Parents are the best teachers for children, but do parents know how to educate their children?
The child is too inferior, how to build his confidence?
Children are bored with school, how to follow the good temptation?
The reverse psychology is too strong, how to adjust the parent-child relationship?
The only child, how to teach him to be open-minded...
People's Daily recommended the "36 Psychological Strategies for Family Education" to parents, which is extremely practical and forwarded to all parents. The content is shown in the following figure, and scrolling can be viewed in full text. There is a verbatim draft below, which is convenient for parents to read carefully!
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Play the weak meter
Let the child be a "little adult" for a time
Children's sense of responsibility should be cultivated from an early age, if you always show a fearless appearance in front of your children, your children will think that parents do not need to care.
Therefore, parents may wish to pretend to be weak once in a while to ask their children for help, and you will be surprised to find that the child has become a sensible "little adult", and you can also get a lot from the child's help.
Reinforcement meter
Let the child change from inferiority to self-confidence
The law of reinforcement tells us:
When a person's behavior yields satisfactory results, this behavior is repeated.
Therefore, when the child is recognized, his self-confidence will be stimulated, and he will continue to repeat satisfactory behaviors until he gets rid of his inferiority and becomes a good child who is confident and self-motivated.
Induction meter
Help your child get over the mire of school boredom
Almost every child is more or less bored with school.
Understandable but not laissez-faire, which can hinder children's enthusiasm for learning.
However, forced learning is not a good idea, which will only deepen the child's resentment.
The smart way to do this is to induce a child's interest in learning and let the child learn spontaneously and spontaneously.
Cold gauge
Give your child a little self-control
Now most of them are only children, and they are cared for by their families, but this will make children develop wayward habits and lay huge hidden dangers for his future life.
It is recommended that children try cold treatment when they are willful, which will make them automatically restrain their temper because they do not pay attention.
Frustrated
Give your child the opportunity to experience failure
"Adversity can produce talent, and children who grow up through setbacks and thousands of hammers are more competitive for survival."
In order to enhance the child's endurance, parents may wish to consciously create some moderate frustration education for their children, which is of great benefit to enhancing the child's psychological endurance.
Let go of the meter
Do your own thing
Don't do everything well for your child, parents should try to let go of their hands and let them do it on their own.
The first time you may not do it well, but you will do it quickly and well later.
Don't be a parent, let go of the hand to create opportunities and platforms for children to do things, children can have self-reliance, parents will have less trouble.
Connivance meter
Let the child develop their potential in the "naughty"
Some parents complain that their children are "too naughty" and "sabotage", in fact, such children are often very smart, inquisitive, curious, and more determined.
Therefore, smart parents should try to "indulge" their children's naughty and "destructive" behavior, and take the opportunity to tap their potential and cultivate interests, maybe your child is another "Edison".
Penalty meter
Let your child face up to the mistake
Educating children should be rewarded and punished, and rewards should be given for doing well, but they must not be tolerated when they do wrong.
Even if it is only a small mistake, it is necessary to carry out a moderate punishment, so that the child can face up to his mistake and correct it in time, so as not to fall deeper and deeper in the mistake.
Refrigeration meter
"Pour cold water" on your conceited child
Conceit refers to over-evaluation of self-esteem and no one in sight, which is extremely detrimental to the growth of children.
Therefore, once the signs of conceit are found, parents should use the means of "refrigeration" to pour some cold water at the right time to let the children learn to evaluate rationally and correctly understand themselves.
Inclusion meter
Let the child feel the unconditional love of the parents
Children may not be smart enough, and there may be many shortcomings, but as a parent, you must not be prejudiced against your children, humiliate or dislike your children.
Be tolerant and confident in your children.
Sample gauge
Parents should be good teachers for their children
Parents are children's role models, children are parents' mirrors, and parents' words and deeds will affect children.
Therefore, parents should be strict with themselves, set an example for their children with their correct words and deeds in everything they do, and guide their children to grow up healthily.
