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It is said that art reflects real life, which is not false at all.
Some time ago, I watched the TV series "Our Marriage", focusing on the married life of Bai Lily and her husband, Jiang Xin and her husband.
Although Bai Lily is also a high-achieving student who graduated from a top university, she chose to teach her husband and children at home after marriage, and became a full-time mother after having a daughter, and used her talents to run the family. And Jiang Xin plays a strong woman in the workplace, for the development of his wife's workplace, the husband who is also highly educated has become a full-time father at home, a family cook, and takes care of the family and children in an orderly manner.
It is precisely because the stay-at-home mother or the family cooker runs the family well that the other half can work hard outside with peace of mind. But they themselves are not only disliked by others, but also disliked by their other half. Bai Lily's husband feels that he earns money, and his wife is blessed to bring a baby at home. Jiang Xin felt that the husband of the family cooking man could not get his hands on it.
The family, workplace, and character identity issues reflected in this TV series are really realistic. Excellent full-time dads in life are not common, but excellent stay-at-home moms are everywhere, but this status is not recognized by the public or even partners. Regardless of men and women, no matter how well the home is managed, whoever brings the baby at home is disliked.
The one in the family is always considered to be easily replaced, without creating value
Although many full-time at home parties, at the beginning, it was also for the better operation of the family, so that the other half could work harder, in the end, it was also to complete the other half. They did not rest in the family, taking care of the housework, taking care of the children, serving the parents of both sides, and handling all the trivialities in the family properly.
The other half who worked outside came home with delicious meals to serve, clean ironed clothes to change into, smart and sensible children to get close to, and so on. All of this is the result of the great effort and energy of the person at home. But because these are done at home, others seem to feel effortless, even indifferent, feel that the work at home is easy and easy, anyone can do it, and whoever works hard outside.
So he despised this one in the family, thinking that the other party was a parasite, supporting himself, and he did not create any value for the family. And I am full of superiority, and I am at home. Completely ignoring the efforts and sacrifices of the other half for the family. This state of mind does not distinguish between men and women, anyway, whoever takes the baby at home is disliked.
Later in the TV series, Bai Lily's husband experienced a trip with a baby alone, and he deeply understood her difficulty, began to understand her more, and the marriage relationship between the two turned dangerous and ended happily. But the reality is not a film and television drama, the reality is often until the marriage disintegrates, many people do not recognize each other's sacrifice and dedication to the family.
The family is run by two people
The good and orderly operation of a family requires the joint cooperation of both husband and wife. Whether it is a cooperation model within the male or female protagonist, it is a decision made by weighing the pros and cons of both sides, and the two perform their duties, exert their maximum value, and run the family well. At the same time, with more understanding and support for the other half, the marriage can become more and more stable, and the family can get better and better.
【Topic Discussion: What do you think about who is disliked at home with a baby?】 】
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