Growing up only once, education cannot be repeated.
After the expiration of the parents, no matter how hard they try, they are no more effective than 10 years ago.
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For many parents, they often face this problem:
Career success and educating children, which is more important?
Some people say that companionship is the best education, and it is better to give children a complete sense of security.
Some people say, without money, what to do to educate children, to stabilize the family, to maintain family affection?
But they forget that there is only one time for children to grow up, and there is only one opportunity to educate children, and missing out is a lifelong regret.
Flowers have a reopening day, and no one is any more young.
Every child's education is an irrevocable live broadcast, with only one chance in a lifetime.
I once read the thoughts of a writer:
Parents, like food, have "expiration dates" and are short, only ten years.
I am afraid that only parents can understand the deep meaning.
When he was a child, the child was always well-behaved and obedient, but as he grew up, he became more and more willful.
When we were young, our children were very dependent on us, but when they grew up, they became more and more distant from us.
That's because the shelf life of the parents has passed and a lot of education is no longer working.
In the TV series "Chinese-style Relationship", Ma Guoliang and Liu Lili plan to divorce and fight for the custody of their children.
Ma Guoliang thought that he had paid so much for his family, and his children were righteous, but he didn't even know how many grades his children had.
In the end, the child ignored his father's every effort to win over and chose his mother.
When children are young, their parents are omnipotent and completely reliable, which is the golden age of educating children.
Once you reach the teenage, the "validity period" for parents expires.
If you do not accompany and educate your children well, you will lose the right to educate your children, and you will even be ignored by your children.
When Fang Zuming was arrested for drug abuse, Jackie Chan regretted that he did not start at the beginning, regretting that he did not teach the children well.
When Fang Zuming needed education the most, he only cared about his career, and he didn't even know how many grades his children were in.
Fang Zuming once said to Jackie Chan: "I don't have your figure in my memory, not even your back." ”
Children are a gift from Heaven, and if you don't cherish it, Heaven will take back this sweet gift.
However, many parents ignore this validity period.
In their eyes, making money is more important than children, and career is more important than education. With money and a career, why worry about not teaching children well?
In order to work, unable to accompany the child, they said: Rest assured, there is always someone to bring.
For the sake of the cause, unable to educate the child personally, they said: Rest assured, he will understand it for a long time.
However, countless facts have proved that the growth of children is irreversible, and there is only one chance to educate children.
A few years ago, the popular variety show "Metamorphosis" is a good proof.
Those children who have lived in a superior environment since childhood, stretch out their hands in clothes, open their mouths with food, do not take care of themselves, and naturally accept the care of others.
Moreover, they are often arrogant, disrespectful, and lose their temper when they are slightly unhappy, and they cannot see half of the tutors.
This shows that even if there is more money and lack of companionship for children, education is a failure.
Dong Qing once reminded parents:
"You have worked hard all your life to earn money, and you may not be able to defeat your child for a year!"
The child's growth is irreversible, and when he has saved enough disappointment to lose trust in you, you want to meddle in his education and talk about teaching, he will only think:
When I need your company, you always say that you are busy at work to make money, and when I grow up, you will point fingers again, why?
Nothing has ever come out of nowhere, and behind every excellent child is the parents' hard work.
Many people know that there is a kind of child called "someone else's child".
But I don't know that there is a kind of parent called "someone else's parent".
As the old saying goes, the Son does not teach, the Father's fault. As the old saying goes, a loving mother is a loser.
It can be seen that what kind of person the child will become, and has a constant relationship with the parents.
Parents are a child's first teacher and the best teacher in life.
I remembered a sentence said by the mother of "talented girl" Wu Yishu:
"Genius does not exist, its cause, in the family, its roots, is the parents."
From an early age, Wu Yishu's parents would spend a long time with her to read, draw and practice calligraphy.
In order to set a good example for their children, they stayed away from mahjong tables and game consoles and patiently accompanied their children to learn.
Wu Yishu's father turns off his mobile phone at 16:30 every day, just so that he can concentrate on accompanying his children.
A person's character is formed and rooted in childhood.
Behavior forms habits, habits form character, character determines fate, parents' education and role model for children, directly determine the future of children.
The child is a mirror of the parents, the words and deeds of the parents, every move, the children are in the eyes, learn in the heart, reflected in the action and mouth!
Host Bai Yansong believes that parents have three major responsibilities:
1. Become a role model for children;
2. Realize your children's dreams at any cost;
3. Help children establish strong inner strength and good external habits.
Education is the cause of shaping the soul, and only through words and deeds and going all out can we exert the greatest strength to help children grow.
"People's Daily" once published an article warning parents: Educating your children well is the most important cause in your life.
No matter how good the school or how good the teacher, it can never replace the position of parents in the hearts of children.
If you want your child to have good conduct, it is indispensable to cultivate parents and guide family education.
Bill Gates, the world's richest man, was "someone else's child" when he was a child and "someone else's parent" when he became an adult.
Even if he is busy at work, he insists on picking up and dropping off his children, reading and learning with them, and so on.
Wife Melinda, who also insists on caring for the children, said:
"I hope that when people talk about the name Melinda Gates in the future, they remember a good mother.
The greatest investment of my life was with my three children, followed by a career. ”
Educating your children well is a lifelong career for every parent.
No matter how much money you make and have a high status, it is not as meaningful as the success of your child's education.
When you are old, if the child is out of the ordinary and still lets you worry, it will make you feel the biggest frustration in your life.
On the contrary, a child with a career is enough for his parents to enjoy their old age in peace.
Remember a writer who said:
"The meaning of a good family is not how rich and noble it is, but that each generation does its best to lift the next generation to the next level."
Parents should use their own practical actions to influence the child's spiritual world, help him ignite the power of life, and release the wings of growth.
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