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With the current people's thinking more and more advanced, perhaps before, most people in many families have several brothers and sisters, but now there are more and more only children, on the one hand, because a child really can't afford to support them, the cost is too large, on the other hand, it is very difficult to bring a child, if there is another one, it is simply too troublesome.
And now many young people, they are not willing to have children, they feel that they are still a child, if you want another child, what if two people can't take her well? Therefore, the state has put forward a three-child policy, hoping that couples can have more children, which is not only beneficial to the family, but also beneficial to this society.
But there is always a generation, they are only children, maybe their only little friends from childhood to adulthood are themselves, others have played with many people when they are young, only they have spent time with friends, they have not experienced the feelings of my brothers and sisters, so they can't understand how so many children in other people's homes feel.
It is Li Li who shares the story today.
Envy other people's homes
Li Li has been a person since she was a child, others have brothers and sisters, only she is a lonely girl, so she feels that she must marry a family with many brothers and sisters when she grows up. And when she was very young, her parents gave her to her grandmother, who took her parents out to earn money and created all the good conditions for her.
When she matured for a while, her parents came back to pick her up, and she felt that she was not very close to her parents, but she chose to live in an environment, she still chose to be with her parents. After the parents saw that their daughter lived with herself, she wanted to give her all the good things, as long as it was what she wanted, she would definitely be satisfied, and slowly Li Li's life became better and better, but she was still very lonely.
When Li Li went to college, everyone around her would talk about them and her sisters and sisters, only Li Li was alone, and she couldn't feel what was in it. Later, after Li Li graduated from college, she found a boyfriend, the other party and her relationship is very good, the two people get along well, but the family conditions are very general.
But even so, Li Li felt that it didn't matter, because there were many brothers and sisters in the other family, and she felt that she would definitely feel something different when she married in the future. It is also because of the lack of this relationship that she has lost the choice of her other half, and she may not know what kind of person the other party is, so she is with others.
Later, when Li Li brought her boyfriend home, her parents saw that the boys' families were so general, they didn't agree with each other, Li Li said: "From childhood to adulthood, no matter what kind of things happened to me, you didn't take care of me, why do you want to take care of me now?" Besides, there are many brothers and sisters in people's homes, so I don't think that people are bad people? If there are more children, the family conditions will certainly not be good, just like our family, just one child, surely you all want to pay, regardless of me. ”
In the face of his daughter's attitude, his parents did not know what to say, and could only let him get along, after all, one day, he would definitely know what kind of person was in the other person's family.
The man made unreasonable demands
After this time, the boy knew how important he was to Li Li, and he felt that since the other party trusted him so much, he could do something excessive, or use the feelings of the two people to get something.
On this day, Li Li was still at work, and her boyfriend called and said, "If you have time, go back and help me see my sister, my sister said that she came to me, he is going to college soon, and wants me to take her to buy something." ”
Li Li immediately said, "You said earlier, didn't you just buy something?" I have money at home, so you can go to work well, and I take my sister to buy things. I think if he just went to college, he must have a good mobile phone, so that I have everything settled, you don't have to worry, the two of us will get married in the future, your sister will definitely be my sister. ”
When the boy heard that Li Li had agreed so happily, he was naturally willing, after all, he did not need to spend money to meet his sister's purple eggplant requirements. Later, Li Li took her sister to buy a lot of things, and then sent him home, this is the first time Li Li went to the man's house, he heard her sister introduce herself today and said that he bought a lot of good things for himself, Li Li was a little embarrassed.
Finally, the boy often praised Lili, he said: "The last time you went to my house, my mother said you are fine, let me quickly propose to you, but you also know that this condition in my family will definitely not meet your requirements, the first time we went to your house, your parents' attitude also made me feel a little afraid, you said that I will visit your house again!" ”
Li Li said, "Oh, you don't need to care about this, my parents are like that." However, if you get married, I think it is better for you as a man to still have a house, after all, for two people, this is the future home, if you don't even have a house, it is equivalent to not even having a home. When the boy heard Li Li's words, his face changed suddenly, and he didn't speak anymore, because for him, he didn't expect Li Li to make such a request to her.
Listen to your parents and choose to break up
Later, the next day the boy told Li Li about the conditions in his home, and he said that he hoped that Li Li's family could pay for this house, this time Li Li felt that the other party was not very good, although they were still relatively rich in their home, but anyway? Boys also have to deal with parts of the family, and everything can't be the girl's family responsible.
Therefore, Li Li went home and told her parents about the boy's idea, and her mother also apologized to Li Li because she was more excited for the first time, she said to her daughter: "When you first took this boy home, we went to check it, although the conditions in her home are very general, but the ability to buy this house is still there, and if he really likes you, we are willing to provide this thing, but after our investigation, we think that this boy is with you for our family's money, so you still think about it carefully." When you were young, your parents went out to earn money and ignored your feelings, which is really embarrassing, and now that you see that you are facing marriage, let's still think about it! ”
Her mother's words made Li Li feel that she really should think deeply about whether the other party was the person she was looking for? After thinking about it for a long time, he took the boy to his house. As a result, after a discussion between the boy and his parents, the girl said: "In fact, for me, it does not matter whether there is a house or not. But I don't think you should let our family pay this money, after all, we are women, and you, as men, should provide this thing. ”
The boy listened to it for so long, anyway, he was unwilling to buy a house, the boy said: "You are an only child, and the family property in the future is mine, and now buying a house is just a point in advance." I don't know what you have to worry about every day. This sentence immediately made Li Li feel that the feelings of the two people did not exist at all, Li Li and the other party mentioned breaking up, and also drove the other party out, although the boy also came back to beg for forgiveness, but Li Li decided not to forgive him anymore.
Many times, in the face of our parents and parents will have a different attitude, may be for parents, they value the character, value the family, and we only look at this person feel that they like each other, they must be with each other, but in fact, parents consider the best, because for them, after their daughters, is there a stable place to live? Can I eat and drink enough every day? This is the most important thing to care about, as for the other person is good or not? This is second only to these problems.
So when you are in love, don't always dislike your parents to manage this and that, maybe for you, someone is in charge of it is also a kind of happiness, because of the control, you mean to care, so don't always feel that your parents manage too much, so that your feelings seem to be progressing not so smoothly, if your feelings do not go smoothly, it proves that the other party is not the right person for you.
In our marriage, most people want to find a real fit for themselves, two people can develop for a long time, however, all this is based on financial ability, if not even this, then you do not need to discuss feelings.
Today's topic, if you are Lili, what would you do?
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