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After having children, it is a sweet burden!
The scene at the beginning of the TV series, which seems witty and funny, actually sows two extreme seeds for the subsequent pain points.
Here, Fang Yinuo was teaching the students in class, while walking back and forth, just arrived at the podium, the amniotic fluid broke, "You are all honest, I will go to have a child first", this calm also reflects the chicken flying dog jump after the child was born.
Over there, Xiao Lu was dancing lions on behalf of the substitutes, a joyous mood, after answering his wife's phone and leaving in a hurry, a colleague's unhurried words: After having a child, it is a sweet burden! It seems to be a joke, but in fact, it lays the groundwork for the two levels of the story that follows.
Is it sweet or a burden? This is where the pain points begin...
1. Plot, bipolar reviews are different
"Dear Child" is based on the movie "Left and Right", which tells the story of the young couple Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo who have been married for many years and welcomed the child. On the day of delivery, the soldiers in the delivery room were panicked, but Xiao Lu was unexpectedly absent. With the birth of their children, the new parents also began to meet the challenges of identity conversion. With the intervention of both parents, a series of family conflicts occurred frequently, resulting in the relationship between husband and wife towards an inflection point and a reef, and the two eventually parted ways. Years later, their lives returned to peace after reorganizing their families, but their daughter Hehe was found to be suffering from leukemia at this time. From a medical point of view, the doctor advised them to have another child to save lives. As a result, the storm caused by this rescue of women has pushed several families into human torture and difficult choices.
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With the ratings breaking 1, "Dear Child" can not be described as popular. Its attention and discussion have always been high, mixed reviews and opinions.
Both major state media outlets have given their own views:
People's Daily Commentary
Guangming Network review
The plot looks like dog blood, in fact, it is too real, really let me feel that my life is spied on: the stretch marks on the woman's pregnant stomach, some unspeakable pain points when giving birth to a child, the concept of parenting for two generations of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the small beauty between husband and wife is broken, the total arrival of newborns is always chicken flying dog jumping... You have to say that the sense of substitution is too strong, and every bit of life has been truly moved to the screen.
As for selling anxiety, I personally feel that it is a glass heart. Life is a million ways for thousands of people to live, you can't tear open the wound to show you, you think he is too cruel, and even pay attention to the appearance, is this not thousands of you and my life? Relative to the Bright Network, I think it is more objective, the bumps and bumps of life are inevitable, and the hardships of life will not exist because of your avoidance.
Sweet to the audience? Or a burden? People who have experienced it remember bittersweetly, and people who have not experienced it are prepared in advance for future lives, after all, a strong heart is a strong support for the transition.
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2. The joy of new motherhood – sweetened & unwieldy fatherhood – is burdened
At the beginning of the episode, Fang Yinuo looked in the mirror to see her stomach standing up, touching the cracked belly, and her face was painful, but then she thought of the child in her belly, and she smiled with relief. The little life in her belly made her sweet.
After all kinds of hardships, enduring thousands of pains, giving birth to a baby, and hearing the child's healthy crying, she shed tears, which is a kind of new motherhood, instinctive maternal love, which is an emotional burst that many men who are new fathers will not have.
Heartache, pain and maternal love burst out in an instant, can be described as a mixture of tastes, happy for the greatness of a life...
As a new father, many men are insensitive, have no personal experience, and still need time to slowly integrate him with this little life. Xiao Lu was basically insensitive in the matter of his wife giving birth to a child, and even exceeded the audience's psychological expectations. What he does is a normal work that is not hurried, maintaining the role that the family should have, completely absent-minded, it can be said that it is a bit of an escape from responsibility.
You see, having a child is also because of the mother's birth, and I have no concept of whether to have a child or not.
The wife was admitted to the hospital to give birth, he did not put more care into the care, to work as a shield, to drink at home, watch ball games, completely outside the parties. The wife gives birth to a child, he does not care about the wife and baby, first steal the placenta downstairs, always play missing when he is most needed, ask which woman can endure such a husband? Fortunately, the heroine endured, and there was no autumn accounting. It was me, but anyone with a little strength was estimated to have fanned it up.
Husband is only synonymous with husband, father is only synonymous with father, at this moment Xiao Lu is only running for these pronouns, burdening...
Netizens are more angry than I am
At this moment, the parallel line between the husband and wife has been tilted, just waiting for the arrival of the subsequent intersection of the two poles...
3. Raising a baby: one burden anxiety is strong, one is free to find sweetness
Giving birth to a baby is just the beginning, and what really comes is the long road of raising a baby.
A human baby, a whole family chicken flying dog jump, seemingly unreasonable dog blood plot, and it is not a portrayal of our lives.
Fang Yinuo gave birth to a baby, completely chaotic, listening to the wind is rain, because Of Fang's mother's few words, live like a detective, the child's breastfeeding time must be recorded in a small book without difference, almost nervously pulling up the sleeping husband, not asking to understand the vow not to give up. Xiao Lu said"
Your whole family is anxious with you
", to illustrate the essence of the problem.