Encourage the meter
Give your child the strength to keep improving
It is easy for children to lose confidence in themselves and easily give up their efforts because of difficulties.
Therefore, parents should constantly encourage their children, give them the courage to move forward and the confidence to win, so that they can correct their shortcomings and continue to make progress with their parents' expectations.
Listen meter
Carefully understand how your child feels
Every child has his own voice, and parents must listen patiently to truly understand his thoughts and feelings, and to deal with their physical and psychological problems and changes in a timely manner.
On this basis, we can carry out good parent-child communication and establish a harmonious parent-child relationship.
Reward for good
Let the child progress in the praise
Teach children that rewards are more effective than punishments.
Reward more, use punishment appropriately.
Replacing negative shortcomings with affirmative strengths can avoid harm to children and make better progress.
Dial gauge
Subtly prompt children to consciously go the right way
Parents who nag and preach and do everything for their children are the children's least favorite.
Smart parents will only help their children solve problems when they encounter problems or behavioral errors.
In this way, the child understands the truth, and the parents have achieved the purpose of education.
Virtual meter
Let the child have the feeling of "I am great"
"With the feeling of genius, you become a genius; with the feeling of a hero, you become a hero.
When a child finds the feeling of a good child, he will become a good child. ”
Use virtual means to create a "I am great" self-feeling for the child, and he will gradually "stick" up.
Overcounting
Let the child learn more from the mistakes
Children inevitably have some mistakes and mistakes. Some are unintentional, some are intentional.
If the nature of the child's mistake is not very serious, then the parents may wish to give tolerance and forgiveness.
In this way, the child will not only correct the mistake more seriously in the guilt and self-blame, but also make the child form a good tolerant attitude.
Admonition
Let children recognize mistakes and reform themselves
Children are children, there will be a variety of problems and mistakes, some mistakes can be tolerated, and some mistakes can not be tolerated, we must make reasonable and effective criticism of the child to ensure that similar mistakes are not made again.
Even the most lenient parents cannot afford to leave this kind of reasonable discipline missing.
Edification meter
Give your child a good impact in life
The family is the first classroom of children, and the impact of family education is far-reaching and huge.
Therefore, if parents can cultivate their children's healthy interests and hobbies through storytelling and other ways in family life, and cultivate their children's interests and conduct, they can let their children grow up healthier.
Diversion meter
Let the child change from confrontation to cooperation
The success of Dayu Zhishui lies in "loosening" rather than "blocking", and parents can also get inspiration from it.
Being too authoritarian in educating children will only cause children to rebel and "do the opposite" with you, but if you adopt a wise and open counseling strategy, your children will be willing to cooperate happily with you.
ZunZi ji
Get your child closer to their parents
The reason for the conflict between parents and children is often because parents do not respect their children enough, so that they are afraid and dissatisfied, and they are separated from each other.
Try to respect your children, and you will surely become the most popular parents.
Peer count
Achieve good communication with your child
The premise of good communication with the child is equality and being his good friend.
Only then will he be willing to speak to you from the heart, and parents can help them get rid of various problems in time.
If you always put on the shelf of parents and demand that children obey themselves despotically, then the door of parent-child communication will slowly close.
Offensive and defensive gauges
Give your child a "preventive shot" first
The best defense is offense.
In the education of children is also the case, instead of the child after the problem, and then to discipline, anger, it is better to play a "preventive shot" in advance, improve the child's "immunity", let them take fewer detours, make fewer mistakes.
Discipline and thrift
Help your child overcome arrogance
Now the children are all "little emperors" and "little princesses" in the family, and if they want the wind to get the wind and the rain to get the rain, they have developed the habit of arrogance.
Spending lavishly and not knowing how to cherish items is a habit that is extremely detrimental to the healthy growth of children.
Therefore, parents should teach their children to be diligent and thrifty, and help him develop the habit of frugality, which is the real love for him.
