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After the start of home work, the most headache for parents is to tutor their children to write homework in online classes, and every time at this time, the harmonious family atmosphere will always become tense and depressed.
Before there is a tutoring homework gas to increase blood pressure, after the baby tutoring homework emotional dislocation of the chin. In short, counseling this matter must be done "time and place", without any element, it may be a war.
The mother tutors the child to write homework, and the atmosphere is so tense that the pet dog in the house is afraid to hide
A father recorded the picture of his wife helping his children with homework, and the wife in the video was serious and slightly fierce, while the child was careful about every move.
From the picture taken, it can be judged that Bao Dad's situation at this time is not understood, and it is obvious that he is secretly photographed in a corner.
Not only the children and the father were frightened by the situation in front of them, but even the pet dogs at home were not spared.
Bao Dad's camera turned, the family dog was hiding in the gap between the washing machine toilet, blinking his small eyes and did not dare to come out, it is estimated that he was also frightened by the hostess's angry look.
The momentum of Bao Ma's tutoring homework not only makes the family "bow down", but even the netizens in the comment area feel afraid across the screen.
Although tutoring children to write homework is to show a little parental majesty to shock, but in such a tense and depressing atmosphere, can children still focus on learning?
Parent tutoring homework that cannot control emotions is a kind of torture for children and parents
I remember that when a father in Wuhan tutored his son to write homework, because he was too excited to control his emotions, he directly slapped his son's head with a slap, and the pencil he had just cut in his hand was directly inserted into the back of his son's head, and after being sent to the hospital, the doctor said that only a few millimeters away might cause the child's cerebral palsy.
If it really causes tragedy, it is the child who suffers, and the father will never forgive himself, let alone how to face his family.
Many cases are reminding parents that you, who are emotionally out of control, are really not suitable for tutoring their children to write homework. We need to recognize that there is a certain gap between the child's ability and ours, and we should not ask the child to think and solve the problem according to our standards.
In addition, those parents with excellent grades should be more at ease, accept the child's ordinary, and acknowledge the existence of "mean reversion".
The concept of mean reversion was proposed by the British biologist Galton, which believes that the high-quality genes that parents have cannot be completely passed on to their children, so in two adjacent generations, all aspects of their abilities return to an average.
If parents are very good, it is difficult for their children to be as good as they are, and the greater chance is that they are ordinary people, and vice versa.
Scientific tutoring is what parents should learn and choose
In fact, many parents know in their hearts that tantrums are of no use to tutoring homework at all, but will hurt the harmony between them and their children. If you want to achieve the purpose of counseling without hurting feelings, you may wish to try these methods.
Reduce the feeling of oppression on your child:
Parent tutoring homework does not have to sit next to the child and stare at it, the more inseparable you look at the child's oppression and tension, the greater the tension, and it is difficult to think and complete the homework in an anxious state.
Parents can stay away from their children, and after arranging their homework, they will no longer bother their children in the middle, and children will naturally ask parents for help if they have problems. Long-distance counseling greatly reduces the chances of parents getting angry, and children can think more easily.
Doesn't amplify results and emotions:
The child obviously can't do a problem, but it has become the "stupid, poor student, can't get into college" in the mouth of parents; obviously a problem that can be solved in one sentence, parents have to stick together...
This is the mistake that most parents are prone to make when tutoring homework, enlarging their children's problems and enlarging their emotions, deviating from the essence of tutoring homework, and the problems will only increase.
On the matter, do not criticize the child's other problems, if you can't control your emotions, refer to the previous one, stay away from the child.
Punish with the right method:
The educational nature of scolding and violent punishment is very short, and the child only succumbs to the majesty of the parents, and it does not work for a long time.
Parents should adopt some more scientific punishment methods, such as restricting children from playing games and punishing him for doing housework, which does not harm the body and can achieve the purpose of punishment education.
Sometimes the problem is not in the child, but in the parents, the way of education is the root of the problem, rather than thinking about how to change the child, it is better to examine yourself first.
【Today's Interaction】
What problems have you encountered when tutoring your child with homework?