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When Cancan was 23 years old, he liked a boy- Liu Wei, the kind he liked very much, and both of them belonged to the type that was not active enough. On Liu Wei's birthday (June 26), the two met in Liu Wei's city in a café with a relatively good environment. If they both appear, it means that they both like each other.
Cancan pinched his finger to count the days, how many days to meet, and bought himself a beautiful dress, bought Liu Wei a delicate gift. Finally, it was June 25, and Cancan's idea was, should I go to Liu Wei's city a day earlier? Because Liu Wei's city is far away, she ghostly called her girlfriend that day and wanted to seek her girlfriend's opinion.
After listening to the causes and consequences, the girlfriend immediately said her own opinion: "This Liu Wei he does not love you, if he loves you, why is he not going to your city to find you, but you go to find him?" Also, you are a girl's family, this is also too active, have not yet begun to fall in love, you are so active, after falling in love, that is not pinched by others to die?
Then he asked how the two of them met, analyzed that the acquaintance in the restaurant was unreliable, and said that Liu Wei was three years older than you, and his heart and eyes must be more than you, but don't be a liar? Don't be cheated by others for money and cheating, that's too much to lose. ”
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Cancan felt that the girlfriend said it was not right, and retorted with her, but how to refute, the girlfriend still said that it was a bit unreliable, and said that love is after contact, after understanding the character, it is not too late to talk about love. Say can can see a few faces, do you understand Liu Wei's character? What did his parents do, what did her sister do?
A series of questions, asked Cancan, did not know what, Cancan did not go the next day. Liu Wei waited in that café for a day, and he thought that Cancan did not come to see him, so he went home sadly. Because of their lack of self-confidence, the two missed it.
At that time, Liu Wei liked Cancan, he invited Cancan, on his birthday, the two met in his city, there was indeed no non-division of thoughts, and later felt that it was better to be in Cancan's city, so that you could drive yourself. Because he was afraid that Cancan would regret it again, he did not propose to change the date location.
Liu Wei liked Cancan at that time, and Cancan also liked Liu Wei, and it can't be said that the responsibility for the two people not coming together in the end was all resented to Cancan's girlfriend.
However, from this matter, Cancan began to think, do other people's opinions need to be listened to? Do you need to live exactly what others say?
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I think we need to have a general understanding of ourselves, there are many people who are influenced by the opinions of others, but they are just not confident enough, and their hearts are not firm enough. If we already have a judgment about ourselves and an opinion on a matter, then we can judge it more easily whether what others say is correct or not.
Listening or not, absorbing or not, we have our own brains to judge, this depends on ourselves.
Remember colleague Xiaomeng has an ideal is bungee jumping, she also asked her good friend's opinion, her good friend is afraid of heights, do not like too exciting sports, said not to support her to go bungee jumping, said that there are many people because of this accident, but also advised her, are you not short of money? That heard that it is very expensive, life is not every ideal to achieve ah, Barabala said a bunch of reasons not to recommend small dreams to jump.
Little dreams do not go, sorry for their dreams of bungee jumping, will feel that there are regrets in life.
Go ahead, and feel a little sorry for your friend, after all, your friend said so many bad things about bungee jumping.
04
Xiao Meng's girlfriend seems to be standing on the basis of making suggestions for Xiao Meng's good.
Xiao Meng finally realized that she had been wrong from the beginning, and she should not have told her friends about it.
Maybe they are right, but they just can't convince me, because I want the life, I know better than anyone.
Does someone else's opinion matter? Is it important enough that you have to listen? Ask yourself about your heart.
I don't like to talk to people now, because to talk to someone means to ask for advice, or to open up my sadness to others.
If you talk to someone else, it's as if whatever the person across from you says, you have to listen, in case she suppresses sexual intentions
See?
What you want to do, she answers according to her own experience, or she does not know the specific situation, and a series of suggestions are overwhelming.
05
Like a sentence: go your own way and let others say it!
If you don't have a backbone, you'll be confused and confused. Don't be disturbed by insignificant people's words, they may have forgotten what they said?
Not everyone is responsible for their own advice.
Some people's suggestions can be listened to, really good, just absorb well, some people's suggestions can not be listened to, just let it drift with the wind!
We take responsibility for our own lives and pay for our dreams.
We listen to other people's suggestions, absorb it or not, we say it ourselves, we make our own decisions!
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