Wen | Gu Ziyu
01.
Some people joke that there is a creature in this world that does not smoke, does not drink, does not play cards, he hurts his wife, loves his children, will make money, go to the hall and enter the kitchen, and also honor his mother-in-law, his name is "other people's husband".
In the real world, many people will make a mistake, unconsciously comparing what they have with others, and the more they compare, the more they feel that others are good.
Other people's wives are good, husbands are good, and even other people's children are good, just like we often hear a saying: other people's children, but many people ignore the point, "other people's family".
In the same way, in the eyes of some wives, their husbands are a piece of grass, how to see how unpleasant; looking at other people's husbands is a treasure, how to see how to feel good.
Of course, there are many reasons for this result, not necessarily the fault of one party, perhaps both sides have problems, but no matter what, people still have to keep their hearts, can not be easily shaken.
After Xiaomei graduated from middle school, a person went to work in other places, in a strange city, there is often a sense of loneliness, fortunately, most of the colleagues are like her, from different places, everyone slowly have communication.
Li Liang, who is in the same workshop as Xiaomei, takes extra care of her, making her feel very warm, and the two young people who are working in a foreign country gradually come together.
Li Liang's hometown is also in the field, but also came to this city alone, although the economic conditions are average, but he also did his best to give Xiaomei a warm little home.
02.
Xiaomei's parents did not agree to her going out to work at the beginning, and when they learned that their daughter was in love, they were very opposed, and they did not want their daughter to marry far away.
But Xiao Mei Iron heart did not go back, parents are very angry, did not come to the wedding when married, during the Spring Festival, the little two went back to a trip, parents did not give her a good face, never went back.
Xiaomei felt that she had no mother's family, often sad and secretly crying, once drank too much, Li Liang carried her home on her back, comforted her and said that he would always be good to her.
When they got married, they rented a house, and the two of them agreed to save money to buy a house together, so Li Liang also changed to a job with a higher salary, but after a few years, the speed of their saving money was far from keeping up with the acceleration of house prices.
Xiaomei watched the little sisters around her have their own houses one after another, and her heart began to worry, she often muttered in front of Li Liang, and Li Liang was a little annoyed after a long time.
Later, Li Liang did not go home much after work, often found excuses to drink with friends, play cards, play games, Xiaomei felt upset, she went out with her little sisters, and later met other men.
One of the men was very good to Xiaomei, and whenever Xiaomei was in a bad mood, he would enlighten and comfort her, and drive to take Xiaomei for a ride.
Xiaomei compares this man with Li Liang from time to time, people are locals, the conditions are good, they are also very mature and stable in the world, they know how to care about people, and they are better than their own men.
Xiaomei felt more and more that Li Liang was not worthy of herself, and once saw Li Lianghao pulling on her slippers and wearing large pants and coming out of the bathroom, with disgust and contempt in her eyes.
Li Liang also felt the change in Xiaomei, and he felt that he could still perceive it when he was hated, and he also felt that Xiaomei might have someone else in his heart.
He had worked in a unit with Xiaomei before, most of Xiaomei's friends he knew, he asked around, no one paid attention to him, where did he know that the local man had already "conquered" the people around Xiaomei.
03.
Xiaomei looked down on Li Liang more and more, they often quarreled over a little thing, and then Xiaomei proposed a divorce, Li Liang did not agree, Xiaomei moved to the factory.
Li Liang came home from work and saw the empty house, dumbfounded, she ran to Xiaomei's unit to find Xiaomei, he couldn't do without Xiaomei.
Li Liang began to beg Xiaomei to go home, and also promised to make good money in the future and buy a house as soon as possible, but Xiaomei scoffed, and finally the two people quarreled.
Later, the local man rushed over, pretending to be a fight, which completely annoyed Li Liang, and he felt that Xiaomei would not propose to divorce him for no reason, and now he found the reason.
Li Liang questioned Xiaomei about the relationship with this man, Xiaomei went up and gave Li Liang a slap, and scolded her for not being a man, Li Liang was blinded, only to know that his marriage had already had problems.
It turned out that as soon as Li Liang appeared, Xiaomei's friend called the man, and the other party came to support Xiaomei for the first time.
Li Liang thought about his previous relationship with Xiaomei, he did not want to give up their marriage, he found Xiaomei and asked her if she wanted to marry each other, but Xiaomei was silent.
The man's conditions are very good in all aspects, his wife is still working in the system, he can't compare with each other, there can be no future between them, this Xiaomei knows better than anyone.
Li Liang told Xiaomei to give her a month to think about it, if he wanted to go home, he would wait for her, and if he didn't go home, he would wish her happiness.
Write at the end:
Everyone wants to pursue a high-quality life in the person, such a like the fa is not wrong, but to see clearly what position they are in, not to mention without the bottom line of life, to blindly compare.
Carnegie said in "The Weakness of Human Nature": Many of the troubles in life stem from our blind comparison with others and forget to enjoy our own lives.
To be a person, we must learn to cherish, can not look at the good of others, think that what they have is all crap, other people's good is others', and has nothing to do with themselves.
People who really have the ability are thinking about how to use what they have in their hands to exert the ultimate energy, and one day they can become sparkling.
Proper comparison in life is not a bad thing, find the gap, and then go to narrow the gap, this is a positive force, but can not go to the side of the sword, want to be crooked.
If you really want to compare, then compare with your own yesterday, as long as you live better than yesterday, that is the biggest progress, but also the most meaningful thing in life.
Everyone's starting point is different, some people are born in Rome, some people have not found a way to Rome in their lifetime, can't such people live?
Don't go too far to compare, to tangle, other people's husbands are people's, other people's children have nothing to do with us, as long as you live your own life, today is a little better than yesterday, that is the best life.
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About the Author: Gu Ziyu, a freelance writer, shares stories with you that have a temperature.