If you have a school-age child (or more than one), there is a high probability that you will be like me, often facing the child's various "problem behaviors". Like what:
When I got home, I sat down, as if I didn't have a bone;
There is not much homework at all, but it cannot be written from the afternoon to the evening;
Play games without distraction, and be distracted when studying;
Throwing a tantrum at every turn, sesame big things also have to cry...
Before I really couldn't figure it out, how the soft and cute little one, how as soon as I went to school, I began to renovate all kinds of demons, the old problems were not changed, new problems emerged in an endless stream, I was like the big male mother in Doraemon's dream, the anger burned more and more, almost to become a "walking volcano".
Fortunately, there are experts like Guangguang Teacher to help, and his new book "Follow Guangguang Teacher, Solve the Godson Problem" has recently become my "quick check manual", solving a lot of puzzles and extinguishing a lot of "fire".
For example, "children are easy to be distracted" this matter, Guangguang Teacher's book is analyzed like this:
Children's concentration is like a lantern, focusing on all the objects around them; adult concentration is like a flashlight, focusing on the single thing in front of them.
Why is that? Because people have to grow up to 14 years old, the prefrontal lobe of the brain controls "implicit attention" to fully mature. For children, whenever there is a new stimulus in the environment, they will notice it immediately, which is particularly easy to be distracted.
Does that mean that as long as the child's room is empty and absolutely quiet, the child will concentrate?
No.
GuangGuang teacher: "If the environmental stimulation is too low, some children may fall asleep. ”
It turns out that children are divided into sensitive and retarded types, and in different environments, their reactions are not the same. Take a look at the illustration:
Therefore, whether the environment is simple or complex should be arranged according to the characteristics of the child.
In addition to the environmental arrangement, Guangguang teacher also supported three tricks, parents can use to help children improve "distraction":
Let the child listen to a variety of sounds;
Bring your child to play strategy games such as backgammon, chess, and Go;
Let your child drink more water, drink less, and eat less sweets.
As for why, Guangguang Teacher has an explanation in the book, and I will not repeat it here.
Finally, GuangGuang also told us that "distraction" is not only harmful, it also has two important functions related to safety and health -
Seeing this, the old mother couldn't help but breathe a big sigh of relief. It seems that Guangguang Teacher not only supports children, but also relieves anxiety.
In this book, Guangguang teacher analyzes a total of 40 of the most common and typical parenting problems, no matter what aspects of children encounter difficulties in learning, self-care, concentration, emotions, and social interaction, Guangguang teacher will analyze them in detail, distinguish the situation, and then give practical coping strategies.
This book is like Doraemon's treasure bag, which can conjure up all kinds of magical props for parents to really help their children, rather than hoarsely telling a bunch of useless truths.
Why does a tutor always have Doraemon (even the cover is painted with bamboo dragonflies)? In fact, this is the "good intention" of Guangguang Teacher. The animated characters familiar to parents after the 80s have become guests in this book, allowing parents to change their perspectives and moods, and they can better understand and calmly face their children's behavior.
Now I am much calmer, as long as the bear child makes a moth, I will take a deep breath, leave the scene, and take out this "quick search book"... I can't believe I can't fix him! After a few days of testing, Guangguang teacher's method really works, whether the grade can be improved for the time being, at least our parent-child relationship has eased a lot.
If your baby is still young, or in the two-child and three-child plan, recommend a copy of "Guangguang Teacher Concentration Consultation Room" and supporting parent-child interactive game cards to cultivate concentration from an early age and do more with less.
Finally, let's briefly introduce The Light Teacher.
Guangguang teacher, real name Liao Shengguang
Child development experts with more than 20 years of "practical experience",
He is currently the CEO of "Chiwei Concentration Education Center" in Taiwan.
"I evaluated more than five thousand children and accompanied them to overcome the difficulties they encountered in their development... More and more, I feel that I am not being a "coach" in the development of my child, but a "bridge" between my child and my parents.
When it comes to evaluation and treatment, the time I spend the most is not training children, but helping parents understand their children's traits and ideas.
I deeply believe that everything starts with understanding children, when parents correctly perceive children's feelings and understand the reasons behind behavior, they will naturally be able to provide appropriate guidance, in order to truly resolve the conflict! ”