Tolstoy once said that happy families are all similar, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes.
For parents, it is the most unfortunate thing in a lifetime to raise ungrateful children. For children, the most unfortunate thing in a lifetime is to be dragged down by parents who sit back and wait for their children to retire.
Whether it is the former or the latter, it is a great regret and tragedy of a lifetime. Because of such tragedies and shadows, it will follow me for a lifetime, until you finally get rid of these family members and relatives who do not know how to score inches.
01, relying on their own efforts to finish college, but reduced to their parents' ATMs
30-year-old Yang Lu, did not expect that his undergraduate graduates would actually fall to a large age, and no one dared to marry, and eventually became a complete "leftover fighter", seeing the white eyes of others and suffering a lot.
Yang Lu is the eldest daughter in the family, but she is not the favorite child in her parents' minds. It wasn't until my brother was born that the smiles on my parents' faces showed. Since then, Yang Lu has become a nanny who takes care of her brother.
Obviously, he and his brother are only 3 years apart, but Yang Lu is a well-deserved housekeeper and nanny. When my brother was young, it was Yang Lu who was taking his younger brother. When his brother grew up and studied, he was still Staring at Yang Lu. Even later, his parents also let Yang Lu earn money for his brother to study.
In the first few years of work, Yang Lu was grateful for her parents' nurturing grace and did not dare to disobey her parents' orders. But every time a salary is paid, most of his salary is asked to go by his parents, and Yang Lu is also very unhappy in his heart.
After Yang Lu finished providing for his brother's four years of college, his parents simply went on strike, saying that they were old, their children were out of work, and they should also raise their children and enjoy the blessings of the world.
As a result, Yang Lu, who was supposed to marry and start a family, became a cash cow and ATM for the family. The parents have no living expenses and ask for their daughters. The younger brother has no living expenses, and he asks for his sister.
02, Fu Di Devil cried that no one dared to marry
Yang Lu thought about resisting, but every time she refused to give money to her parents and brother, her parents began to fight with her, until Yang Lu compromised to give money. The number of times is more, Yang Lu is also tired, but she can't escape the control of her parents.
Later, his brother had a job and could finally support himself, and Yang Lu thought that he could relax. As a result, only two years later, my brother was clamoring to buy a house and get married. But the younger brother can barely support himself, and what do he buy a house to get married?
In the end, the burden of buying a house for his brother once again fell on Yang Lu's head. Yang Lu is unwilling, and she is also a lot older, but over the years, because she wants to adopt her parents and brother, she has not dared to accept other people's confessions and overtures. Because she didn't want others to know that she had a pair of parents and brothers who constantly asked for money, and she didn't want to be seen as humble.
Yang Lu refused to pay for her brother to buy a house and let him find his own way. However, the parents did not forgive, thinking that Yang Lu's wings were hardened, and he began to be ungrateful, unwilling to help his parents and brother again.
Yang Lu had no choice but to agree. But a house in a big city, how can she afford a person with a monthly salary of 9,000 yuan? But her parents did not believe her complaints, believing that she was deliberately crying poorly, just to avoid buying a house for her brother.
03, "Parents in their early 50s, just sit and wait for the pension, let me buy a house for my brother to get married"
Even if Yang Lu took out all her savings of 50,000 yuan, her parents have always thought that she has selfish intentions and reservations, urging her to borrow money from friends and negotiate her brother's marriage smoothly first, and a family cannot raise two single sticks at the same time.
Yang Lu was forced to be helpless and borrowed all over his friends, which borrowed another 50,000 yuan. It's just that this 50,000 yuan is still too little disliked by parents. Thinking that since she started working, she has been adopting her parents and raising her brother, and now she has to help her brother buy a house and get married, and even when her brother gets married, her parents will definitely force her to help pay off the mortgage and raise her nephews and nieces.
The more Yang Lu thought about it, the more afraid she became, such a heavy day had already crushed her. She did not dare to fall in love, did not dare to get married, and did not dare to accept the good of others. Because she was afraid that she would not be able to give others the same return and response.
Occasionally, she let down her guard and truthfully confessed her original family to people, and the man who had just sworn to her in front of her fled in the blink of an eye, saying that he did not want to marry a brother demon, but wanted to raise the mother's family of the brother demon.
Under the pressure of her parents, Yang Lu was disheartened. In the dead of night, she couldn't help but burst into tears: her parents were in their early 50s, waiting for the pension, and let me buy a house for my brother and get married.
Yang Lu even thought about blocking all the contact information of her parents and brother, changing her mobile phone number, quitting her job, changing to a new city, and starting her own new life. It's just that she has forced herself to be cruel countless times, but she has been soft and compromised countless times. And in such a life, she does not know when to be the head.
Today's Topic:
Do you support Yang Lu's severance of ties with her parents?