Text/Li Zi Yan
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Children are the continuation of their parents' lives, the most precious gifts given by God to their parents, the spiritual pillar of their parents, the future and hope of their parents, and the soft underbelly of their parents.
When the child is young, the parents hold the pet and love, take care of it like a baby, teach the child to read and write, and tell him the truth of being a man, that is, I hope that when the children grow up, when they are old, they can make a difference and be filial to their parents.
Raising children and preventing old age is a traditional concept in China, even if there are some elderly people who have let go of their ideological concepts now, saying that they will go to the nursing home after they are old, and do not drag down their children, but in fact, they still hope that if one day when they are sick in bed, they can get the care of their children.
And the daughter and the son are different, although when I was young, I felt that whether it was my son or my daughter, it was my own heart, and there was no difference. But in the end, whether there is a difference, when the parents are old, they have the most right to speak and can feel it the most.
People do not understand until they are old that the difference between sons and daughters is too big, it is really real
The uncle's family had a son and a daughter. After the son got married, the younger two moved out to live on their own, and the daughter also married. Once at a family dinner, we all went, but we didn't see my cousin, and my uncle said, "This boy and his daughter-in-law went back to their mother's house." ”
Uncle said that when he was young, he didn't feel anything, and now that he married his daughter-in-law, he went back to his mother-in-law's house with his daughter-in-law every three minutes and five days, and he stayed for several days, but every time he came back to his home, he came in the morning, ate lunch and hurried away. I can't say a few words, and I can't count on him in the future.
On the contrary, the daughter calls from time to time to ask for warmth, and often comes back to see her parents with food and drink. Originally, I thought that my son would marry my daughter-in-law, so I supported this family, and I would rely on him to take care of this family in the future, but I didn't expect that I would not be able to compare with the daughter who married out.
"The daughter who marries out, the water that is spilled out", but forgets that the daughter is still a sweet little cotton jacket
The deep-rooted feudal ideology makes many people think that the son in a family is the heir of the "top pillar" and the family incense inheritance, and the daughter who marries out is like water spilled out, and it is difficult to harvest the water. Even in ancient times, when marrying into the husband's family, even the surname would be changed.
However, the daughter is born delicate, and the son is relatively large.
At Princeton University in the United States, a study of 26,000 elderly people showed that many elderly and sick parents prefer to have a daughter in their later years, because daughters are twice as likely to take care of their parents as sons.
Even in families with both children, most of them have daughters who take care of the elderly more often.
Grandma Wang's family has two sons, a daughter, and although both sons have their own small families, they are in the same city as their mother, and their daughters work in other places.
Grandma Wang accidentally fell down a few days ago, and the neighbors called her two sons, called the eldest son, who was on a business trip, and then called the younger son, who came and sent his mother to the hospital. After a day, something else happened, and then I left again.
Grandma Wang comforted herself and told her neighbors who came to visit her that the children were in trouble and did not blame them. Unexpectedly, after the daughter heard that her mother had broken a bone, she directly took three months off to take care of her mother.
Girls are generally soft-hearted, as long as they know that their parents are sick, they will worry in their hearts, and they would rather give up what they have at hand and run to their parents' side. Therefore, we can often see that the daughters who are not dressed in the ward are usually taken care of.
In addition, women are more careful, patient, and more intimate with their parents.
Parents should treat their children equally and set an example of filial piety to their elders
It is said that parents are the child's first teacher, so every word and deed of the parents, every move, like a mirror, will subtly affect the growth of the child.
Children will learn your words and deeds, and will think that everything you do is right, and they should follow suit.
Therefore, when educating children at home, whether it is a boy or a girl, they must be treated equally, and they must not be eccentric, and they cannot always think that their sons must be the pillars of the family, and their daughters are raised by others.
This old and pedantic concept should have been changed long ago, so that children can feel the same love from their parents.
Only children who are educated in the right way will they have a correct understanding of the three views, so that they can better understand what is the sense of responsibility and understand that taking care of their parents is their first responsibility and obligation.
In ordinary life, you can take your children to visit your parents, cook for them, clean the house, wash your parents' clothes, and comb your hair. Let the child see all these behaviors.
The purpose of this is to set an example for the child, so that the child understands early on what to do for the parents when they grow up.
Therefore, if you want to rely on the elderly, you must educate your children from an early age what is the love of parents for their children, and when they grow up, they will understand what is the love of their children for their parents, and they can pay correctly in order to get the same feedback.