Companion planning
Teach good kids in participation
If parents can participate in their children's lives and take more time to accompany their children to do something, then it can not only enhance parent-child feelings, but also inspire children.
At the same time, you can also know more about children, which is very important for developing children's potential and cultivating talents.
Anti-micrometer
Don't let small problems become big problems
In life, children sometimes have some small problems, such as domineering, rude, lazy and so on.
At this time, we must pay attention to the fact that although the problem is small, it must also be strictly managed and prevented from gradually degenerating, otherwise small problems will become big problems.
Do not tolerate the child's small problems, strict management is also a manifestation of love.
Persuasion and planning
Let the child and the teacher tolerate each other
There will also be some friction and misunderstanding between teachers and students, at which time parents will assume the role of "peacemaker", help both sides eliminate contradictions and misunderstandings, understand each other, tolerate each other, let the child still respect the teacher, and the teacher continues to love the child.
Establish rules
Use reasonable rules to let children learn self-control
Children's self-control ability is poor, and parents' "don't do this" and "don't do that" preaching is easy to cause boredom.
At this time, parents can establish a set of effective behavior rules for their children, as the basis for children to judge their own behavior, so as to restrain their own behavior.
Load-off meter
Don't put too much pressure on your child
In life, more and more children with psychological disorders are being born.
Child psychologists point out that excessive pressure is an important cause of psychological problems in children, and reducing the burden on children has become a top priority.
In order to let the child grow up healthily, parents please do not put too much pressure on the child,
Excitator
Motivate children to love learning
Educate children to find the right way, when persuasion, preaching is not effective, parents may wish to try this trick - stimulation meter.
Use the child's competitiveness, rebelliousness and even jealousy to deliberately stimulate the child, so that they can change from not loving learning to active learning.
Acceptable
Let the child like and accept themselves
If the child cannot fully understand himself and see his strengths, there will be many problems.
Such as low self-esteem, jealousy, etc.
Therefore, parents should let their children see their own advantages and let their children like themselves, so that they can face life confidently.
Use patience
Gently correct your child's "out of line" behavior
Children often do some "out of line" behavior that parents cannot tolerate, and "stormy" education will only take children to extremes.
Therefore, parents can only "be impatient and patient", suppress the anger, and understand and tolerate children more.
On this basis, it can be guided, so as to lead to the right path.
Courage
Cultivate your child's personality to explore boldly
In life, it is often those who dare to explore and be bold and fearless to achieve outstanding achievements and achieve happiness.
Therefore, parents for the sake of their children's future, do not overprotect, do not overemphasize the cultivation of "obedient" children, but should give children more opportunities to exercise, encourage them to be brave children.
Penitential meter
Touch the child's heart with true feelings
Educating children cannot only be preaching, scolding, and persuading, but sometimes it must also be emotional, so as to shake the child's heart and achieve the best effect of education.
However, to impress the child must be sincere, otherwise the effect will be greatly reduced.
Equality
Raise open-minded children
Children are all "little suns", they are used to self-centered, but such a personality is extremely detrimental to interpersonal communication.
Therefore, in life, parents should pay attention not to give their children a special status, cultivate their spirit of sharing and cooperation, and gradually cultivate a child with an open mind.
Grind gauge
Develop your child's will and perseverance
Children face a competitive society, and many children lack the courage to overcome difficulties because their lives are too comfortable.
Therefore, smart parents should let their children undergo some hardships and hardships to cultivate their perseverance and perseverance, so that they can win in the future competition.
Educating children requires not only love, but also the right way of love, that is, method skills.
Parents are the child's first teacher and the child's teacher for life.
If this teacher does not have the way to raise the child, the level of parenting is low, even if he loves the child very much, he will not be able to truly achieve the child.
To raise children, it is necessary to "fight wits and courage" with children, because children are living people, and they have uniqueness, independence and development.
Children change every day, they grow every year, and there is no master key that can open everything about children.
Educating children is a career that requires the lifelong efforts of parents, and it is also the most important cause for parents in this life.
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