotions, Guo Shiwei could only think secretly in the corner.
After the catharsis, he packed up his emotions and opened the door to enter the world of the other five children.
Guo Shiwei thought that everything she did was seamless, but in fact, her husband Xu Hongxun knew everything.
In order to protect this square world in his wife's heart, Xu Hongxun just didn't see anything and let her be another self in this world.
In order to share the pressure of his wife, her husband Xu Hongxun once proposed to let her in-laws and mother-in-law, or ask a nanny to help take care of the children, but they were all rejected by Guo Shiwei.
In Guo Shiwei's view, when the children grow up, she just wants to be troubled by the children, and the children will not bother her. Parting must have been the most experienced thing she and her children would ever experience in their lives.
Now that the children are still young and can't leave home, they need her, and she can stay with her for a while.
Guo Shiwei is very smart, and her principle of bringing children is by no means the kind of "one person around five children" that most families have, but everyone revolves around themselves.
How much ability to eat and how much ability to exchange for how much salary are the main guiding principles of Guo Shiwei. Guo Shiwei set up the "earn a salary" rule.
Guo Shiwei has brought the principle that people are born different, but they are born to use the principle, and they have played it to the extreme. Children want to buy things on weekdays, and they can, but they have to buy them with the salary they earn.
The way children earn their salaries is to help the family do housework as much as possible, and to earn a salary by doing housework.
In the kitchen of the house, a household salary record sheet is attached, which records the housework of each child.
Do a housework to draw a circle, two circles can be exchanged for a pair, a pair of signs worth five yuan. The eldest daughter and the second daughter do the most housework and get the most money.
At the same time, Guo Shiwei also supports children to "borrow money" from each other.
Once, the second daughter wanted to buy a 20-yuan pencil knife in the bookstore, but she did not have enough money at that time, and asked Guo Shiwei for help, Guo Shiwei said bluntly, "You and your sister solve it by yourself." ”
In the end, the second daughter borrowed NT$20 from her sister, promising to return it to her sister after earning money from housework.
A thousand readers have a thousand Hamlets. In Guo Shiwei's eyes, the system that can not only mobilize children's enthusiasm, but also allow children to exercise children's self-care ability has been criticized by the majority of netizens.
One of the biggest controversies is that they believe that the act of "making money to do housework" will arouse the utilitarian psychology of children. In addition, netizens are also quite dissatisfied with guo Shiwei's request to express "thank you" at home.
At Guo Shiwei's home, the children will often say some words such as "thank you, I love you". Once, when Dad came home from work, the five children hugged each other and sang a song for Dad.
In the eyes of netizens, this thank-you link at Guo Shiwei's home is too deliberate and very pretentious. Guo Shiwei naturally also saw these replies from netizens, and then laughed it off.
Talking on paper is something that everyone does. Raising a child, no matter what you do, there will be regrets, she just did her best to bring her five children, good and bad, she knows in her heart.
Moreover, all kinds of netizens know a few points about the real situation in her home, and they make a big fuss here.
Guo Shiwei supports the existence of different voices, but she is also firm in herself. After all, so many storms and waves she had come. If she could, she would like to continue to regenerate and greet her little old seven.
Whether Guo Shiwei's choice is correct or not is difficult for onlookers to judge, after all, everyone has the right to choose their way of life.
I hope that Guo Shiwei's family can live happily together!
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