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Sometimes I really miss the time when we were young, when our parents were the pillars of society, when there were quarrels in the family, but everyone must not think of parting ways, and even if there were more contradictions between parents at that time, children did not have to worry that they did not have a complete family.
Divorce in those days was simply bizarre, and only a very small number of people ended up divorcing, either getting rid of it altogether, or going into another quagmire.
A few years ago, a reality TV variety show entered the public's attention and quickly attracted everyone's attention, which is "Metamorphosis" with the background of exchanging lives.
However, later for various reasons, this variety show was discontinued.
Are there any kids on this show who are really getting help? Yes, but there are few, there is a boy in Guizhou who, after seeing the wider world, returns to the village to study hard, and finally walks out of the mountains and into the big city with excellent results.
But most of the children who were exchanged, life did not develop in a more positive direction, the children in the city became Internet celebrities, and then changed the trajectory of life, the nature did not change, and the children in the countryside, urban life is more like a dream, the end is really over, this experience brings them not to forge ahead, more is helpless, is the pain.
The rebellious girl, 22, has been divorced three times
There is a rebellious girl named Han Anran in the show, who is very popular.
She is grumpy, eccentric, and seems to be deeply involved in adolescence, but in fact has nothing to do with adolescence, and there are certain problems with her personality itself.
She was born in Nanjing, the family is well-off, but when she was a child, her parents divorced, she lived with her mother, and later her mother remarried.
Mom has always loved her very much, always feels indebted to her, so will give her more unconditional love, probably love house and U bar, stepfather is also very good to her.
Family changes, parental doting, these have become the key factors that determine the direction of this girl's personality.
Han Anran has a violent personality, loses his temper at the slightest displeasure, treats his mother badly, and throws things at his mother at every turn to vent his dissatisfaction.
She was obsessed with plastic surgery as a teenager, her personality was extreme, her emotions were extreme, and she couldn't get along with her family.
In this case, her parents helped her sign up, hoping that through the program, she would experience the hardships of life, which would help her character development.
At the end of the show, she did change, from the beginning of the difficulty of integration, to the end of the poor children in these mountains.
She even took out her prosthesis, saying she would never have a facelift again.
But the good times were not long, after the show began, she received a lot of attention, from an ordinary rebellious girl directly promoted to an Internet celebrity, after which she began to do live broadcasting.
She re-had a facelift, more than in the past, and was almost obsessed with plastic surgery.
She said she had to save more because she needed to put hyaluronic acid into her face every day.
After the show, at the age of 16, she opened up her relationship, and her boyfriend was a small actor named Ma Wenchao, and then it was the sweet time of high-profile show love.
The good times are not long, how sweet it is when they fall in love, how much dog blood they have when they are separated, the two people have fought three hundred times on the Internet, Marvin Chao exposed the ugly photos of Han Anran's plastic surgery repair period, Han Anran exposed Ma Wenchao's scandal, Marvin Chao's star was destroyed, and Han Anran harvested traffic.
In the following year, 18-year-old Han Anran met Mr. Piglet, an Internet celebrity who also did live broadcasting, and after the two people were together, they did not make a fuss, until Han Anran became pregnant unmarried and gave birth live, which can be described as earning all the eyeballs.
The pain of giving birth to a child is not mentioned, the ten-level labor pain is not something that ordinary people can endure, and as a result, these two young people live birth for traffic, girlfriend difficult delivery, boyfriend in front of the camera do not forget to remind netizens to tip.
People are stunned, and they can't help but sigh: this is a young man who has lost his faith.
After giving birth to the baby, the two people quickly received the license, and after a period of physical cultivation, they made up a wedding, invited most of the Internet celebrity circle, and the battle was quite grand.
Even at such a sacred moment of marriage, the two people are not idle, live streaming with goods, selling wine when toasting, selling tea when toasting, and selling happy sugar when eating happy sugar.
Even children have become the assist of traffic, bringing great popularity to live broadcasting.
What makes the middle-aged and elderly people unacceptable is that two people make up for the wedding for a week, and the marriage is in a hurry.
It was followed by a lot of noise until the divorce in December.
After the divorce, because of having children, they were reunited for a period of time, and finally ended up separated.
After this, the two people had almost no transition period and quickly held hands with others, Han Anran and Ma Zexin, who had known each other for 10 days, got married.
Divorced after 2 months, the reason for the divorce was that Han Anran was unfaithful to the marriage and was in contact with her ex-boyfriend again.
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Some netizens said: She got married when I was studying, she divorced when we were still studying, and she remarried after we graduated.
Watching this girl squander her youth and life so much, it is really painful, she could have enjoyed life very well, but she was restless, she has been tossing and turning, and she does not know what she wants.
Why did this girl become such a person?
In the face of such a rebellious person from the bone, the most headache is of course not netizens, but her parents.
Han Anran's mother was already powerless against this daughter, couldn't afford to mess with it, and kept worrying.
Han Anran's stepfather only cried, feeling that the child had failed to live up to his intentions, of course, he couldn't control it, and all he got from this daughter was the sentence "You roll me."
At this time, the helplessness of being a parent seems to be the fault of the daughter.
A girl who has become such a person without a sense of faith, who has a childlike attitude towards marriage, seems to be self-inflicted, and she destroys not only the happiness of the whole family, but also her own life.
In fact, the way she became was directly related to her upbringing and her mother's approach to education.
Family changes, what kind of inner torture the child has endured, I am afraid that only this child can understand it.
The mother also pays attention to the changes and pain of the child, and instead of taking the right way to guide, she redoubles her doting and tries to make up for the spiritual damage suffered by her daughter with substances.
Indulgence and coddling are not compensation for children, but lay the groundwork for children's bad character.
For children, true love and freedom must be based on certain constraints, and unconstrained love will eventually destroy the child's belief and destroy the child's life.
I hope that viewers can take this as a lesson, grasp the direction of educating children, and do not push children into the abyss.
I also hope that the authorities can get lost and return, 22 years old, is the beginning of a beautiful life, everything is still too late.