Recently, the TV series "Dear Child" exploded, and the drama has ranked first in the list of popular dramas on major platforms since its inception, and has also aroused a super high degree of discussion.
This drama is adapted from the movie "Left and Right", which tells the story of a couple whose life becomes a mess after giving birth to a child, and a series of problems such as marital conflicts, mother-in-law contradictions, and extramarital affairs lead to the breakdown of marriage, reflecting the common problems in the lives of thousands of families. Netizens shouted: Too real!
It is precisely because it is too real that the drama was criticized by the People's Network for "selling anxiety". While causing countless family empathies, some netizens who have not entered the marriage said: fear of marriage and childbearing, and even more issued the remarks of "no marriage and no infertility to ensure peace".
In fact, it is not necessary, the play does reflect the common problems and contradictions in real life, but not all.
Drama emphasizes the use of conflict to cause visual effects and emotional resonance, and often in order to increase the effect, the contradiction will be amplified and dramatized in the treatment. The reason why the problem is deduced is precisely so that everyone can see and learn it, so as to avoid repeating the same mistakes in dealing with marriage issues in the future.
The purpose of TV drama broadcasting is to point out problems and solve problems, so that people can clearly see all aspects of human nature and find their own place, educate reflection, avoid mistakes, and better manage life.
Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child Xiao Lu was absent
The first scene of the TV series is Fang Yinuo facing the mirror, she removes the foundation on her face, revealing a large patch of clearly visible spots.
Next, the camera goes down, her pregnant belly that is about to give birth is particularly eye-catching, and the swollen green tendons and blood vessels and pregnancy spots can be seen across the screen, which is indeed a bit scary for people who have not experienced childbirth. Yet that's the reality, and it's the process that every woman who has children goes through.
Fang Yinuo looked in the mirror and saw her ugly face and body, first crying, but then laughing again, because she felt the joy of being a mother, this is great maternal love, it is nature.
Fang Yinuo is a middle school teacher who is in class when suddenly the amniotic fluid breaks. She said, "Don't move, I'll go and have a baby first," and then asked her classmates to drag the floor. Here it is enough to see the serious, responsible, strong and good-looking part of Fang Yinuo's personality.
Xiao Lu received the call and rushed to the hospital in a hurry, and Fang Yinuo was in pain. At this time, the company's phone calls were one after another, Fang Yinuo forgave her husband, let him hurry home to get the computer work, Xiao Lu hurried home. Just arrived home to receive the unit information, found someone to replace him.
However, Xiao Lu did not rush back to the hospital again, but like a deflated leather ball, he could finally breathe a sigh of relief. He took a few cans of beer from the refrigerator, sat on the couch and watched the ball game, as if the outside things had nothing to do with him, the rare silence and relaxation, Xiao Lu actually fell asleep in such a daze.
Seeing this, I believe that every woman, whether married or unmarried, is angry. Children don't have to come out of a man's belly, and a man really can't replace his wife to have children, but it's really sad that a woman is not by her side when she's most vulnerable, helpless, and in need of strength.
Xiao Lu picked up the phone again and rushed back to the hospital In the early morning, Fang Yinuo had already given birth to a daughter, and the mother and daughter were safe. Xiao Lu signed at the door of the operating room and took the placenta in the nurse's hand, and hurriedly gave it to her mother Gao Cuiping, who had been waiting downstairs for a long time, and Xiao Lu deliberately took the thermos pot and prepared to go home to wrap wontons for her younger son Xiao Xu to eat, saying that it was a big supplement.
Fang Yinuo was pushed out of the operating room without a person, and she heard the nurse talking about Xiao Lu may have gone out to deliver the placenta in a confused way, and then she was pushed back to the ward.
Soon the ward was full of people, Fang Yinuo's father and mother, Xiao Lu's mother and brother, Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu's common friends Xie Tianhua and Lei Wen all arrived.
A room full of people around the child smiled and frowned, the weak Fang Yinuo was thirsty and wanted to drink but could not reach the water cup, only Fang Yinuo's mother rushed over to hand it to her daughter. At this time, in this world, I am afraid that only a mother can experience the pain of a daughter giving birth!
Xiao Lu, who was still standing stupidly at the door of the operating room, did not know until he received a call that his wife had returned to the ward. He rushed over but did not enter the house immediately, and hesitated outside the door for a long time. When he first picked up his daughter, he seemed joyful, strange, and a little overwhelmed.
Probably every new father feels differently, and this feeling directly reflects something, but it will not be noticed at the time, including himself.
Family conflicts arising from parenting
Fang Yinuo was discharged from the hospital and returned home, the monthly sister-in-law who was selected in advance was already in place, and the professionalism shown by the moon sister-in-law at the beginning made Fang Yinuo very relieved, and the atmosphere at home was relatively harmonious.
