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"Heart Residence" is a two-heroine drama, but this time the relationship between the two heroines is very unique. Generally speaking, the most conflicting relationship contradiction in the plot around the family is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but there is no mother-in-law in this drama, only sister-in-law.
However, in this drama, it is not exactly the relationship between the sister-in-law, but the relationship between the eldest sister-in-law and the younger daughter-in-law. According to common sense, the eldest sister-in-law is married before the sister-in-law gets married, and the basic intersection will not be too much, but the sister-in-law and the sister-in-law of the Gu family have broken common sense, so the delicate relationship and contradictions between them have also become a line throughout this drama.
Gu Qingyu is the eldest sister of the Gu family, and Feng Xiaoqin is the younger daughter-in-law, and the relationship between them has always been very delicate. In Feng Xiaoqin's words, their relationship is like a glass that is broken and then stuck together, looking at it without any traces, in fact, they dare not touch it, and when they touch it, they break it again.
The reason why their relationship is so delicate is ostensibly because both women belong to shrewd and very strong people, and Gu Lei's younger brother is to make them unrelated relatives and become the focus of their contradictions. The relationship between Gu Qingyu, Gu Lei and Feng Xiaoqin is described by sandwich biscuits, and Gu Lei is the sugar heart sandwiched in the middle.
The contradiction between Gu Qingyu and Feng Xiaoqin seems to be intolerable, and the personality is actually very much related to their respective life experiences and original families.
Many people hate Gu Qingyu, because this big sister manages too many things in her mother's house, and often points fingers and feet, guarding against her brothers and daughters-in-law everywhere, and the result is that as long as she returns to her mother's house, she will give birth to a lot of right and wrong. For such a big sister, it is not likeable.
However, if you look at Gu Qingyu's experience, you will understand her painstaking efforts to manage her mother's affairs from head to toe. Gu Qingyu and her brother are actually a pair of dragon and phoenix fetuses, just because her husband came out for a few minutes, they became sisters. Coupled with the early death of his mother, Gu Qingyu planted a very great sense of responsibility.
The mother held Gu Qingyu's hand at the time of death, and could not close her eyes for a long time, Gu Qingyu assured her mother that she could take good care of her brother, and her mother left with peace of mind. In fact, at that time, Gu Qingyu was generally old as his brother, but he took on the heavy responsibility of taking care of his brother.
From a psychological point of view, after the position of a family mother is missing, there will be a replacement, and the person who makes up for the position is not the old lady of the Gu family, but Gu Qingyu. It is said that children without umbrellas will run harder. Gu Qingyu is the one who lost his umbrella and made himself an umbrella, while his younger brother Gu Lei is still a child with an umbrella after his mother died.
Therefore, for a long time in the Gu family, the balance of family relations came from Gu Qingyu taking the place of the mother. But this balance was broken after his brother met Feng Xiaoqin and married him. Although Gu Qingyu bought a house and moved out after her brother got married, she has not quit for the sense of responsibility and care of the Gu family.
People are like this, staying in a role or position in the family for a long time, forgetting that they have other identities, and with the increase and change of family members, they forget that there is a moment of retreat. The reason why Gu Qingyu has always clung to the affairs of her mother's family is also because she has no sense of retreat, with the marriage of her brother, her care for her brother is to let go and retire, but unfortunately she does not.
It can be seen that although Gu Lei is only a few minutes younger than Gu Qingyu, it is like their birthday spanning a zero point, to a certain extent, Gu Lei, who lost his mother, still became a mother treasure man, thanks to his sister Gu Qingyu.
Gu Lei's personality is destined to fall in love with this girl after he meets Feng Xiaoqin, and he is very attached, in fact, to put it bluntly, this man can never grow up and become a man with a mature mind. When he looked for Feng Xiaoqin, he actually took over the role and position of his sister or mother.
In fact, Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Qingyu are a type of person, and they all have a family children ranking problem, that is, Feng Xiaoqin is also the eldest sister, and also shoulders the family responsibility of taking care of her sister and brother. In this way, there are two women with motherly roles in the Gu family, and the family relationship will of course be unbalanced and contradictory.
Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Qingyu are like two styles of mothers tearing Gu Lei, Feng Xiaoqin hates iron not steel, vows to transform her husband, so that their little days are out of the control of the gu family elderly of their sister, Gu Qingyu also hates iron is not steel, but used the opposite method that is to take care of all aspects.
Gu Lei is a person who has no opinion, because his idea is either his sister to make a decision or his wife to make a decision, and it is not Gu Lei's turn to have an idea.
In this world of the Gu family, Gu Qingyu's female protagonist authority was challenged by Feng Xiaoqin, who was married in, and the two people actually did not realize this problem, but launched a game around Gu Lei. The result is tragic, Gu Lei's unexpected death, so that both people are plunged into boundless pain and self-blame, but also let the two women have a more profound reflection and growth.
Watching this drama, I have been thinking that if Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Qingyu could understand and recognize the position problem in the family relationship earlier, if Gu Qingyu could retreat a little, not be defensive about Feng Xiaoqin everywhere, and let go of the affairs of his brother Gu Lei and the Gu family, perhaps it would not escalate the family contradictions; on the other hand, if Feng Xiaoqin could see the reasons for the relationship between this special family and was not eager to grasp too many things, perhaps Gu Lei would not have an accident.
By the way, Gu Lei's sense of balance is indeed not good, sending his son to school will fall down and break his fingers in a hurry, these details may be to pave the way for the accident that occurs later.
Whether it is Gu Qingyu or Feng Xiaoqin, although the water and fire are not tolerated, but there are also times of mutual appreciation, they all belong to very hard and independent women, fortunately, they are all growing, and they will also make changes for this, but the price of this growth is inevitably too big, after all, Gu Lei is their common closest relative, even if it is useless, it is also a person who loves them deeply.
Tomorrow and accidents, we never know which one arrives first, but for us in the family relationship, more understanding of each other's growth environment and life experience, a little more thinking about the relationship, there will be no irreconcilable contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, sister-in-law disputes.
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