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Boys should stand tall, boys should be more prominent!
After all, now there are more men and fewer women, want to have children after life is more smooth, want to be able to marry a daughter-in-law smoothly, not to leave a million family property for the child, but to raise a child with a job, the child has a job, he can earn his own wealth, the child does not have a job, the golden mountain and silver mountain can be defeated.
If you want your child to have a career, then parents should remember the 4 "don'ts"
First: Don't refuse to be close to your boys
Many mothers think that boys should have masculinity and not be sticky. Boys have tears without flicking, boys bleed without tears. In fact, the boy's brain development is slower than that of the girl, the boy may be more clingy to the mother when he is young, he needs more security, so the child should be close to the mother when he is young, at this time the mother should not refuse, do not think that he is a boy to be strong, the child after this time you want to be close to him, he will not be close to you again.
The child hugs him more before the age of three, kisses him more, and gives the child enough security to let him have more strength and stronger self-confidence to face the wind and rain of the outside world and face setbacks when he grows up.
Second: Don't be too aggressive mom, don't teach dad a lesson at home
Many families now mothers will be more strong, not only in the child's education, in the relationship between husband and wife will also be very strong, often in front of the child to teach the father, the father is worthless, do not know that this is a very negative impact on boys.
Many boys will be around 10 years old and will look for their own role model to imitate and worship, and this role model is most likely his father!
If the mother always belittles the father, it will make the child feel that the father cannot be his role model, without the role model, without imitation and worship, the child will be at a loss.
Third: Don't rush to tell your child the answer
Children will have many problems in the process of growing up, and many parents will directly help their children to solve problems when they encounter problems.
In fact, finding problems is the best scene for educating children, we must guide children to solve problems on their own, and only when children have the ability to solve problems, can he once again encounter such problems and be able to solve them very easily.
After all, our parents will slowly grow old, it is impossible to accompany the child forever, we must teach the child the ability to solve problems on their own, rather than directly telling the child the answer.
The child's ability to solve problems is there, and he will be more capable and easier to become a leader after he leaves the society.
Fourth: Don't be afraid of your child's suffering
no pain, no gain!
Especially boys, from a young age to educate him, become a man in the family, with the mother to go out to the supermarket to buy things, the mother can be appropriately weak, let the child help carry some things, tell the child when the child carries something, fortunately you are a boy, you see you are so strong can help the mother carry things, the mother is too happy, stimulate the child's little master mentality, stimulate the child's sense of responsibility, let the child know that he is the man in the family, he has the strength to help the mother.
From an early age, let children do their own housework, let children carry their own school bags, let children go to school by themselves, let children be more independent, let children know more about coordinating time, and know more about dealing with things around them, so that children can have more success in the future.
Harvard University did a follow-up study and found that children who loved to do housework from an early age had lower crime rates and higher salaries for their jobs.
So we raise boys who want him to be more successful in the future, we must let him suffer from snacks, let him do his own housework from an early age.
Parents should keep in mind the 4 no's, do not refuse the child's closeness to give the child enough security; mothers should not be too strict with the father, so that the child can have a clear imitation object when looking for idols; do not tell the child everything The answer should let the child learn to find the answer on his own, in order to teach the child the ability to solve the problem; do not be afraid of the child's hardship, and the child can grow faster if he suffers.
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