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The wife asked the husband to sever relations with the in-laws, and the husband: I endured for 30 years, and if I did not agree, I would be abused

Wen | Gu Ziyu

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It is said that one of the most frightening questions men is that the woman next to him asks him: If I fall into the water with your mother at the same time, who will you save first?

In the face of such a proposition, many men feel headaches, so when answering, they will be insincere, or take care of him, but the more so, the more the other party wants an accurate answer.

Some men said vaguely that my swimming skills were so good that there would be no such problems, and some people were secretly fierce: I would not put my old mother and daughter-in-law into a swimming pool...

In fact, there is a standard answer to this question, from a legal point of view, if it is an unmarried man and woman, the man has the responsibility to save his mother at the first time, if it is a married couple, the man must deal with it according to the actual situation.

There will not be so many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in life at the same time, but there are too many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in life because of family conflicts, so that the man in the middle is struggling to survive in the cracks.

The wife asked the husband to sever relations with the in-laws, and the husband: I endured for 30 years, and if I did not agree, I would be abused

Mr. Chen and Ms. Zhang have been married for nearly 30 years, and the two couples often quarrel over some family issues, and the wife even often fights, so that Mr. Chen has a feeling of oppression, but he also dares to be angry.

When he was young, Mr. Chen fell in love with Ms. Zhang at first sight, and in order to hold the beauty, he did not hesitate to spend a lot of money to buy a wedding and repair the house, but the in-laws felt that there was no need to waste so much, and they all had a lot of opinions about Ms. Zhang.

At that time, Mr. Chen was doing his own business, and he had more money in his hands, but the other brothers and sisters in the family were more difficult, and his parents felt that Mr. Chen did not have to do a lot of work when he got married, so that the money saved could also help the family.

Mr. Chen did not want to grievance the beloved, the family took the spearhead at Ms. Zhang, Ms. Zhang simply did not do two, let the husband choose between family affection and love, which made Mr. Chen very embarrassed.

The wife asked the husband to sever relations with the in-laws, and the husband: I endured for 30 years, and if I did not agree, I would be abused

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Ms. Zhang regards her husband's money as dead, she does not want the in-laws to spend her husband's money, even if the in-laws are not, she is always rejecting her relatives in her husband's hometown.

Once on the Qingming Festival, the husband wanted to go back to his hometown to worship the ancestors, when he left, Ms. Zhang found that her husband's mobile phone had more than a thousand yuan, and when she came back, she found that the money was gone, checked the transfer records, and found that the money was transferred to his sister.

Ms. Zhang asked her son to call her aunt to ask about it, and the aunt said that her brother borrowed it from her a few years ago, and this meeting was returned, Ms. Zhang was angry when she heard it, which was impossible, and the two sides quarreled.

Mr. Chen came back and said that it was pension money for his parents, and Ms. Zhang still did not forgive, she said that she had broken off relations with his parents, why should I give them pension money.

The wife asked the husband to sever relations with the in-laws, and the husband: I endured for 30 years, and if I did not agree, I would be abused

Mr. Chen faced his wife's questioning, or used silence to resist, he said that he was very sad in his heart, his wife had no parents very early, and when he got married, he promised his wife's sister that he would treat her well, so he could not break his word.

If Mr. Chen returns to his hometown, he will have to quarrel a lot, and after a long time, Mr. Chen will use silence to fight, but the more this happens, the more angry the wife is, and the more anxious she begins to tear up her husband, sometimes no matter what she has at hand, she will fight when she operates.

Mr. Chen did not resist, he gritted his teeth and endured, such an attitude made Ms. Zhang feel more angry, and finally he was angry with himself.

Even if the wife does not do well, she can endure it herself, and the parents still have to secretly take care of it, and there is no way to be found and beaten by the wife.

The wife asked the husband to sever relations with the in-laws, and the husband: I endured for 30 years, and if I did not agree, I would be abused

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Mr. Chen is really wronged on both sides, it is really not easy to live, it is difficult to imagine how much suffering and helplessness in these 30 years.

On the one hand is his own relatives, on the other side is his lover, the palms of his hands and the backs of his hands are all flesh, losing which one is painful, Mr. Chen is on both sides and thin mud, but he is the most guilty.

With his elderly parents on the one hand and his sick wife on the other, Mr. Chen felt that he could not always have such an attitude, and he wanted to change the status quo and see if things could turn around.

The couple found an emotional expert to seek help, and under everyone's analysis and enlightenment, Ms. Zhang realized that there were really many problems in her body.

For Ms. Zhang, her parents left early, and she did not appreciate her parents' love for her, let alone the return to her parents, so she made herself selfish.

The wife asked the husband to sever relations with the in-laws, and the husband: I endured for 30 years, and if I did not agree, I would be abused

From the standpoint of their parents, they hope that ten fingers can be average long, and that they can help their brothers and sisters in a good life, which is the idea that most parents have.

The emotional expert also reminded Ms. Zhang that her attitude towards her in-laws will directly affect her child's attitude towards her in the future, which is a very serious problem.

In-laws are more than eighty years old, how many years can they live, some things are not a big deal, why bother with endless?

Heart disease also needs to be healed, too obsessed with hatred, there is no benefit, if you put these things down, the heart is calm, the body will be better.

The wife asked the husband to sever relations with the in-laws, and the husband: I endured for 30 years, and if I did not agree, I would be abused

Write at the end:

It is said that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies, and some smart women will properly handle this kind of problem, they know that if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not harmonious, their husbands will be the most uncomfortable.

They will first solve the problem on their own, do not throw the problem to their husbands, and if they can't solve it themselves, then choose to avoid it, rather than make the relationship stiff.

They know that even if the mother-in-law is not good, it is also their own man's mother, and they can only avoid it for their own man not to be splinted.

There are some occasions when you can't go, but you can't help but let your husband go, which is also a roundabout way to solve the problem, which is better than fighting swords as soon as they meet.

Many times, put the problem open and put it down, there is not so much to worry about, life for decades, in the blink of an eye will pass, where there is no hatred that can not be passed.

It is not a family that does not enter a door, who meets in this life is doomed, good relationships should be cherished, bad relationships should learn to coordinate, this is the life problem that they have to face.

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About the Author : Gu Ziyu, a freelance writer, shares with you emotional stories with warmth.

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