Zhang Ailing said: Born in this world, there is no feeling that is not full of holes. Life in the world, is not that the same thing, in the final analysis, what is true and what is false?
What is the most beautiful look of a woman?
It is not a husband and a godson, nor is it honest and obedient, nor is it a well-behaved and money-saving, but you can live the life you want on your own.
Elegant, confident and calm, this has always been the shining point of Fang Yinuo in the TV series "Dear Child". Before giving birth, Fang Yinuo has always lived according to his own wishes, and his relationship with her husband Xiao Lu has always been very stable.
Having a child, how to make elegant and beautiful women return to their ancestors?
The amniotic fluid is broken
Giving birth in October is a very beautiful and sacred thing. Only those who have experienced it understand that the process is both hard and not "beautiful".
Fang Yinuo (played by Ren Suxi) is a high school teacher who is still teaching students in her late pregnancy.
When he was doing ideological work for the students, perhaps because of excitement, Fang Yinuo actually broke the amniotic fluid on the podium.
In front of the whole class of students, the water broke, fortunately, the students are already high school students. If it is a primary school student, it is estimated that they will be frightened by the teacher.
Fang Yinuo was very calm: You continue to go to class, I will give birth to a child.
After speaking, Fang Yinuo also asked the students to take mops and mop the floor.
All this is not a big deal in her eyes. She was still calm like a teacher, not at all like an anxious new mother who was about to give birth.
Fang Yinuo's knowledge is also generally reflected in letting her husband go to work, and she and her mother are waiting for delivery in the hospital alone.
In fact, during childbirth, the company of others cannot replace the role of husband.
Fang Yinuo still overestimated himself. She thought that giving birth to a child was a trivial matter, and when the pain came, the calm and elegant female teacher also collapsed, shouting that she wanted to have a caesarean section and did not want to have a smooth birth.
Living in a ward with several people, facing the pain once every five minutes, Fang Yinuo could only grit his teeth and stay up, and the people around him could not help.
In the delivery room, Fang Yinuo fought alone, his face full of sweat and tears. A close-up of the painful and vicious expression lying on the delivery bed made people feel Fang Yinuo's pain.
Here I would like to say that Ren Suxi's acting skills are very exquisite, and the pain of female childbirth is vividly brought into play.
"Dear Child" really dared to shoot. The incomparably realistic and heartfelt plot, coupled with Ren Suxi's tense and delicate performance, instantly makes people have a sense of substitution.
She gave birth to a daughter by herself.
The moment she gave birth to her daughter, she broke into tears. The reason for crying is not because of pain, but because of the pain of her daughter's future experience.
Postpartum urinary and urinary incontinence
Daughter Hehe was born, and Fang Yinuo was pushed back to the ward by the doctors. Her husband Xiao Lu (played by Qin Hao) is still not by her side.
The disappointment and fatigue on her face were only digested and experienced by herself.
The child came out and all the people paid attention to the child. The husband is more of a tool man, and he is not as good as his male friend Xie Tianhua (played by Nie Yuan) and his female girlfriend.
The mother-in-law (played by Li Qinqin) holds the child, the father is relatively large, no one pays attention to Fang Yinuo, and no one knows that she is thirsty.
Only Fang Yinuo's mother saw it. This scene is a breaking defense. No one in this world can have the same love for you, only your own parents.
Remembering a previous variety show, GAI's wife Wang Siran after giving birth, the whole family watched her breastfeeding, she suddenly had an emotional breakdown and cried, feeling like being watched by others like an animal, very uncomfortable.
People who have not had children think that she is arrogant, and only people who have given birth to children can understand her feelings.
I thought it would be good to have a baby, but women have to face much more than that. Postpartum urinary incontinence became the first problem that Fang Yinuo had to face.
Fang Yinuo lived in a multi-person ward, because the conditions were limited, he could only pull the curtain.
Husband Xiao Lu was the first person to smell the stink.
This smell was the greatest embarrassment to the decent Fang Yinuo.
Women's difficulty
Having a child, the dignity of women is lost. Who understands Fang Yinuo's shame?
As an elegant, confident high school teacher, she has always been a decent woman.
The shame that fang felt when he was wearing diapers and listening to his husband muttering something smelly in the hospital room. Only those who have experienced it firsthand will understand.
Facing my own urinary incontinence for the first time. She was ashamed of herself, covered her face with a pillow, looked up and let her husband out, and did not let him help clean up.
At this time, Fang Yinuo should not even hate himself. What woman would like to be so embarrassed in front of her husband?
If the stretch marks and freckles on her face that she had been pregnant with before made her dislike herself, then incontinence was a higher level of self-loathing.
At such an embarrassing moment, you can only let your husband do it. I can't let my own father help.
Husband Xiao Lu endured to help his postpartum wife Fang Yinuo clean up the defecation. Although his mouth said that he was not disgusted, his subconscious actions could not deceive people.
Outside the door, husband Xiao Lu has been rubbing his hands with hand sanitizer many times and has been smelling his hands. This action shows that Xiao Lu is disgusted in his heart.
In addition to being shy, Fang Yinuo's difficulty was also incomprehensible.
There is no course or school in the world that allows a girl of a pattern to learn how to be a perfect mother in an instant, but the moment she becomes a mother, all mothers demand this.
When the child is born, in addition to overcoming the physical discomfort, it also faces feeding the child, blocking the milk, and the child getting sick.
Babies under the age of one month cry many times a night, and taking the baby at night is a difficult process. Looking at the man next to him, he slept soundly, and the taste of it was only understood by the person who was a mother.
Fang Yinuo, a new mother, also had a breakdown, and despite the emotional breakdown, she still did not shout at the baby.
There are not too many hoarse pictures, but there are soft knives everywhere, and the knife is stuck in the heart.
What really makes people break the defense is that their young baby is lying in the hospital with his hands and feet tied up to take a blue light. This is Mom's weakness. Fang Yinuo, a new mother, is not pretentious, but loves her child too much, worried that she can't protect her.
As a novice mother, her obsession with breastfeeding is understandable, and the mother only wants to give the best to the child, but ignores that her health and emotions will quietly affect the fate of the child and the direction of the family.
From Fang Yinuo, we can see the sacrifices women make in trying to balance family and career. For the sake of the child's living environment, she did not want her mother-in-law to smoke, she has been calmly handling it, and insists on breastfeeding the child.
In order to take better care of the children, he also gave up the opportunity to be a class teacher.
The only thing that is lacking in the play is that the drama plays the hardships and difficulties of birth and adoption, but it does not mention anything about the sweetness and joy of the newborn parents. The sweetness and joy of childbearing is completely replaced by the bitterness of childbearing, which is far greater than the sweetness.
In real life, sweetness is far greater than bitterness, and the connection with children often makes newborn parents have an extraordinary sense of sacredness.
In real life, there is a husband like Xiao Lu, but more will be a good husband like Xie Tianhua.
Believe that bitterness is still greater than sweetness.
Children are born for themselves, not for others. It's just that the current Fang Yinuo has not yet set up this mentality.
End with Yi Shu's words: Whatever you do, remember to do it for yourself, so that you have no complaints.