Compared with men, women are more emotional and will pay more in love and marriage. I gave everything for the family wholeheartedly, but in exchange for my husband's complaints, he wanted to divorce me. I really don't understand what a man's heart is made of, how can it be so ruthless and cruel?
I am 48 years old. Today I will talk to you about my marital emotional story. Du Kang and I met in college, he was my brother-in-law, he was a prominent figure in school, many teachers and sisters admired him, but he loved me. Du Kang pursued me, and many little sisters were envious, but he was not my favorite type.
Du Kang is capable, steady, and maturer than his peers. Du kang wears a pair of glasses and wears a shirt and trousers and leather shoes every day. At that time, he was already running at both ends of the internship, school and company, and he was much more mature and stable than those of us who had never seen the world.
The teachers thought he was excellent, much better than the boys in the school who only knew how to play games. But I think Du Kang is too wooden, does not understand the fun, and has no fun with him. Du kang's height is only a little higher than mine, and I am not very satisfied. During the winter vacation, I went home for the New Year and met my elementary school classmates.
We often went out on a date and he drove my motorcycle to take me for a ride. With him, I feel very happy and happy. My elementary school classmates are 1.8 meters tall and very handsome, just like the idol male stars in the TV series. Standing by his side, I could lean on him with a bird and a sense of safety.
I had a pleasant winter break with my elementary school classmates, and we were very ambiguous, but we didn't transcend the relationship between good classmates. I do like him, but his career makes me feel like our future is hopeless. Elementary school classmates entered the society after junior high school, there was no stable job, and the future I wanted he could not give.
After a comprehensive comparison, I finally chose Du Kang. All love is vigorous at the beginning, but in the end it will be as plain as water, the same as anyone. If there is no economic foundation, how can the feelings that are flat can continue, but only the poor couple is left with Pepsi.
I am as emotional and longing for love as all women, but I know that reality is cruel, so I rationally choose Du Kang, who has better conditions in all aspects. Du Kang was excellent in his work, was appreciated by the leaders, promoted and raised, and soon bought a house and a car. After graduating from university, I also entered the field of medicine under du kang's arrangement.
We struggled together for a few years and laid a good financial foundation before getting married. I have a lot of friends my age, and I got married shortly after graduating from college, and I didn't get married until I was almost 30, relatively late. I believe that late arrivals do not necessarily arrive too early, and all preparations are made to enter the palace of marriage, so that such a marriage is more secure.
In the 2nd year of marriage, our daughter was born. The daughter was born prematurely, only more than 8 months early, had various complications, and rescued several times before turning the crisis into safety. In order to cure our daughter, we spent a lot of money, and we gradually became overstretched with a good economic foundation. My daughter was frail and sick and needed someone to take good care of her, so I gave up my career and went home to take care of her.
Since becoming a mom, I've been reading a lot of books on parenting and studying how to make my daughter grow up healthy and happy. Because of the premature birth, my daughter was often sick in the first few years, and I took care of her in the hospital every time. During this time, I was tired and happy.
I was a stay-at-home mom, and all the financial pressure fell on my husband alone. Originally, the sales person needed to travel frequently to develop the business, my husband was not at home all year round, I was very hard to take the child alone, and it was inevitable that there would be grievances in my heart after a long time. When my husband was rarely at home, he did not accompany us, but went out to find friends to drink, and we often quarreled over it.
In the end, people are selfish and will only think from their own point of view. I have been taking care of my children for a long time, and my husband is busy with great pressure at work, but we all feel that the other party cannot understand himself, and constantly complains about each other, and the contradictions are increasing day by day. When there are difficulties or contradictions in marriage, I know how fragile marriage is based on poor feelings.
Originally I didn't have much affection for my husband, and I chose to be with him because I felt that he was in better terms and that it was most appropriate to marry him. If marriage goes well, maybe we can live our lives with respect. But the arrival of the daughter has broken this balance, and we all feel that we have been wronged, and we have made greater sacrifices for this family, but we cannot get the understanding of the other party.
When my daughter was 10 years old, my husband and I divorced because of emotional discord. Once I gave up love, chose material things, and ended up with a failed marriage. I often reflect on whether marriage is important or materially more important in marriage, and I have never had an answer to this question. I imagined that if I had married my elementary school classmates, no matter how sweet we were, we would have quarreled over the rice, oil and salt of life, and we would not have been happy.
I didn't want to go to the unanswered questions, and after the divorce I lived alone with my daughter. Under my careful care, my daughter is as healthy as a child of the same age, and I no longer have to take care of her day and night like before. I went back to work to support myself and my daughter, whose education was covered by her father.
I haven't met the right person in all these years and have been single. Having experienced a failed marriage, I was somewhat afraid of marriage. It wasn't until I met Xiaodong when I was 46 years old, and Xiaodong was one of my clients. He opened a pharmacy, I went to expand my business, and we met.
Xiaodong is in his early 30s and is a very energetic young man. We had a great time working together in business and became very good friends in private. Xiaodong likes outdoor sports, likes to travel, and the whole person is very energetic. His optimism and cheerfulness can also infect the people around him. Over the years, my life has been very monotonous and boring, and the humorous and funny Xiaodong has unconsciously attracted my attention.
Xiaodong often asks me out when he goes out to play, he takes me to climb the mountain to ride a bicycle, which makes my life more colorful, and I also like to be with him. Often dating out to meet, we have a long-term relationship, naturally together. Xiaodong did not dislike that I had a daughter, nor did he dislike that I was older than him. He said he loved me as a person, and it had nothing to do with my age or past.
It was Xiaodong's words that touched me, made me let go of my worries, and then I was with him again. Now that we've been remarried for two years, I can easily feel the difference between the two marriages. Being with Du Kang is a general, and being with Xiaodong is true love. I finally understood that only by marrying someone I truly love can I be happy.