Parents naturally want to give their children a perfect life, but there is a gap between reality and imagination, and the starting point of children born in some families is the end point that many ordinary family children cannot reach in their lives.
The gap between rich and poor is something we cannot avoid, after all, most people are just ordinary people, engaged in ordinary work, and can only give children what they can do within their own capabilities.
I remember a video I watched before, in the video, a mother rode an electric car to the school gate to pick up her child from school, after receiving her own child, the child asked such a sentence after sitting in the car: "Mom, why do the parents of other classmates drive a car to pick me up, but you ride an electric car to pick me up?" The child's question made the parents who were preparing to ride home instantly break through the defenses, and for a while they did not know how to answer.
After a short silence, the mother shifted the subject on the pretext of taking her children to the snack street to eat delicious food.
But since then, this problem has always become a thorn in the mother's heart, she began to understand that the child is growing up day by day, one day will meet these things, she has been changing the topic is not the way, you must start to gradually cultivate the child's correct values.
"Why do everyone else drive a car, but Mom, you ride an electric car?" How to answer this kind of question so that it does not affect the child?
In some TV dramas, there is often such a plot, that is, the parents who are simply dressed rush to see their children at school, but they are not welcomed by the children.
When we see such a plot, we tend to feel very angry and think that such a child is not filial piety.
But we did not expect that one day, after we become fathers and mothers, we will encounter the same problem.
Let the child feel the gap with other classmates
Children may not feel much about the gap between rich and poor when they are young, but as children grow up, children will gradually feel the gap between themselves and other classmates, especially some rural children are in rural school when they are young, and they have no concept of these things.
However, after slowly growing up, following his parents to the city to study, he obviously felt the gap between himself and other classmates, and felt that he was incompatible with other classmates.
In such a situation, the child will gradually form an inferiority complex, and may even complain about the parents.
Classmates compete with each other
During school, it is very common for classmates to compete with each other. Girls will compete with each other for beautiful new clothes and cosmetics, and boys will compare brand shoes or game levels with each other.
In such an environment, many children will be affected by this, and they will also begin to ask their parents to buy themselves all kinds of expensive items, for fear of being ridiculed by other classmates because they do not have these things.
In this regard, what parents should do is to cultivate their children's correct values and let their children use the mind of comparison to learn.
The "crying poverty" of parents has become the source of children's inferiority complex
Now many parents are afraid that their children will develop the habit of spending money and spending lavishly, so they begin to "cry poor" to their children, telling their children how difficult it is to make money at home and how difficult it is to earn money.
Under such an educational concept, it does cultivate the habit of thrift and thrift, but at the same time, it also makes children form an inferiority complex, feeling that a family like themselves is not worthy of enjoying good things.
In the long run, this will only lead to two results, one is to let the child's thrift and thrift develop into miserliness, and the other is to let the child have the financial ability to retaliate after the consumption.
How to cultivate a correct view of money in children?
A professor of education once said: "The gap in education is more important than the gap in money", as a parent, if you want to make your child a talent, you do not need a well-off family.
The family conditions of many cold children are not good, but under the education of their parents, they have still become excellent talents. So as parents, how should we cultivate our children's view of money?
Answer the family situation truthfully and do not hide anything from the child
Just as the so-called "children are not ugly mothers, dogs are not poor", when the children are young, they actually do not attach importance to the rich and poor situation of the family, but the parents are more concerned about their own inability to give their children good living conditions.
As parents, what we should do is to tell the truth when the child asks about the family conditions, let the child understand the specific situation of the family, tell the child what kind of life the family gives him, there is no need to hide from the child, blindly crying poor, but will make the child form an inferiority complex.
Enriching a child's spiritual life is more important than a material life
This is the best of times, and there are many ways in which knowledge can be acquired. What parents should do is to enrich their children's spiritual life as much as possible, so that children have a higher level of pursuit, rather than staying on their shoes and clothes compared with their classmates.
In this regard, parents can cultivate children's interests and hobbies, such as buying more books for children to read, books are the best teachers, a good book can teach children a lot of things, but also can improve the child's ideological level. It is also possible for children to learn an instrument and cultivate their appreciation of art.
The correct view of money is that one should create one's own, rather than blindly taking it
Lin Zexu, a famous minister of the late Qing Dynasty, once said such a thought-provoking sentence: "If the descendants are like me, what will they do with the money?" Wise and rich, wealth is lost; the children and grandchildren are not as good as me, what do you do with the money? Foolishness and wealth increase their excesses. ”
This sentence vividly shows Lin Zexu's wisdom in the education of his children, and ability is more important than wealth.
The correct view of money is not desireless and undesirable, it is wanted, and it should be fought for by one's own efforts, rather than from others. Parents should tell their children that if they want to change the status quo, they should work their own.
epilogue
Each of us cannot choose whether we are born rich or poor, but we can change our destiny through our own efforts.
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