There will be a lot of things that we don't expect, after all, we don't know which tomorrow and the accident will come first, and the nature of the child is jumpy and undetermined, and what magical things happen to them are forgivable.
There are also many things that we can think of, because we are all from that age, and we have experienced some things, such as: fights, quarrels, love to play games, etc.
We can't predict things, we don't have to pay too much attention to it, we just need to adjust our mentality, and face it with the child when the child encounters things, but these things that we can predict, we must also think in advance, to help the child foolproof results, such as: fight.
Earlier we said that the nature of children is to jump off, lively, but also do not accept to lose and love comparison, especially when playing with children, children always want to fight for one, two or three, which will be a lot of contradictions, in order to solve the contradiction, fighting must be the most direct and brutal and indispensable link.
Different children treat fights differently, some children will always fight back when others beat her, "one report and one report" and "return the level"; but some children choose to bear silently when others beat him. So how children should deal with such things correctly requires the special attention of those of us who are parents.
Naughty bags and gas bags
Xiaoming has been very well-behaved since he was a child, because his parents are strict, so Xiaoming is very obedient at home and outside, when he is in school, the naughty children in the class always bully him, he does not return his mouth and does not fight back, everyone says that Xiaoming is a "gas bag".
Xiaoming is also a special introvert when he grows up, because he has always been bullied since he was a child, and he has no self-confidence in everything he does.
XiaoFei is just the opposite of Xiaoming, Xiaofei has been a naughty bag since he was a child. Every day to the parents to get into trouble, not with this quarrel, or with that fight, Xiaofei's parents as soon as they receive the teacher's phone call to know what the teacher is going to say, with money to pay people for medical expenses on the end.
When he grew up, Xiaofei was also very motivated, the officer was bold and strong, and soon left a good impression on leaders and colleagues, which was also related to Xiaofei's personality from childhood.
It can be said that the different growth environments of the two children have caused their different styles, and at this time, parents begin to wonder whether they should fight or not? How to deal with fights?
What does the way a child handles a fight mean?
Not fighting back means agreeing
It is precisely because of the strictness of the family that Xiaoming has become introverted and weak since he was a child, because of the authority of his parents, he cannot resist at all, and at the same time, he cannot have his own ideas.
Bullied by other classmates outside, beaten, Xiaoming first thought about how to calm things down, how to do more than one thing is not as good as less, because parents know that they will definitely blame themselves, so they always choose to bear it silently when they are bullied, and agree with others' views on themselves, thus forming their own cowardly and inferior character.
Show your attitude by fighting back
But although Xiaofei's parents are also angry with their naughty children, but their sons have not suffered losses, every time they are also actively dealing with the mistakes made by Xiaofei, Xiaofei will be very stiff when facing the bullying of others outside.
In the face of other people's bullying, they also dare to fight back, show that they are not afraid of your bullying attitude, so that other children do not dare to continue to bully themselves, and in the long run, they have also developed an independent and optimistic, brave and strong character.
How can parents educate their children to avoid being bullied?
1, figure out the beginning and end of the matter, do not blame the child at the first time
When our children make mistakes, we must find out the origin of things at the first time, and never give children too much pressure like Xiaoming's parents, and think about how to blame the children the first thing they encounter problems.
In this way, the child will only become more and more afraid, more and more cowardly, after all, the parents are their strongest and last backing, if the parents do not support themselves, it is really very pitiful for a child, very helpless, do not let Xiaoming things happen to our children.
2. Pay attention to the child's emotions
Secondly, we must pay attention to the child's emotions, generally children are lively and active, children will not lie or hide from their parents at the beginning, but as parents' attitude towards children becomes more and more strict, children do not dare to casually say some words to their parents, after all, no one wants to always be scolded by their parents.
Therefore, parents must pay more attention to the child's emotions, see what is wrong with the child, help the child solve the problem, and eliminate the bad emotions in the heart, so as to prevent problems before they occur and help the child have a healthy and happy life.
3. Be more accompanied
Children are the most insecure when they are young, and they also need their parents the most, but now many parents are too stressed at work, more time is put on a job, the care for children is not put on the agenda, always think that children have teachers at school to watch, at home there are parents to watch.
But children actually need the careful companionship of their parents, not simply children can live safely, parents should often accompany their children, find the advantages of children, and help children grow up healthily.