Although I have only watched more than ten episodes, the feelings brought to me by "Don't Fall in Love with the Boss" have already undergone three changes - at the beginning, I went to the laughter in the play; later, I was distressed by Li Chongwen's "surrender" and also moved by Lu Qian's protection; later, I was anxious about Qian Wei's death and death.
However, what touched me the most was the love of Qian Wei's parents.
When she first entered the dream, Qian Wei was very happy, because her father was still alive, she could have the opportunity to change all this, so when she heard that her father did not retire from his job, she was very angry, and she would pull the landing inquiry together to solve the problem of the factory.
It's just a pity, it's just a dream, everything still happened, and Daddy Qian still suffers from leukemia.
In order to get the "quasi-old man", Li Chongwen and Lu Qian each made a means, some people threw themselves into their favor to make the old man happy, and some people took special products to supplement nutrition for the old man.
It's just that this old man is really restless enough—
As a leukemia patient, the most feared thing is bleeding, but the old man does not care at all, and he cut the apple there with his back to the doctor and successfully cut his hand;
As a patient, the most important thing to do is to recuperate in the hospital and follow the doctor's instructions for treatment, but this old man, who did not stay in the hospital for two days, wanted to go home over the wall;
Because chemotherapy is about to be carried out, the hair and beard will fall out at that time, but even so, Qian's father is still worried about shaving, for this reason, there is no less tossing Money Wei...
If we only look at the surface, we may be annoyed by the old man of money and feel that this is a father, but if we know the cause and effect, and know that he is all for the money mother, our views may soon change.
In this process, Qian's father at least taught middle-aged people the three secrets of keeping love fresh -
Screenshot of the TV series "Just Don't Fall in Love with Your Boss"
Middle-aged people's love preservation, first of all, we must remember to always care for each other.
The reason why Qian's father cut the apple was not because he wanted to eat the apple himself, but because he cut it for Qian's mother.
"I cut an apple for her every afternoon", for Qian Dad, taking care of Qian's mother is not only a responsibility, but also a habit.
"Sick, this day must also be lived, my husband must also be ah."
When he heard Qian's father's words, he suddenly burst into tears - whether he was sick or not, he saw that it was very important, but compared with this, he cared more about whether he took good care of his wife, if he did not take good care of his wife, even if he lived in the hospital, he could not rest assured.
Many couples in reality, after spending a long time together, have forgotten what it was like when they were in love.
I once saw such a passage on the Internet -
"When I'm in love, every time I go out to eat shrimp, I peel it for her and watch her eat it."
"What about now?"
"Now don't talk about peeling shrimp for her, she doesn't peel shrimp for me, I feel very uncomfortable."
We admit that when couples get married, they are no longer as passionate as they were when they were young.
To paraphrase an online saying, when you fall in love, you are willing to do anything. After marriage, the former fish has lived in the fish tank, and naturally it will not be as attentive as it was at the beginning.
Whether this statement is appropriate or not, we leave it alone, but one thing is certain, that is, as a couple for many years, taking care of each other as their own habits, bringing each other some small surprises at any time, it still plays an important role in the preservation of love between two people.
Of course, such a habit must be a two-way street, if only one person has been working hard, sooner or later there will still be problems.
The love preservation of middle-aged people must not be without the necessary sense of ceremony.
The reason why Daddy Qian wanted to run out of the hospital was not for any other reason, but because it was their twentieth wedding anniversary, and he wanted to go home and celebrate with his wife.
Although Qian Wei desperately tried to dissuade him, Qian's father was not moved, and insisted on going over the wall to go out.
In the end, Lu Que thought of a compromise method, he took the computer to Qian's house, and the old couple spent this anniversary in the clouds, and Qian's father did not continue to toss.
After this anniversary, in fact, Qian's mother does not care too much, after all, Qian's father is now a patient, and it is the most important thing to rest assured, but Qian's father does not see it this way-
"Every year when it gets cold, your stomach is uncomfortable, I will give you yam porridge, and now I am not here, I am afraid that you will not eat well ..."
Seeing the old couple showing love there, I suddenly remembered a sentence, "Parents are true love, children are accidents." ”
Because of the vulgarity, for the "sense of ceremony" thing, I am not too cold, to paraphrase a friend, instead of buying a bouquet of roses on Valentine's Day, it is better to buy two pounds of ribs and two mouths to eat together, but also to satisfy our appetite.
Now it seems that although too much emphasis on the sense of ceremony of marriage is not a good thing, the necessary sense of ceremony is still indispensable, whether it is a red envelope on the wedding anniversary or a mutual greeting on the birthday, which can promote the feelings of both parties.
As for whether to buy roses or ribs, it depends on the specific situation.
Once he listened to a lecture, the teacher told us that if marriage is a contract, then the ceremony of the annual wedding anniversary is that two people reaffirm that the contract is still valid, and incidentally evokes the good memories of two people.
Middle-aged people's love preservation, to show each other their best side.
The reason why Qian Dad wants to shave is to leave a better impression on Qian Mom.
"Lately it's been too sloppy, the head is not washed, this beard is so long..." Because when Qian's mother went back, he waved goodbye to her, Qian's mother did not respond to him, and he immediately began to think wildly.
But before Qian Wei learned how to use the razor, the razor was taken away by the nurse, and Qian's father's beard was not shaved after all.
Such a money father is like those little boys who have just opened their hearts.
However, if you think about it carefully, Daddy Qian's idea is also very reasonable-
After marriage, especially after people reach middle age, husband and wife are quite familiar with each other, so most couples do not care about their own image at all, grinding their teeth and snoring in front of the other half, without considering each other's feelings.
Once washing hair every day, waiting until marriage, not washing hair for a week is a common thing; once gentle and elegant, after marriage, opening your mouth and closing your mouth is the classic "Three Character Classic".
After people reach middle age, our body shape will inevitably change, men will become big belly, women will grow spots and wrinkles, and when they first fell in love, they will naturally look at each other and get tired of it.
Therefore, some people have said that after many years of marriage, the more we are in front of our lovers, the more we must pay attention to our own image - men should exercise more, let their beer belly not appear so early, women should improve themselves, even if they can't change their appearance, they can also increase their connotations and show their intellectual side.
Because this is only Qian Wei's dream, the death of Qian's father is still unavoidable, but I think that being able to walk through this life hand in hand with Qian's father is Qian's greatest happiness.
Love is wonderful, but marriage is realistic.
Especially after people reach middle age, both sides have been polished by society and life, not so angular, love and hate are distinct, repeating the rule-abiding life all day long, repeating the stable and plain days.
At first, it was fine, but after a long time, the initial throbbing and affection were worn away, and this feeling naturally went wrong.
So some people say that love depends on hormones and dopamine, but marriage depends on two people running together.
If the marriage is well managed, not only will the two people get along happily, but it will become the biggest boost to each other's careers; but once the marriage is not well managed, not only will the life be uncomfortable, but it will also become a constraint on the work and career.
How middle-aged couples should keep their love fresh, just like there are no two identical leaves in the world, and there is no absolutely unified standard answer.
But I think that from the performance of Daddy Qian along the way, whether it is the love and understanding between husband and wife, or the reliving of the romantic years of the past, and even finding a better self, it is very important.
Of course, in addition to these, we also need to understand each other, achieve each other, and turn husband and wife into comrades-in-arms for future life, so that such feelings can be truly long-lasting.
It's just a pity that this matter is very easy to say, but it is not simple to do, because it requires testing the wisdom of both sides and the persistence of going down together.
After all, liking can be a one-person affair, but marriage is a two-person affair.
(Originality is not easy, if there is a reprint, please indicate the source.) ）