As a parent, educating your children is an overriding priority. In the new era, as parents have deeply rooted in the hearts of the people's hearts for the concept of "hoping for children to become dragons and women to become phoenixes", the inner volume is becoming more and more serious. The same is true of the author. In order to alleviate the pressure of educating our children, my wife and I constantly look for ways and ideas, constantly ask and learn from excellent parents, and constantly look for books and read books. Recently, I saw a book on "how to speak the language of parents well so that children can better accept it", and I want to share it with everyone while learning on my own and make progress together.
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Speak more affirmative language to make the child feel that he can do it.
What kind of person the child becomes, the attitude of our parents has a great influence. We care about children very much, afraid that children will make mistakes, worried that children can't control themselves, worried that children don't have courage, worried that children will fall in love early, worried that children will become addicted to the Internet, and then what do we do? Supervise the child all the time, put all kinds of pressure on the child all the time, and the result? It's easy for our children to develop towards results we don't want to see. Originally would not have fallen in love early, parents will really fall in love early; originally do not often go online, parents say, they will run to the Internet café every day.
I believe that some of the above negative stories have been encountered and seen by everyone, but they do not know how to deal with them. In ancient times, there were three migrations of Mengmu, which shows that the impact of the environment on children is very large. If a child as a whole is in a negative environment, and there are always people who say that they can't do this or that, then it is difficult for children who grow up in such an environment to have confidence in themselves.
Children's self-evaluation is deeply influenced by their parents.
Therefore, parents should believe in their children and let their children understand that "parents are very assured of you".
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If your child is to succeed, you must cultivate your child's self-confidence.
Self-confidence is a necessary condition for a person to succeed, if a person is very confident in talking, doing things is also very confident, over time it is easy to become an excellent person; on the contrary, a person who is often inferior, often misses many opportunities, dare not try, and the reason for the ultimate failure may be not confident.
Every child living in this world is unique and should not lose self-confidence.
Confident people are more beautiful, and confident people are smarter. There are several ways to develop self-confidence:
1. Don't have an inferiority complex. No matter what kind of looks, how many grades, whether the family conditions are superior, these are not reasons for inferiority, only if you look up to yourself, you can get the respect of others.
2. Keep your head up and chest up when walking. There is nothing we can not be confident about, and in addition to giving people a feeling of confidence, they can also bring ourselves the internal motivation to be confident.
3. Always be smiling. Smiling can make people feel confident and it is easier to get more friends.
4. Speak loudly. This is the most direct expression of self-confidence, don't be afraid to say it correctly, just try to say it, you are the best.
5. Communicate with people more. Develop the habit of communicating more, and slowly you will find yourself more confident. In the exchange, we should pay attention to "not being humble and not being arrogant, being bold and powerful".
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Believe in yourself and don't be afraid of what people say.
Each of us will care about what others say about us, and we all want to hear good words, and it is difficult to accept words of good and bad or criticism, which may affect our enthusiasm for doing things and our affirmation of ourselves. For children, this is especially true, and the ridicule or praise of others will affect the child's next performance.
But what I want to say to the child is that you are the best child, the person who knows you best is yourself, whether others praise you or criticize you, it has little to do with you. "Jordan," the NBA basketball god, once said, "When someone makes fun of me on the court or doubts me, that's what motivates me to play at an extra level." "The reason why some players can become superstars is because when they are doubted and criticized by others, they are not discouraged, they do not deny themselves, but turn these unfavorable factors into their own motivation for success.
Children, we must turn other people's uncertainty about themselves into the motivation for their continuous efforts.