Some people say: On the road to educating children, where the heart is, the flowers bloom.
However, many parents think they spend a lot of time and energy on their children, but the children's performance is not satisfactory.
Procrastination, rubbing, no concept of time, addicted to electronic products, temperamental, like to recoil parents, self-righteous...
All this makes parents anxious and confused.
In fact, the more this is the case, the more we can't mess up the square inches, and we must calm down and stabilize ourselves.
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Steady your mouth
Good education starts from good companionship, and good companionship is inseparable from good communication and exchange between parents and children.
Therefore, parents must stabilize themselves, first of all, they must start from stabilizing their mouths.
Keep your mouth shut, hold back nagging and scolding, and try not to blurt out when you are excited and angry.
Last year's hit TV series "Little Shede", one of the plots said that when Xia Junshan tutored her daughter Huanhuan's homework, her emotions were out of control and she couldn't help but get angry at her daughter.
The more you talk, the more you scold, the more irrational you become.
As a result, Huan Huan cried and vomited, and afterwards told his mother that he did not like his father more and more.
Seeing this, many parents have the same feeling: the words spoken when they are angry are like spilled water, and they cannot be recovered.
It not only hurts the child's self-esteem, hits the child's self-confidence, but also makes the parent-child relationship gradually drift away.
Especially for children in the rebellious period, the excessive preaching of parents, like a noisy, high-decibel noise, disturbs the child's desire to escape, making the parent-child relationship tense.
Seriously, some radical actions will be made, so that parents can not regret it.
A 17-year-old boy in Shanghai reprimanded him about the incident because he had a conflict with his classmates at school, and his mother reprimanded him on the way home by car.
The mother and son quarreled, and the boy got out of the car and jumped off the bridge to death.
A third-year boy in Wuhan, because he was playing cards with his classmates at school, his mother was called to the school, scolded him in the class corridor in front of his classmates, and slapped him, causing the boy to eventually jump to his death.
As the saying goes: "A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June."
Inappropriate words are like guns and bullets, and the sentences hurt people; and warm words make people feel like a spring breeze.
Parents who can control their mouths can win the trust of their children and make them willing to approach you.
The tone and temperature of parents' speech affect the height and pattern of children's growth.
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Stabilize your emotions
Parents' emotions will directly affect the child's personality development.
Emotionally stable parents, cultivated children calm and calm, confident and sunny;
Parents with changeable emotions, the children raised are either timid, cowardly, sensitive and inferior, or they are violent and stubborn.
Therefore, on the road of children's growth, for the sake of their children's physical and mental health, parents should learn to stabilize their emotions, manage and control their emotions well.
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Stabilize your mindset
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EDIT: Xiao Huang