There is a passage in the documentary "Shengmen": "We don't know how we will leave, but we must know how we came to this world!" ”
This real documentary, recording the difficult journey of how each life came to this world, as a mother of two children, I still dare not watch it, because it seems that watching it once will hurt once and cry once.
How hard is it for a woman to have a child?
The recent hit TV series "Dear Child", it is a family life drama directed by Hu Kun, starring Qin Hao, Ren Suxi, Nie Yuan, Xie Keyin, and Huang Miyi. Many women tear up after watching the first verse, because it is too real, as if they see their own shadow.
01. Changes in women after pregnancy
At the beginning of the TV series, Fang Yinuo, starring Ren Suxi, looked at her own face carefully in the mirror, the butterfly spots on her face, the yellow face, and the whole person had no spirit. As the camera switches, I immediately see her belly, the delicate Fang Yinuo, a big belly like a watermelon stripe, which is obviously a pregnancy pattern.
In the third trimester of pregnancy, Fang Yinuo's legs and feet are swollen, can not bend, the action is inconvenient, especially want to eat rice noodles with peppers, but because of pregnancy can only eat without peppers, the husband eats spicy rice noodles outside, to Fang Yinuo packaged not spicy home, she ate two bites on the full.
Fang Yinuo reclined on the sofa, waiting for her husband to cut the fruit, but after the husband cut the fruit and came out, she was already asleep. Her husband didn't wake her up and let her sit on the couch and sleep for a night, waking up stiff and unable to move, while his husband left a note to go to work.
Women who have given birth to children know that, especially in the third trimester, it is very uncomfortable for the stomach to grow larger and press the bladder against the stomach, frequent fetal movements, it is difficult to fall asleep, and at this time, I hope to unload the goods early.
But Fang Yinuo is still in class, she is a teacher, and she still has to teach the children.
Fang Yinuo was training the child when suddenly the amniotic fluid broke. She quickly called her husband, and then said to the students: "I'm going to have a baby, you guys be honest." Fang Yinuo was then taken to the hospital.
There are two more points that are true here:
First, most women, like Fang Yinuo, have all kinds of discomfort in the late stages of pregnancy, and changes in their bodies, as if they have seen their former selves, and they do not know how they survived in the first place;
The second is the same husband in the same world, women are pregnant with a variety of abstinence, men are not the same, can still enjoy a variety of food, Fang Yinuo's husband is not bad, know to deceive the wife, some husbands not only do not understand, but feel that women are pregnant is a pretense. Another thing, Fang Yinuo fell asleep on the sofa, as the husband is just to help cover the quilt, like most men, they will not think that women are difficult to sleep like this, their hearts are not as fine as women's.
Two points are too real to make women cry, and life may be more real than life drama.
02. Where is the husband when a woman gives birth to a child?
Fang Yinuo's amniotic fluid was broken, and she informed her husband at the first time, but the first person to rush to the hospital was Fang Yinuo's mother, perhaps because of the distance, or the mother was more concerned about her daughter.
After Fang Yinuo's husband Xiao Lu rushed to the hospital, Fang Yinuo was already in the delivery room, which meant that the child could be born at any time, but in the delivery room, Xiao Lu received a phone call and left. Xiao Lu did not go to the hospital to see his wife at the first time after finishing his work, but went home to drink beer and watch the playing show and then lay down on the sofa and fell asleep. On the other hand, Fang Yinuo also swore an oath: "I am so big, I can't give birth to him." But her stomach hurt in the back, Fang Yinuo clutched the sheets with both hands, and immediately she "surrendered", not because she was not brave, but because the pain was really too painful.
Fang Yinuo was pushed into the operating room, and the signature was signed by her mother, because Xiao Lu's phone was called and no one answered, and the man could even be late for his wife to give birth.
Fang Yinuo "fought" alone in the operating room, how painful and how embarrassing, people who have experienced it understand.
Xiao Lu rushed to the hospital for a while when the child was born, and before he could see the child, he hurriedly took the placenta given to him by the nurse and left alone to give it to his old wife, because his old wife told him that this was a big supplement, and she wanted to take it back to the soup.
At this time, Fang Yinuo's mother was not in the hospital, Xiao Lu was busy delivering placenta, and no one was there when Fang Yinuo was pushed out of the operating room, and the pain in his body was more painful than the pain in his heart. In the elevator, the conversation between the nurses seemed to be a sharp knife that plunged into Fang Yinuo's heart.
In the hospital room, everyone was concerned about the newborn baby, but no one cared about Fang Yinuo lying on the bed, she wanted to take a glass of water, she couldn't get it, only Fang Yinuo's mother noticed, only her own mother cared most about herself. The joy in the room was everyone's, and the pain and grievance belonged only to her.
What a real picture, similar to the scene where most women give birth.
How many women have experienced the absence of the husband who has given birth to a child?
Some people are not around because their husbands are busy, and there is no way to go into the delivery room alone to give birth, but some husbands let their wives go to the delivery room alone to give birth for some reasons that can obviously be rejected or avoided. Women are having children for the first time, pain, fear, helplessness, then I hope to have a strong backing behind my strength, and there are many possibilities of having children, and I really need my husband to be with me.
Xiao Lu came, but he was late, late, for the sake of the old woman's selfish interests, did not wait outside the delivery room, quietly went to the old woman to send placenta soup, which made this woman who had just experienced 12 levels of pain bear unbearable pain again.
Write at the end:
Because this TV series is too real, many women watched the first episode on the tears, some netizens asked: There are still all kinds of tribulations behind, is it still necessary to watch?
Answer: Of course it is necessary.
Life drama is too real, this is not our life, maybe you are going through a certain stage like Fang Yinuo, as difficult as her, but you have to know that after experiencing it, you know that you can be so powerful.
Romain Rolland famously said: There is only one kind of true heroism in the world, that is, to recognize the truth of life and still love life.
We look at other people's stories and think about our own lives. We have all survived such a difficult life, what are we afraid of in our lives now? After recognizing the truth of life, we still love life, which is the posture we should have in life.
So the TV series must continue to chase, there is reason, there is sensibility, this is the TV series, but also life, what do you think?
I am January Love August, watching other people's stories and tasting my own life. If the article helps you, I hope you will also help me. How far a person can go, the key lies in who to walk with, I use the whole way across the mountains and seas, I hope to get your "like" praise.