Guangzhou Listen and Speak Bar Psychological Counseling Introduction:
As an adult, I often feel tired due to the pressures of life and unsatisfactory work.
In people's impressions, children are born carefree and do not have to worry about life, why do they become "tired"?
Ms. Zheng has been very distressed recently, her son is in the third year of junior high school this year, his grades are good, and recently he always says that he feels that his mind is not clear and he feels very tired. In fact, although my son's homework is very heavy, he goes to bed before 10 o'clock every day, and it should not be a lack of sleep.
Ms. Zheng wanted to ask her son what was wrong, but he didn't want to say it, just said he was too tired. Ms. Zheng asked the school teacher, who said that her son always dozed off when he attended the class, and the quality of the homework was not good; sometimes when the class was over, he was also seen listless.
Now, his grades have declined. I really don't know what to do.
Guangzhou listened to the bar psychological counseling children and adolescents psychological counseling analysis
Children feel tired, and as parents, they are naturally worried and anxious. Many children will have a sense of fatigue after intense learning, which is either physiological fatigue or psychological fatigue.
First, physiological fatigue
Physiological fatigue is caused by physiological overload.
Whether it is an adult or a child, if you participate in physical exertion, or participate in sports, you will have a certain degree of exhaustion. However, there is still a difference between children and adults, children are generally energetic, active, and after a short and sufficient rest, they can quickly eliminate fatigue and restore physical strength.
Adults may be due to lack of physical exercise, coupled with high work pressure, this tiredness is eliminated more slowly than children. Physiological tiredness is generally short-lived, if the child feels tired for a long time, then parents should pay attention.
Second, psychological fatigue
For children with high homework pressure, it is most likely to enter the period of psychological fatigue.
Especially for students in the graduating class, due to long-term repeated review, coupled with the anxiety brought about by the pressure of going to school, it will bring a certain sense of tension to the heart, resulting in anxiety, depression and other emotions, and the greater the psychological fatigue response at this time.
This subjective experience of tiredness will not only cause physical fatigue, but also lead to children's boredom with learning. If the child's psychological fatigue is very serious, it may develop into a psychological pathology, affecting physical and mental health.
So, for the child to appear fatigue feelings? How should we respond? Psychologists believe that it is not enough to ensure sleep time, but also to pay attention to the child's psychological state.
Parents should first distinguish whether the child belongs to physiological fatigue or psychological fatigue.
In general, children with psychological fatigue often have the following manifestations:
1. Unwilling to do homework, sleepy as soon as you read a book.
2. When reading a book, the attention is often not concentrated; When watching TV and movies, I relish it.
3. Do not want adults to ask about academic matters, often keep silent about parents' inquiries, or show irritability, or change the topic.
4. I can't lift my spirits during class, but I am very active after class.
5. Do not love school, do not want to see the teacher, more afraid of exams, and even every time to school, do not like the class, before the exam, there will be "stomach pain", "headache" and even "vomiting" reaction.
If the comparison finds that the child belongs to physiological fatigue, then parents can reflect on how the child's usual nutrition is.
How good is sleep?
Lack of physical activity?
If the answer is no, then you can work hard with your child, pay attention to letting your child exercise moderately, and prepare foods rich in vitamins, protein and iron for your child.
If the child is psychologically tired, then the parents do not have to panic too much. Some children are tired from frustration with learning and lack of confidence in themselves.
If the child is willing to communicate with the parents about the inner troubles, then the two sides can work together to overcome the difficulties in learning, help the child build confidence, improve the ability to cope with setbacks, and the child's psychological fatigue symptoms will be alleviated or eliminated.
Some children may find learning too boring and difficult to stick to every day.
When you can't have fun learning, then you can't learn enough. For this situation, parents should learn to help their children shift their attention and find the joy of life.
For example, taking children out to increase their exposure to nature and society, and preparing fun books related to the curriculum for children, so that children can feel endless fun and master knowledge.
When life is no longer boring and tedious, it will stimulate children's love for learning and enthusiasm for life, which can naturally reduce the child's inner tiredness.
What if the child is unwilling to communicate with the parents and does not cooperate? At this time, it is best for parents to seek the help of a psychologist.
Psychological counselors are more aware of the characteristics of children's psychological development at each stage, and can make children willing to say their inner thoughts according to the child's personality characteristics and psychological state, which is also a way to eliminate tiredness, because when the child's repressed things are released, the heart will be much more comfortable.
The most important thing is to find out the root cause of the child's fatigue in order to help the child in a targeted manner.