Later, Fang's mother came to see her daughter, and while chatting, she told Fang Yinuo about the cases of the black-hearted nannies seen on TV and on the Internet, and repeatedly told her to pay attention to her sister-in-law at home.
So Fang Yinuo began to peek, open the door slit, and asked the sister-in-law whether she had mixed milk powder into the bottle, why she sat in the living room reading a book, etc., until the child's jaundice was sent to the hospital.
The result of the diagnosis in the plot is that the value of breast-milk jaundice is high, and Xiao Lu has been hiding it in order to take care of Fang Yinuo's emotions. Fang Yinuo almost collapsed in her mood for the child's hospitalization blue light, and her heartbroken eyes lying outside the glass of the observation room and the anxious expression of hiding at home showed the deep love of a mother for her child to the fullest.
But Fang Yinuo was really too anxious about her own child, and at this moment, there was no one in her eyes except her daughter, especially Xiao Lu. No matter what Xiao Lu did, whatever she said was all wrong, she didn't care, as if she didn't even have the situation she had today because of Xiao Lu.
This unconscious shift of blame may not even be known to herself. At this moment, she still has the reason to analyze these things, and her whole heart has long been occupied by her daughter.
Sister-in-law Yue sneaked away because she was not trusted, and Xiao Lu quickly notified her mother Gao Cuiping to come to the rescue.
Xiao's mother Gao Cuiping is a rural woman, no culture, widowed for many years to pull the two sons big, loud voice, love to smoke, there is nothing to do and rub a few mahjong, belongs to the kind of grinning does not pay attention to the details of life.
Xiao Mu happily came to her son's house, and also brought a box of Xiao Lu and Xiao Xu's clothes when he was a child, Fang Yinuo was very dissatisfied with Xiao Lu's practice of finding Xiao Lu without prior consultation, and for the next wave of xiao mu's operations, Fang Yinuo could not accept it.
First of all, she could not accept the clothes that Xiao Lu used when she was a child, and specially bought a lot of diapers to send to her friends, so that her friends could send them back as gifts; secondly, she could not accept her mother-in-law to put the clothes of adults and children's clothes together to wash; the most unbearable thing for her was that her mother-in-law actually smoked at home... After repeated negotiations, Xiao's mother promised to quit smoking for the sake of her children.
Fang Yinuo could not go out because of the confinement, and the task of taking the child to walk the bend was given to Xiao Mu Gao Cuiping. Seeing the card friend playing mahjong Xiao Mu couldn't help watching, the card friend handed a cigarette she did not hold back to take a few sips, after returning home was still keenly discovered by Fang Yinuo, after all, it was a teacher, a catch a quasi.
As a daughter-in-law, Fang Yinuo could not directly criticize her mother-in-law, and could only let Xiao Lu say that everything that happened between her and her mother-in-law had to be communicated by Xiao Lu. Xiao Lu, in the words of Fang Yinuo, is "only with thin mud."
Xiao Lu grew up without a father, and his dedication to his mother has always been in his eyes and pain in his heart. In his opinion, these were trivial things, and he really couldn't bear to blame his mother for these things. Therefore, Xiao Lu's principle of handling the problem is: coaxing on both sides, as long as it is not noisy, it is solved if it is dissipated.
The first outbreak of contradictions was because of the children. Mother Xiao watched the cards playing as she took her children out for a walk, and the trolley slid all the way downhill. And this scene happened to be seen by Fang Yinuo, who was not assured of the child's arrival, she picked up the child like crazy, cried and ran to the hospital, fortunately the child was not in serious trouble. But since then, Fang Yinuo has also completely lost trust in his mother-in-law.
Xiao Lu "cheated" on female customers
After the child's incident, Fang's mother rushed to the door in anger, the two sides had a big fight, and the result of the final agreement was that Fang's mother came to take care of her daughter and child, and Xiao's mother also stayed behind to wash and cook to help for "atonement".
Xiao Mu was ashamed and obeyed Fang Mu's arrangements everywhere, xiao Lu was very distressed and could not be persuaded to see his mother's appearance, so he asked his brother Xiao Xu to help. As a result, Xiao Xu moved in.
Xiao Xu is not as good at talking as Xiao Mu, not only eating ready-made food, but also not doing any work, talking impolitely, the most important thing is that he smokes in the toilet, and he does not listen to how to say anything, but also resists.
The two camps in the family had a fierce quarrel again, and Xiao Lu, who returned from work, listened to him, what could he do? He could not confront his mother-in-law and wife, nor could he bear to count his mother and brother, but could only use "all are family, all discouraged" to persuade peace, and once again "and thin mud".
Fortunately, his mother and brother finally returned home, and there seemed to be no contradictions in the family, but they did not really return to calm.
