The mouth of the parent is a flower and a sword, which can not only pave the child's road with fragrant flowers, but also make the child's road full of thorns.
Everyone has a long life to go, and the words of parents are the street lights for children on their way forward.
The mouth of the parents can be the warm sun of March, or the cold wind of the waxing moon; it can be babbling water or the terrifying waves.
Every child is a blank piece of paper at the beginning of the opening of the eyes, and the words and deeds of the parents are pen and ink, adding different colors to the white paper. Everyone has a long life to go, and the words of parents are the street lights for children on their way forward.
The mouth of the parents can be the warm sun of March, or the cold wind of the waxing moon; it can be babbling water or the terrifying waves.
Every child is a blank piece of paper at the beginning of the opening of the eyes, and the words and deeds of the parents are pen and ink, adding different colors to the white paper.
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The mouth of the parent determines the child's path
Parents' daily words determine their children's attitudes.
Parents are the child's first teacher and the teacher who accompanies the child for the longest time.
"Raising or not teaching, the father's fault", from ignorance to the three views gradually become clear between right and wrong, parents play an important role in the growth process of children.
"It's not that a family doesn't enter a door", we can always find aspects of children's similarities with their parents in daily life, in fact, this is a kind of subtlety.
The ancients said that "near Zhu is red, near ink is black", the environment is very important for a person's growth, in the environment, the importance of the family environment is self-evident.
A person has more than half of his life belonging to a family, especially in early childhood. It is said that children are the shadow of their parents, and when children do not understand anything, when they first understand the world and explore the world, they imitate and learn from their parents.
Parents speak positively and gently in daily life, and children will become elegant; if parents complain and swear words, then children will not have good literacy.
In daily life, parents should be strict with themselves and set a good example for their children. Don't complain about others, don't say dirty words, don't slander others behind your back.
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The words of the parents who treat people determine the interpersonal relationships of the child
There are many children with social phobia who are helpless about how to get along with others and how to make friends with others, which is actually very related to the fact that in early childhood, parents did not make a good example of it.
There is a kind of learning, how parents associate with people, how to treat friends and relatives, children will continue to imitate in daily observation and then derive their own set of ways of making friends.
Parents have two sides and three knives to their friends, and children naturally cannot learn to be true to people. Parents are not filial to their parents, and children naturally have no sense of filial piety.
"Multiple friends and many roads", interpersonal relationships are very important for a person's development, no one can do without friends, no one can survive alone, the future world belongs to interpersonal relations and people who know how to get along.
If parents really plan for their children, they must let their children learn to get along with others, and let their children find their own way of treating others by observing how they get along with others.
The mouth of the parent determines the child's future path.
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The words of parents to their children affect the psychology of children
Words are an invisible knife, although the wound cannot be seen, once stabbed, it will not heal for a long time.
According to the survey of psychological experts, many people with psychological disorders are caused by verbal stimulation at a young age, and the reason why this verbal stimulation is so powerful is precisely because it comes from the closest population.
Many parents always think that there is no overnight feud between parents and children, no matter how ugly it is, he will not blame me and will understand my hard heart.
But in fact, when the child is hit by language, no matter how you explain it later, you can't eliminate this wound.
Parents shouting because of a little mistake of the child will make the child feel afraid, nervous, and will also make the child deny himself and become unconfident.
Parents' use of cold violence or verbal sneering against their children will make the child have a strong rebellious psychology and then take excessive behavior to attract attention.
In fact, it is not that the child is crooked, nor is it that the child does not understand things, but your casual words push the child on a crooked road.
Talk to the child, put the child in an equal position with you, do not criticize at any time, do not tolerate indulgence, talk to the child well, and communicate with him as an adult.
Parents with high emotional intelligence talk to their children like this
-01- Tone of trust
Children especially want to be trusted by adults, especially parents, so show full trust when speaking to children.
The child wants to learn to play badminton, and you say in a trusting tone:
"Children, as long as you study hard and study seriously, you will definitely learn to play."
This invisibly gives the child a sense of self-confidence and makes him understand that only persistence can achieve success. Let's use a sarcastic tone:
"You still want to play for three minutes like that?"
It will hurt a child's self-esteem and make him unconfident in his abilities.
-02- Respectful tone
From the age of two or three, a child's sense of self begins to sprout, and this sense of self becomes stronger as you age.
The child has some of his own opinions, indicating that the child knows his own strength and ability.
When he puts forward his different views and demands, don't think that he doesn't listen to you, is working against you, and rudely opposes him.
If you ask your child to learn English, but he still wants to play with his friends again, you can't lose your temper:
"The older you get, the more disobedient you become, and it's not good to study, depending on what you can do when you grow up."
Doing so will only make the child more averse to learning.
Should be in a respectful tone:
"Then you play a little longer, but when you're done, you must learn English."
The child accepted it.
-03- The tone of praise
Every child has strengths, has a desire to perform, and discovering the child's strengths and appreciating them will make him more willing to perform.
The child draws a picture, maybe the painting is not very good, but the child's enthusiasm and seriousness in painting are the biggest advantages.
When a child holds a picture to you, he cannot cope with a few words lightly:
"Draw well, practice well."
This will make children lose enthusiasm and confidence in drawing.
His work should be affirmed in an appreciative tone:
"I can't imagine that my baby can draw so well, and if I continue to work hard, I will definitely draw better."
The child's desire for expression is satisfied, and with a happy emotional experience, he will be more interested in drawing.
-04- The tone of praise
Every child has strengths, has a desire to perform, and discovering the child's strengths and appreciating them will make him more willing to perform.
The child draws a picture, maybe the painting is not very good, but the child's enthusiasm and seriousness in painting are the biggest advantages.
When a child holds a picture to you, he cannot cope with a few words lightly:
"Draw well, practice well."
This will make children lose enthusiasm and confidence in drawing.
His work should be affirmed in an appreciative tone:
"I can't imagine that my baby can draw so well, and if I continue to work hard, I will definitely draw better."
The child's desire for expression is satisfied, and with a happy emotional experience, he will be more interested in drawing.
In the face of the topic of life growth, the responsibility and wisdom of parents are everything. As long as we have the heart and the brain, we will surely find the happiest, most interesting and most optimized interactive games with the world, with the future, and with children.
And all these efforts will allow us to harvest a high-quality life.