Don't compete with adolescent children, so that educational guidance will work!

Parents:

"When children are in trouble, how we comfort or think of ways doesn't work."

"What I want my child to do, he doesn't listen."

"The child is stubborn, admits to death, and can't listen to anything."

"I've said it a hundred times, so why doesn't he just listen?"

"Children have never bothered about learning, I don't know why, now I can't learn!"

"Mobile phone games are really a headache to kill us, just like our parents to do it, how good!"

When children are young, even if they are rebellious, parents seem to have a way to "clean up" them. Whether the method is soft or hard, children will always be able to stop easily anyway – whether it will be repeated quickly or not, another matter.

(Source: Baotu Network)

But as children move toward the threshold of puberty, everything seems to be different. In general, girls enter puberty around the age of 10 and boys around the age of 12. At this time, the parent-child relationship will often enter a new stage.

Don't think about how the child is disobedient, first calm down to find the reason from themselves, which is related to the long-term education method of parents.

Adolescent children, the sense of autonomy is enhanced, the sense of self-awareness and self-esteem is also stronger, he wants to be respected, understood, recognized, affirmed, he needs psychological support, emotional comfort. A democratic, egalitarian, tolerant family environment is needed to accommodate his upbringing.

Although they are not really mature, parents still treat them as adults.

The only thing we have to do is to maintain our adult status and respect the independence of our children. We allow the child to make his own demands and encourage him to have better wishes. We create a relaxed and positive environment for our children to grow up and make him 100% committed to his wishes.

How do parents cope with their children's adolescence?

Zhang Ping, director of Hangzhou Fudan Children's Hospital, believes that parents need to know more about the unique physical and mental characteristics of adolescent children and adopt appropriate educational methods, and children will successfully pass through this period.

01

Respect your child and encourage more

Parents should respect their children, do not always stare at their children's weaknesses, and do not compare their shortcomings with the strengths of other children. When in contact with children, parents should try to find the advantages of the child, comprehensively evaluate the child, strive to tap the child's "shining point", encourage more, and reduce the child's resistance to the parents.

Only when parents earnestly raise hopes so that children can see their potential and future, children will progress faster.

2

Empathize and find problems

Parents should think differently when educating their children. Parents also come from the rebellious period of adolescence, in the face of the puzzling behavior of children, may wish to think in a different position, think about why children do this. When you have resonance, you will understand the child and find out the crux of the problem.

03

Communicate equally to stabilize emotions

Parents should avoid starting from learning, communicate with their children equally, and parents should not always talk about academic achievements, which will make children feel pressure and doubt the motivation of parents to communicate. When communicating, parents can start from family affairs, stabilize their children's emotions, and then talk about serious things.

4

Self-control listens

Parents should also learn to stabilize their emotions and learn to listen. Parents with emotions to educate their children, is certainly irrational, will lead to children more and more resistance. Therefore, parents should not educate their children when they are impatient, upset, and not calm.

After calming down, with an equal attitude, listen to the voice of the child, take the initiative to communicate with the child as a friend, help guide the child to solve the troubles in growth, and accept and pay attention to the opinions and suggestions put forward by the children.

5

Mistakes are allowed to be made less constrained

At the right time, children can still be allowed to make mistakes. This stage is the key period for children to form an opinion, and small mistakes are inevitable, so parents should allow children to make a little mistake, eat some losses, and do not overly bind the child's hands and feet.

At the same time, parents are the best examples for children, children in the rebellious period have strong imitation ability, and parents' good words and deeds can give children a subtle influence.

Adolescent rebellion is a normal phenomenon in the process of adolescent development, as long as our parents can have a clear understanding of this, change their concepts, improve their own family education literacy, and adopt scientific education methods and methods, our children will be able to successfully pass this stage and move towards the road to success in life.

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