Families with small children are known to everyone, crying constantly, and two adults are busy. And Xiao Lu, as a man, can't help at all, or he doesn't know what he should do, how to do it, he doesn't even know what the "climbing suit" is, and doing it wrong will also attract Fang Yinuo's incessant chatter.
Xiao Lu himself is busy with work and comes home late, working overtime until the middle of the night to go home is a common thing, and it is very tortured to sleep at home. So slowly, he began to be afraid, afraid to go home, afraid to face the child's crying, his mother-in-law's complaining eyes and Fang Yinuo's number.
Xiao Lu no longer actively went home after work, sometimes the car was parked downstairs and did not want to go up, during that time he worked more overtime, because he would rather work overtime than face everything at home. At this time, Xiao Lu was invisibly getting farther and farther away from home and the people at home.
The appearance of Zhu Zhu was the last straw that overwhelmed their marriage.
Zhu Zhu is the daughter of Xiaolu's customers and cooperates with Xiaolu Company. Zhu Zhu also grew up in a single-parent family, because her mother was involved in the marriage breaking up due to the intervention of a third party, so she was particularly strict with her daughter, and she was not allowed to wear makeup.
Zhu Zhu developed a good feeling for Xiao Lu at work, and she found a sense of ease and warmth from Xiao Lu after a long period of repression. At a dinner party, Zhu Zhu took the drunken Ande Xiao Lu back to her home, threw him on his bed, and even took photos, in her words, "kept as a souvenir."
Realizing that he had made a mistake, Xiao Lu decisively refused Zhu Zhu's request to continue his interaction, and told Zhu Zhu very affirmatively that he was a person with a family and that he was responsible for his wife and children. Who knew that Zhu Zhu, a girl who had no emotional experience, had also learned to threaten.
On the other hand, Fang Mu repeatedly reminded her daughter that Xiao Lu's "not going home" is not a good thing, and once a man does not go home on the grounds that he is busy at work, it is easy to have problems outside. But Fang Yinuo never paid attention to it. So many years of classmates to fall in love to get married, Xiao Lu's person she still believes.
Heaven always seems to love to joke with people, and a rupture breaks in your trust.
On the day of the child's first birthday feast, Zhu Zhu broke in without any scruples, and she faced the relatives and friends of Xiao and Fang's families and publicly exposed her and Xiao Lu's affairs. Fang Yinuo was disgraced and angrily returned to his mother's house with his children and parents. I have to say that the character of Zhu Zhu is really a strange thing.
She still insisted on her feelings in the case of Xiao Lu's repeated refusals, and when Xiao Lu publicly expressed her love for Fang Yinuo, she could also ask people's wives with a straight face, "Does he really still love you?" Then send the photos and voices to Fang Yinuo to see, I really don't know where this girl's confidence and confidence come from?
She broke through a one-man relationship, not hesitating to lose her reputation, but also to ruin the face of others, this stupid approach will get the heart of that man?
Even if Fang Yinuo gave Xiao Lu to you, you wouldn't be able to pick it up. Who dares to ask for such a woman? There is no principle, no bottom line, and still lonely courage in the absence of any chance of victory, which is really sad and ridiculous.
Write at the back:
Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been called "the most difficult relationship in the world".
A woman because she married, called her husband's mother "mother", but in fact there is no blood relationship, two strange women are under the same roof day and night, this relationship itself is very complicated and delicate.
Because there is no blood kinship and no common life experience, no matter how close they are to each other, they always maintain a layer of politeness and alienation. This invisible distance makes it difficult to get close to each other, and the problems in it are understandable to everyone, but they are also at a loss, which is also the most headache.
What problems occur between the wife and the mother-in-law can only be passed on and solved through the husband and son in the middle, and this middleman is particularly important, and whether he solves it well or badly will directly affect the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and will also dominate the atmosphere of the whole family.
And Xiao Lu is obviously not an excellent leader, he is cheating on his wife, he is admitting mistakes; he is also coaxing and obedient to his mother. Then it seems that the problem does not exist, in fact, it is not solved at all, but each other is just looking at each other and pressing.
In the family life of a newborn, Xiao Lu also made a fatal mistake: escape.
I don't want to face the cries of my children and choose to work overtime, I don't want to face the contradictions between my wife and mother, and I choose to escape from going outside and not going home. The contrast between the ease of people and things outside and the contradictions and noises at home is the most test of a person's concentration, and Xiao Lu stepped into a deep pit in this self-relaxation.
The reason why Xiao Lu is relaxed or not indulgent is because "cheating" is not his original intention. But Xiao Lu's wrong thoughts and actions directly threaten his marriage, and also hurt his beloved wife and children, and he will eventually pay the price for his actions.
The third party, Zhu Zhu, made a big fuss about Fang Yinuo's daughter's birthday party, which caught everyone off guard. So how should Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu face each other? Will Fang Yinuo still forgive her cheating husband? Where will their marriage go?
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