The day before yesterday, I watched a variety show in Taiwan, "Who's Coming to Dinner", which had such a family.
Guo Shiwei, 39 years old this year, is a full-time mother and a "gentle production" attendant, and her husband Hongxun works as a real estate agent in a Japanese-funded enterprise.
Unlike the average family, the couple has 6 children, the eldest daughter is 10 years old this year, and the youngest son has just turned 10 months old.
Why did they have 6 children in 10 years? It all started with the couple's third child.
Due to the unexpected death of the third elder, the couple completely changed their concept of fertility
When she first gave birth to her eldest daughter, Guo Shiwei was 30 years old, and the couple had not planned to have many children, but the tragedy that happened by chance completely changed their decision.
In 2014, Guo Shiwei gave birth to her third child, named "Xu Peiyang", but the child was only 40 days old, suddenly stopped breathing and heartbeat, even if it was rushed to the hospital for rescue, 1 month later, the child is still gone.
This incident brought a great blow to Guo Shiwei and her lover, and also changed the way they looked at life, Guo Shiwei said that "it is grace that children will cry", and the couple believes that having more children is the most meaningful thing in life.
The family has never shied away from the death of the third elder, and everyone believes that the third elder is still one of the family members, so he still claims that he has 6 brothers and sisters in his family.
It is easy to raise a baby and it is difficult to raise a baby, and the cost of raising so many children is naturally very large, but this couple has not flinched.
The husband and wife are ready to continue to have babies, causing dissatisfaction among the elders
Guo Shiwei basically took the baby at home full-time, the lover's salary was not high, the family conditions were not rich, and even when she was six years old, in order to save money, she did not even go to the hospital. Guo Shiwei considered herself a "skilled worker" who gave birth to a child, so she gave birth to her 6th baby in the bathtub at home accompanied by her lover, child and midwife.
Even so, the couple is ready to continue to have babies.
Unlike the elderly in ordinary families who continue to spawn, Guo Shiwei gave birth to so many children that her in-laws were a bit overwhelmed, and her in-laws persuaded them more than once not to regenerate, believing that the income of the couple was really not enough to bear the expenses of so many children.
The couple did not compromise, in the view of her husband Hongxun, although there are indeed more children, but the couple has "reached a balance" in the material and companionship of the children, and it is not a problem to have another child.
Therefore, the old people had to persuade "a car can only sit 7 people, no matter how many students really can't sit down", while helplessly compromising, when they have time to help them with children, and their sons and daughters-in-law and children get along very well, there is no "mother-in-law contradiction".
Experienced parents know that even if there are only one or two children in the family, there will be chickens and dogs jumping, not to mention 5, but under guo Shiwei's education, 5 children are growing up healthy and happy, life is not a chicken feather, the family in the economy although a lot of pressure, but life is sweet and happy.
Bao Mom is well nurtured, and the life of 5 children is orderly
The eldest Xu Panxin is 10 years old this year, not only can speak the Tao, but also plays the piano well, usually does housework, takes care of his brother, and is his mother's most powerful little helper.
The second eldest, Xu Yuehan, is 8 years old, and often assists the eldest sister to help her mother clean the house, brush the dishes and brush the dishes, in her small view, cleaning up the house is a very happy thing.
The fourth elder, Xu Muxuan, is 5 years old, and has been practicing dance all the time, and can often see her "stretching" figure everywhere at home.
The fifth elder Xu Lizhe is a 4-year-old boy who is both cute and likes to be spoiled, and is deeply loved by his sisters.
The old sixth Xu Yixuan is only 10 months old and is the most interesting "toy" of all the people in the family.
Taking care of so many children, Guo Shiwei's life is not easy, and it is common for Guo Shiwei to use two or even three uses:
While preparing dinner, he gave the old four mathematical oral arithmetic problems;
Tutoring several children's homework at once;
Deal with disputes between children at the same time.
However, although Guo Shiwei's life has to be "1 dozen 5" every day, she is still well handled, and the family does not look messy.
Guo Shiwei distributes housework according to the children's ability and gives a certain remuneration, which greatly reduces her burden, and the three daughters can "stand alone" in the housework.
Now in the salary record sheet on the wall of Guo Shiwei's home, the eldest daughter and the second daughter have drawn a full "√" and saved a lot of private money.
And under Guo Shiwei's education, although there are many children, there has never been a scramble, but every child knows how to be grateful.
I was impressed by the scene in the show, on Grandpa's birthday, everyone prepared a rich lunch together, and during the meal, the children rushed to express their gratitude to Grandpa.
For example, "Thank you Grandpa for taking us to the library", "Thank you Grandpa for accompanying us to the amusement park and doing leaf painting", you can feel that the children's gratitude is not just casual talk, but from the deep feelings of the heart.
Families with many children should pay more attention to educating their children
In families with many children, the child's education problem is often a difficult matter, and if the parents do not pay attention, various conflicts will occur between the children and quarrels will break out.
In Guo Shiwei's education method, perhaps we can get some enlightenment: as long as parents are well educated and give their children enough love, families with many children can also be harmonious and let every child grow up happily.
For example, parents should give their children enough companionship, try to let every child enjoy a higher quality of education and life, level the bowl of water for the children, never have any favoritism towards the children, and so on
As long as parents can take good care of their children, there is nothing wrong with having a second or third child, as a parent of a multi-child family, the key is to pay enough attention to the education of children.
Crooked Mom Conclusion:
Nowadays, many young people are very negative about childbearing, and even difficult to understand the families with many children, and do not understand why they should "ask for trouble".
From the life of Guo Shiwei's family, we may be able to find the answer: there is no specific standard for a happy life, and the light in the eyes of children and the occasional cry are the meaning of parents' lives.
Today's topic: What do you think of Guo Shiwei's experience?