Does love require a sense of ceremony?

College students read at night

"Falling in love begins with receiving a bouquet of flowers and a formal confession."

I think what the girls really want is not the bouquet of flowers, but a blatant proof of loving and being loved.

A beautiful and sweet love should begin strictly and formally, carefully and gently, otherwise it will start indistinctly and is likely to end inexplicably.

1

Tao Shan thought she was lucky.

After the college entrance examination, the boy she liked confessed to her, bought her favorite roast milk on the wall of the ancient city where they had seen the night scene together, and gave her a handmade rose that never withered.

Tao Shan felt his "elaborate" arrangement when he said the phrase "I like you, can I be my girlfriend?" After that, she agreed.

The boy did not ambiguously with her, clearly confessed at the time he was allowed, and also sent the circle of friends to officially announce that they were together at the first time, which made Tao Shan think that the other party respected her and really put her in his heart.

After they have established a relationship, they watch movies together and eat the same bucket of popcorn like many ordinary couples; sit aimlessly in the bus together to watch the sunset afterglow; they will sit back-to-back together, he plays games, she chases dramas... The boy told her with practical actions that he liked her.

Tao Shan enjoyed such time together, and the memories created together were also very ritualistic things, and the simple daily things seemed to be given different meanings because of the existence of the other party.

It also makes every meeting worth looking forward to, because you care, I care.

2

They did not go to the same university, the boys went to other places, Tao Shan stayed in the province, and she was vaguely uneasy.

After all, the two are not together, they also have their own study and life, and there will always be one side that is ignored when they are busy.

This day is Tao Shan's birthday, she received a lot of family, friends and classmates blessings, until the bedroom turned off at night did not receive any indication from her boyfriend, Tao Shan accumulated a good mood for a day suddenly dissipated, sent him a question mark to put down the mobile phone, tossing and turning, can not sleep.

Another day she received the same question mark, and Tao Shan said angrily: "Yesterday was my birthday!" ”

The boy immediately apologized when he thought about it, explaining that the school's scientific research project had reached a critical period and had been really busy lately, hoping that she could understand.

"I don't want to hear you say I'm sorry, I understand you, but I don't want to understand." Tao Shan replied sadly.

She recalled their time together. Yes, he is indeed very busy, participating in the teacher's scientific research project, and holding several positions in the school, often she is talking to herself, and the messages sent are not responded to.

Before their hundred days of remembrance, Tao Shan had carefully prepared gifts to send over, and he just kept apologizing, he didn't remember at all, and he didn't know how sad it made her.

The sense of ceremony is active, a bland little thing in daily life, has nothing to do with money, does not need to be gorgeous, but needs to be careful. Without the necessary sense of ritual, some special moments in life will be easily missed, and over time they will be forgotten.

The boyfriend's indifference to these details made Tao Shan very hurt, she didn't know how to face the relationship, she wanted to back down.

3

Later, the boy seriously reflected on his behavior, and it was indeed his own bad. Flip through your previous chat history:

Today's canteen dishes are just my favorite food, happy!

The lectures of the teachers of our professional courses are so interesting, I want to listen carefully to the lectures!

worst! I was going to study for myself, but when I went to the classroom, I found that I forgot to bring books...

Today the weather here is very good, the mood is also very good, hee-hee~

……

Every day she was telling such a small thing, this is her life, and he only had a few words of "um" and "oh", and the boy was getting more and more remorseful. But he liked her, just hiding in the daily busyness, just forgetting to say it...

We all long to be surrounded by love, to desire each other's preferences and exceptions, but we can't just take it, we need the same response, the same giving. I see every detail of your heart and remember it in my heart; in the same way, your perfunctory and uncaring appearance is also hurting my heart with a knife.

In the end, the boy went to Tao Shan on a holiday and apologized to her seriously, and both of them talked openly for a long time. Tao Shan said: "The sense of ceremony is respect is to value is to feel safe, gifts I can buy myself, but I will still hope that you can send me, do not let me feel that there is no you is the same good?" ”

The boy hugged her and said firmly, "Good! ”

4

"The Little Prince" says: "The sense of ceremony is to make a certain day different from other days, to make a certain moment different from other times." "Without this little blessing, life is nothing more than a dry desert."

Love requires a sense of ceremony, just like wearing new clothes for the New Year, confessing love, and asking for marriage, it is a way of love that can be seen and touched, to remind us to love and be loved.

A bouquet of flowers on a dull day, a cup of milk tea, a good night, a hug... It all makes me want to remember the romance of a lifetime, which makes ordinary days come alive and we are tired. Your careful and carefully arranged rituals have given me a sense of security in being loved.

END

Author | Xiao Ziyi

Edit | Zhang Cangran

Audit | Wang Longlong

Review | Wang CenYu

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