After trying to persuade her, Xiao Lu turned her head on this side, and over there she went to investigate the bottle, and before Xiao Lu fell asleep, she pulled her hair up again, and did not spare the milk powder incident. The child's jaundice was high, Xiao Lu said that he missed his mouth " may be breast-milk jaundice ", Fang Yinuo immediately became angry: "You say it's my problem?" ”
After having a child, Fang Yinuo's personality has changed greatly, all the raising of babies is based on herself, how others say and do not get into her eyes, and she is strong and harsh, and does not accept criticism from anyone.
In the end, he simply took it upon himself to drive his husband to sleep in the guest bed, and he did not accept the rebuttal type.
In the end, Yue Yinuo couldn't stand Fang Yinuo's "extreme harshness", muffled and ran away, for a while he couldn't find Yue Yinuo, Xiao Lu had to catch the duck on the shelf, personally cooked a bowl of tomato egg noodles for Fang Yinuo, Fang Yinuo tasted no taste, and said angrily: "Who can I count on?" ”
All of Xiao Lu's efforts could not withstand the harm caused by this sentence. So he said, "Don't you want to do that?" I'm tired for a day too. ”
In order to appease Fang Yinuo and calm down as soon as possible, Xiao Lu bowed his head anytime and anywhere: "I'm sorry, I was wrong." ”
Fang Yinuo's verbal damage and mental blows to Xiao Lu were anytime, anywhere.
The child wet his clothes in the middle of the night, Xiao Lu did not know what a climbing suit was, so he asked, and Fang Yinuo split his head and covered his face: "Climbing clothes do not know, really!" Pink, pink! Really, who said to take care of me? ”
Xiao Lu was kind enough to buy crucian carp stew soup for Fang Yinuo, because the crucian carp was sold out, and he bought the catfish and came back, Fang Yinuo immediately scolded: "Then the crucian carp milks, the catfish milks?" Don't buy it later, don't worry about these things! I don't understand that I have to rush to do it! ”
Xiao Lu took the child to the needle queue, Fang Yinuo complained that he did not know how to cut in line; Xiao Lu warmly said to his daughter, "Daddy will not leave you and Mom", but Fang Yinuo directly threw out a sentence: "Go to the side." ”
Fang Yinuo's mental damage and verbal blow to Xiao Lu, Xiao Lu chose to understand, at this time he was considerate of Fang Yinuo's hardships.
But Xiao Lu's intentions and dedication were devalued by Fang Yinuo every time, and the enthusiasm of anyone over time would be depleted little by little.
As a novice father, Xiao Lu has no experience, and Fang Yinuo not only did not guide correctly, but constantly hit.
With children, Fang Yinuo's center of gravity has all shifted, and his mind is full of children, completely ignoring the sense of existence as a husband. Xiao Lu could not get affirmation of what he did, and when he needed it physiologically, Fang Yinuo did not say his concerns, but just blindly refused, making Xiao Lu feel narrow.
As a man, when Xiao Lu was running around for his home, he didn't get any care from Fang Yinuo, only blindly accusing. Fang Yinuo's emotions are frequently out of control for the sake of the child, and Xiao Lu has to follow her with anxiety, never considering xiao Lu's hard work.
The addition of the families of the two sides has made Xiao Lu, who originally had no sense of existence, lose his family status, install his grandson outside, and still have no dignity when he arrives home. In the end, Xiao Lu was forced to the other pole, and he simply did not want to go home.
Faced with the smoke and miasma of home, Xiao Lu finally broke out his emotions that he had nowhere to output:
"I was wrong, I shouldn't have put you all together, thinking about my own things in my heart, my own feelings, that self-esteem, and what, and what, without thinking about others?" Since I was born, have I lived a day of stability? I worked hard during the day, I worked there, I went home at night, this was not happy, coaxed, that gave that face off, both were unhappy, I coaxed both, coaxed the big coaxed the small, coaxed the little coaxed the old.
Yes, man, it doesn't matter, but I'm also tired, who doesn't want to be coaxed? I also want to be coaxed. I'm sleeping on the couch now, I have back pain every day I go to work, who of you has asked? Even if you care about it? Any one of you is a little upset, and I'm worried to death, because you're my family, and I don't want you to be wronged. I feel sorry for you, but have you ever felt sorry for me? ”
After having children, the two poles became more and more prominent, Fang Yinuo was too much, Xiao Lu lived too suffocatingly, how to do it was not enough, and finally the body and mind could not be placed, lost and abandoned, and the appearance of Zhu Zhu became the last straw that crushed their marriage.
A sentence of "You have been doing a good job" allowed Xiao Lu to find his long-lost affirmation in front of Zhu Zhu, and also found his dignity as a man, which was also the fuse of his derailment.
It can be seen that Fang Yinuo's blows and injuries to Xiao Lu were devastating, but time magnified it.
In this way, the two levels of marriage push each other to each other, gradually drifting apart, and finally the marriage is broken.
4. Write the words at the back
If Xiao Lu was a little unreliable when Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child, at least after Hehe was born, he tried his best to maintain the balance of this family, and he was also trying to pay, but Fang Yinuo did not look at it in his eyes, and even overbearing.
As the saying goes, people's hearts are warm and warm, so it is cold
Xiao Lu also slowly grew in the joy of becoming a new father
Cold
finish.
However, Fang Yinuo lived in the joy of becoming a new mother into anxiety and even extreme harshness, and he was overjoyed
boiling hot
。
Cold and warm are two extremes!
Is it sweet or a burden? Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo did not weigh the two well after all!